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It’s been a hard week to be a woman.

There are many good men in my life. Men I love, respect and trust. But underneath all of that, there is a rage that simmers.

My own lived experience of sexual assault and domestic and family violence, alongside the stories I hear every day as a DV practitioner, means I see the pattern over and over again.

It’s not just the men who abuse and control.

It’s also the men who stand by.
The men who look away.
The men who hear the joke and say nothing.
The men who know what’s happening but decide it’s not their problem because it isn’t happening to them.

And then there are the men who make conversations about violence against women about themselves — who feel attacked on behalf of all men when women speak about what we experience.

News flash, fellas:

If you would shut down a disrespectful conversation about women.

If you would challenge your mate when he makes a degrading joke.

If you would step in when you see a woman being intimidated, threatened or humiliated.

If you would call out misogyny even when no women are in the room.

If you would believe women and listen without immediately making the conversation about how unfair it is to men.

Then this conversation is not an attack on you.

It is an invitation to be part of changing the culture that allows violence to continue.

Because the standard you walk past is the standard you accept.

And silence is not neutral.
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@jadeleerobertson What stays with me now isn’t only that I was forced to hug the person who had abused me.

It’s that my body was communicating the whole time.

I pulled away. I froze. I tried to hide.

The adults around me didn’t see a child whose body was saying no.

They saw attitude.

That’s the part I can’t unsee now when we talk about body autonomy. We can tell children, “Your body belongs to you,” but that lesson means very little if we then ask them to override their discomfort because an adult wants affection.

“Go give them a hug.”

“Don’t be rude.”

Suddenly the child becomes responsible for protecting the adult’s feelings.

The lesson underneath all our body-safety language becomes pretty fucking clear:

Your body belongs to you, until your boundary inconveniences somebody else.

That is not body autonomy.

A child should not have to explain their discomfort well enough for an adult to believe it before their no is respected. Sometimes the nervous system speaks before the words arrive.

This is part of what I mean when I talk about The Safe Adult. We don’t need to know exactly why a child doesn’t want physical contact before we honour it.

One line worth borrowing:

“You never have to hug or kiss someone to be polite.”

Then help them find another way to connect. Because the way we respond to a child’s no teaches them something about whether that no matters.

#bodyautonomy #childsafety #childprotection #traumainformedparenting #survivor

Thanks for wearing our tee @jadeleerobertson while making this important speech 🙌
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Welp! Plot twist. MUSE is back 🖤🤷🏽‍♀️

We thought we were closing this chapter, but apparently the story wasn’t finished yet.

This time we’re coming back with fresh eyes, a clearer vision and a much bigger focus on community, collaboration and creating a space where creatives can actually grow.

MUSE 2.0 is for the big idea people looking for somewhere to build.
Over the next few weeks you’ll see the space evolving and plenty of exciting announcements!

For now, our doors are open and bookings are available from WEDNESDAY - SUNDAY.

DM us to learn more! 

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