Instagram story viewer> @rasvihar> Tagged
POSTS STORIES REELS TAGGED
When my mother and grandmother described their wedding days, they recalled the bride entering the phera in simple Kota doria, minimal jewellery, and hair still damp from a fresh wash. There was a raw honesty in that simplicity that I was really drawn to.

I also find the patriarchy baked into most wedding customs quite nauseating. If it were up to me, we would have headed to the court and been done in twenty minutes. But since a wedding was happening, I decided to channel my energy into the things I actually value - the craft, the ethics, and the stories.
Every piece was a conscious choice. My outfit, designed by @studio_medium and @nainajainkolkata , wasn't a "bridal" look by general standards. I told @jainriddhi that my outfit had to be vegan, versatile, and wearable. They worked their magic and made me something that I absolutely love wearing even today. (My mom and I could not have survived the wedding if not for @njain1964 and Riddhi, truly friends like family ❤️)

As is customary, the bangles (similar to a chooda,) are a gift from the maternal side - traditionally ivory or plastic. A sign of a married woman so of course I was going to rebel and wanted something that doesn't scream 'married'. At @rasvihar we made these bangles in silver with red and white enamel so that I would actually wear it. 

My nephew Kabir was not the most thrilled to share his time  with Gaurav but he was so cutely part of everything, from plucking petals to presenting gifts and also taking photos on his toy camera! (He did a better job than our actual photographer)

I spent most of the ceremony feeling restless (and I wasn't afraid to show it) about rituals that lacked relevance. But looking at these photos now, I realise the best part is that three years in, @whoisgaurav continues to work with my idealism and rebellion. It takes a special kind of patience and for that, I’m grateful ❤️.
11
I've always been more interested in the 'story' than the spectacle. I'm not someone who enjoys being fussed over or likes the attention. So, for my Baana Bithai, I decided to step away from the typical wedding fuss and move back into the intimacy of my home. This ritual felt most authentic to me when it was just people close to me. Having my cousins and friends get me ready in my own room was far more enjoyable than any professional setup could have been.

A bridal trousseau, or aana, is customary in our weddings—a collection of gifts passed down to daughters. My own aana is a bit of a patchwork of history, including elements from both my mother’s and grandmother’s and great grandmother’s collections. The heart of it was my great-grandmother’s 100-year-old pink Banarasi odhani, which was patiently restored by @intach_heritage INTACH Lucknow. Seeing it hang there as the backdrop for my ceremony still feels surreal.

Every other element followed that same thread—from my mom’s aunt’s wedding odhani embroidered in real silver transferred into a sari, to the handmade treasures I’ve framed, like the beadwork ludo and the patchwork khunkhos my grandmother made for her own wedding. Feels like I’m well on my way to building my own museum of family treasures! :) 

Even my jewellery was designed with this same sense of longevity. I’ve always preferred pieces that can be worn with ease over things that sit in a locker, so I designed this @rasvihar long chain for its simple, classic look. It’s made with gold and Swarovski pearls, intended to be lived in and worn for a long time to come. ✨
22
@rasvihar’s gold earrings amd necklace caught up my eye and looked perfect with my chosen saree from @sarangithestore. Make sure you visit their ongoing exhibit at the Naina Jain Store today.
www.sarangithestore.com
11
back to up