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Self-Compassion Pioneer
Teacher • Researcher • Author
Founder & President: Self-Compassion Institute
New Book: Mindful Self-Compassion for Burnout

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Together we donated OVER 100,000 MEALS to the @ctxfoodbank, we turned a day of inner and outer BEAUTY into a day of GIVING BACK!

Thank you @heb, @uber @ubereats, and over 300 women who came together at our first @womenoftoday Beauty Summit to learn, connect, and redefine what beauty really means.
 Because when we learn to better care for ourselves, we pass that knowledge on to our daughters, friends, families, and communities!
 From powerful conversations about self-compassion with @neffselfcompassion, skincare with @galariadermatology, makeup with @laurenandersen, hair with @lulyjames_, and lymphatic health with @brazilianbeautybarla, to laughing and crying with poet @georgie_jonez and a heartfelt conversation with MaMac about what we pass down through generations. ❤️
 A HUGE thank you to our incredible partners for bringing it all to life! @heb and @beautybyheb with the Beauty Bites Market and Scrub Bar, @ubereats @uber for treating everyone to dinner! Now also providing the women drivers feature and beauty products delivery! @ninjakitchen with the Glow On Ice slushie bar, @paulmitchell with the Hair Help Desk, and @drinkolipop for keeping us refreshed!
 Plus @andreaburroughs_ doing guests color analysis, and @themakeupdoctor sharing her expertise together with other makeup artists at The Makeup Help Desk.
 @minteventdesign @josponddesigns @womenoftoday TEAM!
 Beauty goes beyond how we look. It’s how we care for ourselves, each other, and the world around us.
 Take care of yourself. Learn more Do better
Pass it on! ❤️

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Sometimes it's compassion that keeps us going, not beating ourselves up over every small mistake. 🤍
Send this to someone who needs to hear it today. 💌

Now, the science 🧠:

Self-esteem is a fair-weather friend. It shows up when you're winning, and ghosts you the moment someone overtakes you on the trail. (Including the khachhar. 🫠)

Self-compassion stays when you're slow, tired or behind. Psychologist Kristin Neff found it keeps your self-worth steadier than self-esteem does. In a mock job interview, it even predicted who stayed calm. Self-esteem didn't.

Plot twist: Neff herself once worried it would make her "lazy and selfish." 😅
It doesn't. Research shows it motivates you far more than self-criticism.

👇 Be honest. Which myth did you believe: lazy, weak, or selfish?
P.S. The fruit break was medically necessary. Source: me. 🍉

📚 Inspired by @neffselfcompassion's work, Greater Good Magazine

#compassion #growth #motivation #kedarnath #introvert

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Sometimes, the shift isn’t about making the pain disappear. It’s about changing how we show up for ourselves while we’re in it.

From being lost in our pain and suffering to becoming the person who holds space for us through it. 🤍

We may not always have control over what happens to us, but we can learn to meet ourselves with more compassion, patience, and understanding.

Healing begins when we stop abandoning ourselves in the moments we need ourselves the most.

www.noregretssummit.com
Join the conversation here 👆

#NoRegretsSummit #SelfCompassion #PersonalGrowth #HealingJourney

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If you changed your outfit three times today, avoided the mirror, or stood in the back of the photo again, I see you 💜

Maybe you skipped the pool party. Maybe you said “I’ll start Monday” for the hundredth time. Maybe you looked at an old picture and thought, I wish I looked like that now, and then remembered you hated your body back then too.

That voice in your head is exhausting. And it didn’t come out of nowhere.

So many of us grew up watching the Victoria’s Secret Fashion Show like it was the Super Bowl.

One body type, a pair of wings, and “Train Like an Angel” workouts telling us how to get there.

The show got canceled in 2019 after years of criticism for its lack of diversity and unrealistic beauty standards.

When it came back, the 2025 show opened with a model nine months pregnant and had Olympic athletes on the runway.

The research backs up what so many of us felt.

A huge analysis of 77 studies found that seeing ultra-thin bodies in media made women more dissatisfied with their own.

Add social media to that and we’re seeing these images all day long 😮‍💨

So please hear this: that voice learned those standards. You can unlearn them.

Researcher @neffselfcompassion found that women who practiced self-compassion had less body shame and more body appreciation.

And if loving your body feels too far away, start with respecting it.

Your body is one part of who you are.

Try this today:

🤍 Hand on your heart, slow breath, and say, “This is really hard right now.”
🤍 Ask, “What would I tell my best friend?” Then say it to you.
🤍 Thank your body for one thing it did today.
🤍 Unfollow accounts that make you feel worse.

If it’s affecting how you eat, move, or live, please reach out to a therapist. You deserve support 💜

How to support someone who’s struggling is in the comments 👇

#phoenixtherapist #mentalhealthawareness #bodypositivity #therapistsofinstagram

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“A Happy, Healthy Mom is a compassionate and much-needed guide for the realities of modern motherhood. Grounded in science and real-life experience, it helps mothers restore their energy, health, and emotional balance without judgment or self-blame. Rather than asking moms to do more, this book offers practical, realistic ways to feel supported and well—so they can truly thrive, not just get through the day.”
—Kristin Neff, PhD, author of Self-Compassion and Fierce Self-Compassion

That last part, without judgment or self-blame, is the heart of what we set out to do. So many books for moms quietly add to the pile of things you should be doing better. This one starts from a different place: you’re not behind, you’re depleted, and you deserve real support.

A Happy, Healthy Mom is now available wherever books are sold (including Audible!)

#AHappyHealthyMom #KristinNeff #SelfCompassion #MaternalMentalHealth #MomBurnout #NewBookAlert #ComingAugust25

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WoT community, YOU ALL ARE AMAZING. We are still smiling after this past weekend’s first ever Beauty Summit! What an incredible day spent full of community, beauty and connection! We can’t wait to share more from the day. Thank you to @heb and @ubereats.

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Sunday’s Beauty Event by @camilamcconaughey @womenoftoday was more than I expected. We laughed, we cried, we ate delicious food, and we learned about beauty, both on the outside and, most importantly, within.🧘🏻‍♀️💖

My biggest takeaway? Self-compassion over self-esteem by @neffselfcompassion

A little more kindness toward myself is the beauty practice I’m taking home. 🤍🙏🦋

Thank you @womenoftoday , for bringing us together to ….learn more, do better, and pass it on.🦋

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When was the last time you made a mistake and actually treated yourself with kindness?

I’ve been reading Dr. Kristin Neff‘s work on self-compassion, and it’s made me pay closer attention to how I speak to myself.

Especially in those little moments.

When I lose my patience.
When something doesn’t go as planned.
When I feel like I should be doing more.

It’s so easy to turn a difficult moment into another reason to criticise ourselves.

But what if we responded with the same understanding we’d offer someone we love?

Self-compassion isn’t about avoiding responsibility or pretending everything is fine.

It’s about recognising that we’re human, that difficult feelings are part of life, and that we can support ourselves while we learn.

I’m practising asking myself one question:

What would kindness look like in this moment?

Sometimes it’s rest. Sometimes it’s an apology. Sometimes it’s simply allowing myself to try again.

Save this for a day when you’re being particularly hard on yourself.

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Being kind to yourself can make a real difference to your well-being.

Psychologist Kristin Neff’s research on self-compassion suggests that people who naturally have higher levels of self-compassion are more likely to pick themselves up after failure.

If you’re not sure where to start, remember that self-compassion has three parts:

- Mindfulness — “I’m struggling right now”
- Common humanity — “It’s normal to struggle and I’m not alone.”
- Self-kindness — “How can I support myself through this struggle?”

The next time you find yourself falling short of your goals, practice a little self-compassion. It’s an effective way to deal with failure and to meet your goals — plus self-compassion can make you happier in the process.

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@neffselfcompassion is a freaking badass.

i ♥️ self-compassion. even though it’s soooo fucking hard to do sometimes. but hey, we can also have compassion for the fact that it’s hard lol.

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if you’re looking for therapy in arkansas or colorado, head to the link in my bio and reach out today. :)

www.margaret-davis.com
#selfcompassion #kristinneff #therapistinarkansas #therapistincolorado #mentalhealth

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Did you know nurturing yourself with kindness is a non-negotiable skill to cultivating a self compassionate mindset? Research shows that consistently practicing acts of kindness and devoting effort to this relational change leaves the human mind, body and spirit empowered; and better able to process difficult emotions when they arise.

(Thanks for the research Dr. Neff).
@neffselfcompassion

“Anything is possible even if uniquely done”

How did you give back to yourself today?

#selfcompassionpractice #lifegoals #coaching #mentalhealthawareness #mindsetshifts

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✨ Self-Compassion for Shame: Practical Skills for Emotional Wellbeing

Join Christopher Germer and Carolina Bautista-Velez for a day of exploring how self-compassion can help loosen the grip of shame.

📅 Sunday, November 8
🕙 10am–4pm PT
📍 On-Land & Online

Learn more and register through the link in bio.

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