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Hoco with @khloebeecher !!

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Homecoming 26 with @everettcasper32 !!🪩🩵⭐️

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4th of July 2026!! 🇺🇸 🎆💪

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Our first annual “Koay Hatch” FAMILY trip to
San Diego…
WITHOUT their father and MY husband.
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Worst of all without their BROTHER and my first born CHILD.
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The hardest part of grief
is learning that life
doesn’t wait for your heart
to catch up.
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HOWEVER my children still deserve
to laugh, to PLAY & to create core family memories.
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Some moments even felt almost normal.
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While others reminded us all over again,
EXACTLY who was MISSING.
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Grief is strange.
Your heart can break,
even, while still remaining grateful
for the moments you’re living RIGHT NOW.
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We didn’t go on vacation because
we are all “okay.”
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We went because
the seven children still here
deserve a childhood, and to create MEMORIES.
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Love did NOT end here.
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It simply changed the way
we carry it.
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Some days we have hope,
and some days we are forced to BORROW IT.
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#stay #keepgping #heal #love

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At 42 years old, I can still hear my father’s voice.
I can still sit across from him.
I can still ask him questions, and on Fathers Day my Father is still here.
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And yet my children, some of them still very young, no longer have theirs.
There is something about that reality that I cannot make peace with.
Not today.
Maybe someday.
But not today.
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Because Father’s Day is supposed to be for children who still get to have their dad.
Instead, I am watching my children learn how to live without theirs.
I am watching them grow farther away from the sound of his voice.
Farther away from the memories.
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Farther away from the life they were supposed to have.
And the unfairness of it all is impossible to ignore.
I still have a father.
My children lost theirs before they were grown.
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My children do not simply know that their father died.
They know he was not taken by disease.
They know he was not taken by old age.
They know he was not taken by an accident.
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In the way children understand difficult things, they know their father had something to do with his own death.
And they live with the possibility that he chose to leave.
That reality follows them into every birthday, every milestone, and every Father’s Day.
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My youngest four children will spend most of their lives trying to remember a father they barely got the chance to know.
Because children are supposed to have decades with their dad.
Not a handful of years.
Not memories that fade before adulthood.
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They were supposed to have more time.
Years of hearing his voice from another room.
Years of waking up and running to hug their dad.
Years of simply knowing Dad was home.
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And every one of my children was robbed of those years.
More conversations.
More guidance.
More Father’s Days.
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I am 42 years old and I still have a dad.
My children deserved that chance too.
And no amount of acceptance, understanding, or healing will ever convince me otherwise.
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#stay #dontgo #grief #loss

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The thrill of it.
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#boymom #brothers #nofear #thrillseeker #fall

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We lost my husband of 22 years when he took his own life, then just 3 short months later we lost my oldest son as he followed his father by taking his own life. My family has been dismantled, if you think for a second that you are saving someone from PAIN by taking your own life we are here to tell you that you are WRONG. We now sit with our own personally originated PAIN as humans complied with the pain of a husband, father, son, and brother. Their leaving early did NOT make anything easier for any of us.
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#stay #grief #heal #loveyourself

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OakTown is 15 today. Happy Birthday Son I LOVE YOU SO FREAKING MUCH. Thank You for being a stellar human!!!
#happybirthday #boymomlife

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To know what it feels like after someone you love takes their own L*Fe, is a feeling I would never wish even upon my own enemy. Bright my boy I miss you more than I ever thought a human was capable of missing someone, it’s all I can do to stay here myself without YOU. I choose to stay and try my best to BRIGHTN THE WORLD, even without you. Me, your sister and 6 brothers will try our best to pay if forward and spread awareness of the pain s*i*i*e leaves behind. It does not END the pain it just passes it on.
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@paige.reesor.art you are an earth angel that has done such a service to our family all while living in your own real life tragedy and heartbreak. I thank God that our paths were placed in the most perfect way to know each other in this real time journey of navigating loss together.
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#stay #gonetoosoon #dontquit #loss grief

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If you thought those you love would be better off without you, you are wrong.
#stay #heal #gonetoosoon

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This is what I woke up to this morning. 😭💔🙏🏼🤍
To lose my husband at his own hand and then my son the same way just 3 months later is a kind of pain I can’t even describe. Immense PAIN. And to look my children in the eye everyday and feel the questions and sorrow from their souls is excruciating. We are left to feel satisfied by rainbows. Sometimes if works and sometimes we double bird the sky. Today we will take the hello from our guys and hope they give us a nod again soon.
To my one daughter and SIX sons beside me here physically you are so freaking amazing and bad ass I am such a lucky mom to call you all my children I love you all so so so so much thank you for being such inspiration to all.🙏🏼🤍
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#stay #grief #loveyourself #myboy #loss #gonetoosoon #messangers2025

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It started to rain just as we began to light the lanterns to celebrate what would have been your 45th birthday.
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Of course it had to rain the second we pulled out the lighters, because nothing with you ever went as planned. You were chaos and calm, laughter and lightning, turning chaos into laughter, and storms into stories we’d never forget.
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Somehow you had this way of turning every weird or messy moment into something we’d never forget.
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As the raindrops fell on the flames, it felt like YOU unpredictable, wild, and somehow perfect.
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You should be here.
You should be laughing, making jokes, and teasing the kids. Instead, we sent our love up into a dark sky, hoping it found you wherever you are now.
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There’s an ache that words can’t reach a silence that follows every laugh, every song, every sunset. We love you endlessly, and we miss you more than one would think possible.
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You left behind eight incredible kids who carry your spirit and your legacy, they constantly stop me in my tracks as they make something boring turn into a grand “big fish” story awakening the awe and wonder of the imagination. Your magic, your humor, and fire lives on in everything they do. They’re pieces of you still shining here.
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Our forever 44, forever ours,
forever the man who made every storm mean something. We love you Koay Alvin. We pray angels are real and hope that somehow you’re still with us because that’s all we have to hold onto now, as nothing seems like a knowing now that everything we thought we knew was shattered, we cling to HOPE and EVERLASTING LOVE.
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#HappyHeavenlyBirthday #Forever44 #LoveNeverDies #GriefAndGrace #SendLight #ForHim #SuicideAwareness #GoneTooSoon #messagers2025

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