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Jen Bunting DAHhyp | Creator Of The CalmTalk Method

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I’ve spent a lot of my career asking questions about behaviour.

Not simply how do we stop this? or how do we get a child to do that? but why is this happening in the first place?

Because sometimes we can spend weeks, months, even years trying different strategies for the thing we can see. We manage the outbursts, negotiate around the need for control, try to reduce the arguing or find another way through the refusal.

And sometimes those strategies absolutely help.

But sometimes we need to get curious about whether we’re working on the right thing.

What’s sitting underneath the behaviour?

That’s always been a big part of the way I work with families. CalmTalk simply gives me another tool to go deeper with some of those things, and the early changes I’m seeing in the families I’m working with are fascinating.

With September around the corner, there will be parents already wondering what the return to school, routines and expectations might bring. Particularly if you’ve spent much of the summer managing things that feel harder than they used to.

You don’t necessarily have to wait and see.

Have a read through the post. If you find yourself thinking “This sounds like my child”, send me a message.

We can start with a conversation.

#ParentingSupport #ParentingCoach #PositiveParenting #ChildBehaviour #ChildAnxiety

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Not everyone finds the idea of adding an “ours baby” to a blended family easy.

Two of the biggest worries I hear from my stepmum clients are:

1. The impact of a high-conflict co-parenting situation — and whether having an ours baby could create even more drama.

2. The impact a stepchild’s behaviour may have on an ours baby.

These worries are far more common than people realise.

Some possible solutions include:

1. Having honest conversations with your partner about your concerns and how you’ll handle challenges together as a team, brainstorming different solutions for potential problems so your mind is at peace.

2. Putting plans in place to protect the emotional and physical wellbeing of younger children if a stepchild struggles with aggression or anger as an example.

3. The stepmum working on her own emotional regulation and focusing on creating a calm and safe home rather than adding to drama.

4. Making sure the stepkids have enough 1:1 time with their dad so they don’t act out because they feel left out.

5. Researching into methods to help the stepchildren with their feelings and emotions. Three accounts I like are @doctorshefali @dr.vanessalapointe and @thehighlysensitivechild

Have you ever felt this way? Share away below ⬇️

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In today’s Live, I spoke with @thehighlysensitivechild Jen about why weekly therapy sessions can’t substitute the parent–child relationship.

This isn’t a criticism of therapy, and about understanding how change actually happens.

As practitioners, we might see a child for an hour a week.

Parents are living the relationship every single day.

They are the nervous system regulators.

They are the ones whose language shapes identity.

They are the ones children look to in moments of frustration, shame, anxiety, anger.

So if we’re supporting a child but not equipping the parent, progress will always be limited.

What we talked about today is the importance of inclusion.

When parents understand what’s happening underneath behaviours

When they’re given practical tools to respond differently

When they learn how to regulate themselves first

The shifts are often quicker and more sustainable than working with the child in isolation.

If you’re a coach, therapist, educator or anyone supporting children and you want to deepen your practice, this is exactly what Jen teaches inside the Calm Talk Method training.

It’s a practical framework that helps you:
✅Include parents with clarity and confidence
✅Work with belief formation, not just behaviour
✅Create change that lasts beyond the session

The Calm Talk Method training takes place next week.

If you’d like to join us, use code NAT200 at checkout for £200 off the full investment.

And if you have any questions, reach out to Jen directly or visit www.calmtalkmethod.com

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Sometimes regulation of emotions isn’t enough.

In today’s conversation with Jen @thehighlysensitivechild ,

we explored why regulation strategies don’t always work, and what may actually be sitting underneath the behaviour your client is presenting with.

Because when shame or identity-level beliefs are driving the emotion, coping tools alone won’t create lasting shift.

Jen also shared more about her upcoming training, The CalmTalk Method,

A neuroscience-led approach that supports parents to calm big emotions not by managing behaviour, but by addressing the subconscious beliefs that drive it.

If you work with children and want to understand this layer more deeply, this training is worth exploring!

Doors close 8th March and training begins Monday 9th March.
Use code Nat200 to secure £200 off.

If you have any questions, feel free to get in touch.

https://www.calmtalkmethod.com/

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Calling all teachers, therapists and coaches working with children.

Join Jen @thehighlysensitivechild and I on Tuesday as we explore the shame that often sits beneath big emotions.

Shame sounds like,
➡️ “Something is wrong with me.”

And when that belief is present, regulation tools don’t always work.

Some children even escalate, not because the strategy is wrong, but because they feel unseen at the level of meaning.

You cannot regulate shame away.
It has to be understood and responded to at the belief level.

We’ll be discussing how well-meaning adults can unintentionally reinforce shame, and what needs to shift before regulation is even possible.

Save the date!

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Before you label; pause. Specially when working with globally mobile children, we must clearly distinguish between:

Temperament (high sensitivity – see Elaine Aron)

Mobility impact (the Third Culture Kids experience described by Ruth Van Reken & David C. Pollock)

Accumulated trauma (as shown in TCK research TCK Training)

Too often we hear:

“This child is too sensitive.”

But strategic clinical thinking requires better questions.

What has this child experienced?

How many losses were processed?

What support system exists?

Is this biology, adaptation, or trauma?

A Highly Sensitive TCK is not fragile, they are neurologically receptive and environmentally overloaded.

And overload without containment has a higher risk of becoming pathology.

Our task is not to reduce sensitivity, but to o increase safety, processing, and support instead.

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I loved my conversation with @thehighlysensitivechild Jen today.

We explored something I see time and time again in my work with children ⬇️
😟they don’t just feel emotions, they make meaning about them.

It’s one thing to notice a child is anxious, angry or overwhelmed.

It’s another to understand the identity-level story they attach to it.

“If I feel anxious, something must be wrong with me.”

That’s where shame creeps in, and it’s often what drives the anxiety, the avoidance, the anger, the shutdown.

Emotional literacy matters and naming feelings is important.

But for some children, it isn’t enough.

Because if we only label the emotion and don’t address the meaning underneath it, we can accidentally keep them stuck in it.

Jen’s CalmTalk Method speaks directly to this deeper layer, helping children shift the story they’re telling themselves about their emotions, not just the emotion itself.

Catch up on the replay and if you want to learn about CalmTalk training, contact @thehighlysensitivechild ❤️

💻 Training: www.thecalmtalkmethod.com

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🌟Calling all teachers, therapists, coaches and anyone working with children.🌟

Join Jen @thehighlysensitivechild and I, live on Tuesday as we explore what can often sit beneath children’s emotions - and why naming feelings alone isn’t always enough.

Children don’t just feel emotions.
They interpret them and attach meaning to their anxiety, their anger, their overwhelm.

And often, they begin to judge themselves for having those feelings in the first place.

It’s frequently shame, not the emotion itself, that quietly drives the anxiety, the avoidance, the emotional outbursts or the withdrawal we see in classrooms, therapy rooms and at home.

If you’ve ever felt that emotional literacy strategies aren’t quite shifting things in the way you’d hoped, this conversation will offer a deeper layer of understanding.

We’ll be discussing what sits beneath behaviour, and how to better recognise the identity-level meaning children can attach to their emotional experiences.

📆 Save the date and join us live on Tuesday at 1pm 🕐

Will you be joining?

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Join Jen from @thehighlysensitivechild & I as we deep dive into emotions.

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Catch up on today’s conversation where Jen @thehighlysensitivechild and I shared the impact the CalmTalk method has had for the families we’ve worked with.

We spoke about the deeper layer underneath children’s behaviour - the subconscious beliefs they form about themselves

And how working at this level creates the biggest shifts in how children respond.

We’ll also shared case studies from our work with families - children who struggled with anger, shutdowns, anxiety, control or overwhelm…

And the changes we saw once we began working at the level of belief, not behaviour.

When a child’s belief shifts, their behaviour starts to make sense and it begins to soften.

Perfect for parents, teachers, coaches and anyone supporting children who wants a deeper understanding of this work.

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This ONE missing piece - the belief beneath the behaviour - has created the biggest shifts in the children I support.

It’s something I discovered almost two years ago,

And it changed the way I work and the shifts parents began to see at home.

In today’s Live with Jen @thehighlysensitivechild

We spoke about this layer that so many approaches overlook.

It’s not about the behaviour - the shouting, shutting down, the refusal etc,

It’s about what your child believes in that moment…

And the meaning they attach to your words, your tone, and the situation.

Children form these beliefs long before they can explain them.

And once I started paying attention to this deeper layer, things shifted

➡️ children were calmer
➡️ fewer power struggles,
➡️ parents who finally understood what was sitting underneath the reactions.

This has become a key part of my practice, and it’s made a real difference to the families I work with.

If this is something you want to explore further, as a coach, therapist or practitioner

Jen and I are back next Monday.

We’ll be talking through a couple of case studies

And showing the impact of the CalmTalk method when you work at the level of belief, not just behaviour.

Join us if you want a clearer understanding of what’s actually driving children’s emotional world

And what helps them feel safer from the inside out.

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Calling all coaches, teachers and anyone working with children ⬆️ This is for you

Join myself and @thehighlysensitivechild as we look beyond the scripts, charts, and parenting strategies,

And explore the real root of children’s behaviour - the subconscious beliefs they form about themselves.

These beliefs sit underneath the big emotions you see on the surface: the fear, the anxiety, the overwhelm, the control, the shutdowns.

And when we focus only on behaviour, we miss what’s actually driving it.

If you want to understand why your child reacts the way they do,

And what helps them feel safer and more secure from the inside out, this Live is for you.

It’s also ideal for teachers, coaches, and anyone working with children who wants to understand this at a deeper level.

Save the date for Thursday at 13:00!

Will you be joining us?

#sensitivechildren #parenthood_unveiled #bigemotions

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