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Rachael Rogers | Certified Parent & Integrative Trauma Coach

@theconsideratemomma

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🤎 The mom you want to be is 𝙘𝙡𝙤𝙨𝙚𝙧 than you think — and she starts here! 🤎 C.A.L.M. parenting, nervous system regulation & perimenopause support. ⬇️

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When perimenopause brain meets parenting teenagers… and you thought you were a well-trained hostage negotiator.

#MomOfTeens #ParentingTeens #RaisingTeenagers #Perimenopause #PerimenopauseHumor MomHumor

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Recognizing and naming an emotion is a lifelong skill. Kids are surprisingly good at it with the right space to practice! @theconsideratemomma has all of the things you need to set up your own 🧘 #realisticmomlife #motherhoodintheraw #emotionalregulation #3yearolds #momvlog

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Proverbs 3:5-6
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God is good ALL THE TIME! In every season- good, bad, or in between- I will trust in the Lord with all my heart. I am so blessed to have such a beautiful church family.
I LOVE my team!! Worshiping Jesus with my best friends is my favorite!!
Jesus is always saving a seat for you at His table. You are so loved and so graciously forgiven.

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You love your kids more than anything. You also can’t remember the last time you had a single minute to yourself.

Somehow, even just wanting that makes you feel like you should be doing better.

You’re not failing. You’re depleted.

The mental load never stops. Someone always needs something. And by the time everyone is taken care of there’s nothing left for you, and the guilt of even wanting something for yourself is exhausting.

I see you. I’ve been there and I know the feeling all too well. I want you to know you don’t have to keep carrying this alone.

If the depletion is showing up as snapping and reacting more than you want to, I created a free audio called Feel Less Reactive specifically for this. It’s waiting for you in my bio. 🤎

#overwhelmedmom #momguilt #workingmom #fyp #instagood

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It is incredibly tempting to mistake silence and immediate compliance for effective parenting.

When a child stops what they are doing the second we walk in, drops their head, and does exactly what they are told, it can feel like we have successfully established our authority. But if that compliance is driven by panic, we haven’t built respect at all. We have just built a threat.

The honest, uncomfortable truth is that we are terrifying to be around when we lead with explosive anger or rigid control.

When a child obeys out of fear, they aren’t learning how to make good choices or internalize values. They are running a silent, desperate risk assessment, trying to figure out how to navigate our volatility without getting hit by the storm.

True authority doesn’t require a child to shrink just to keep the peace. It is built on internal stillness and composure, not on how loud we can shout or how hard we can crack down.

When we do the heavy work of keeping our own composure — correcting their behavior without withdrawing our warmth or damaging their dignity — the atmosphere of the house completely shifts. They stop looking for ways to simply survive our reactions, and they start trusting our guidance.

They learn what real security feels like, because they live in a predictable climate where honesty and boundaries are safe, and where they never have to walk on eggshells just to protect themselves from us. ❤️

Image Quote Credit: @theconsideratemomma ❣️

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Hard truth: your child is continuing to display undesirable behaviour because you are probably viewing discipline as punishment and not teaching.

Discipline literally means "to teach."

And children learn best through play. Especially role-play.

1. Assign roles - here I took on the role of my daughter and she took on the role of me

2. Define context - explain to them that it's "just pretend" and give them a headstart on what to do and say. Pick a scenario where they normally display big feelings

3. Question or push a boundary

4. Express big emotions (don't be afraid here 😅)

5. Model emotional regulation tools (they may need guidance so feel free to switch between roles here)

After the role play, you might reflect in a really simple way:

“What helped me the most?”
“What felt tricky?”
“What should we try next time?”

This helps them integrate the experience, not just act it out.

Let me know if you try this out!

Behaviour chart: @theconsideratemomma

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Type “link” for my activity e-book for angry children.

This is a great way to interact with your children and find fun ways to address their angry behaviors.

There are 24 activities that will help
Your child long term control their anger.

🚨 created for kids 5 and older
🚨fun activities to engage your child to finding what works and doesn’t work
🚨great way to engage with your child and help them regulate. https://stan.store/Kourtneynewton #parents #anger #mentalhealthawareness #teachers

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The power of word choice! #communication #mentalhealth #parents #teachers #powerofwords

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Every child’s behavior is communication.
When you slow down, observe, and respond with calm — everything changes.

Whether it’s tantrums, whining, power struggles, morning chaos, or bedtime battles…
Your child isn’t trying to give you a hard time — they’re having a hard time.

This page teaches you how to stay calm, understand emotions, and connect better with your child.
If you want a more peaceful home, you’re in the right place.
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#parentingtips#calmingkids#gentleparenting#parentingadvice#toddlermom#toddlertips#peacefulparenting#positiveparenting#emotionalkids#kidsbehavior#raisingkids
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It can be hard to know what resources are online are trustworthy, and these are just a few of my favorite developmentally informed accounts on here. I deeply admire all of them and I know you will find their content life-giving!

💛 Want to go deeper?
If you’re ready to help your child feel safe, seen, and secure, grab my Sacred Co-Regulation guide; it walks you through the neuroscience and gospel behind co-regulation in practical, grace-filled steps. Comment SACRED and I’ll DM you the link 🕊️

🌿 Need help staying grounded yourself?
The Rooted & Regulated guide will teach you how to calm your own nervous system so you can parent from peace, not pressure. Comment ROOTED and I’ll send it straight to your inbox 🤍

✝️ Want ongoing support + videos from me?
Join the Soul Care Circle, a monthly space where faith, psychology, and gentle parenting come together. You’ll get exclusive video lessons, tools, and encouragement each month. Comment CIRCLE and I’ll send you the link to join today ✨

#gentleparenting #christianparenting #faithbasedparenting #nervoussystemregulation #traumainformedparenting #coregulation #healingjourney #christiantherapist #gospelcenteredparenting #christianmom #emotionallyhealthyparenting #biblicalparenting #rootedandregulated #soulcareforfamilies #innerhealing #christianmentalhealth #christianwomen #calmparenting

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I love you. I love you. I loveeeeee youuuuuu!

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