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“The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts: therefore, guard accordingly, and take care that you entertain no notions unsuitable to virtue and reasonable nature.” 

-Marcus Aurelius 

Your thoughts ➡️ influence your feelings ➡️ dictate your behaviors. 

These are the basic tenets of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. 

In this world of Evolutionary Mismatch—ie., daily struggles we have not adapted biologically to overcome efficiently—it’s becoming more and more important to be mindful.

If you can become metacognitive—that is, become the observer of your own thoughts—you can begin to modify these thoughts. 

This is the observer effect in action (more on that later). In quantum mechanics, the very act of observing a thing changes the very nature of the thing you are observing (in this case—your thoughts!).

The thoughts you have create an electrical signal (think hormones & neurotransmitters) that contribute to the actions you ultimately choose to take.

We have so much power if we choose to live consciously.

At a time where everyone is filled with fear, often looking outward toward all the catastrophes that exist within the world, be the person that changes your INNER  world.

Change your thoughts, change your outcomes.

Change your outcomes; create ripples. Create ripples; change the outcomes on a more massive scale for the betterment of society.

Your thoughts ➡️ influence your feelings ➡️ dictate your behaviors ➡️ predict your outcomes ➡️ affect societal outcomes

#ecosystem 

#consciousness #observereffect #changeyourthoughts #changeyourreality #quantumphysics
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I’m exactly where I’m supposed to be and so are you 💜

Almost 4 weeks ago I left home (RI) on a day’s notice without a plan.

This former control freak, over planner, anxiety ridden, fear stricken, human “doing” that barely liked to leave her bedroom bounced tf out and has yet to go back 😆.

Could not have imagined what came next. 

After 20 cities and 6,000 miles (5,000 of which were on the road), I finally booked a flight back home.

Highly suggest venturing out of your comfort zone (literally and figuratively). You never know what’s around the next mile marker 🚏

Keep taking the journeys until you meet yourself. 💫

#fuckingaroundandfindingout
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𝑰𝒈𝒏𝒐𝒓𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒚𝒐𝒖𝒓 𝒊𝒏𝒏𝒆𝒓 𝒊𝒏𝒔𝒕𝒊𝒏𝒄𝒕𝒔 𝒄𝒂𝒏 𝒑𝒆𝒓𝒑𝒆𝒕𝒖𝒂𝒕𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒄𝒚𝒄𝒍𝒆 𝒐𝒇 𝒇𝒆𝒂𝒓 𝒂𝒏𝒅 𝒂𝒏𝒙𝒊𝒆𝒕𝒚!

We’re constantly hearing, “trust your gut”…but what if you dont know what it’s trying to tell you?

Or even worse…what if you do but its telling you THE WRONG THING! (hint hint: thats not your gut! It’s your nervous system trying to keep you safe!)

After a lifetime of anxiety, hyper vigilance, and people pleasing…the only thing I could hear was “what is expected of me and how can I deliver THAT?” “what will make ‘them’ happy?” 

Whoever “them” is…::insert random situation and who ever is involved here:: 

My mind and body interpreted not placating others as a threat!

I had been ignoring my inner instincts so long I actually forgot what they sounded like.

Sometimes people pleasing can look like tending to the needs of others so much so that you actually forget what your own wants and needs even look like. This effectively shuts down that intuition.

Gut intuition is something we are all born with but can lose through societal programming, cultural norms and even trauma—big “T” (the big obvious events) and little “t” (smaller repeated traumas that rewire our brains and nervous systems over time).

Re-cultivating that inner instinct can look like…

🧘🏽‍♀️Breathwork, Yoga Practice, Meditation & Journaling
🧘🏽‍♀️Quieting your mind and asking yourself what YOU want/need. What and who brings you joy and lights you up when you’re in the presence of this person or experience?
🧘🏽‍♀️Trying new things and allowing yourself to feel your physical response while remaining in the present moment
🧘🏽‍♀️When feeling discomfort, anger, or impatience getting curious (without judgment) about why that may be. Are you saying yes to something you don’t really want to do? If you could wave a magic wand, what would make you feel better? This may be an indication of an unmet need!

Are you in tune with your inner instincts? What can you try today to strengthen your inner knowing?

#intuition #gutinstinct #overcominganxiety #overcomingfear #stressresponse #nervoussystemregulation #evolutionarypsychology #vagusnerve #functionalmedicine
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💫 “Genius has far less to do with your genetics and more to do with your habits.” -Robin Sharma

Your habits & routines are the building blocks to your dream life!

Who do you want to be? What do you want your life to look like? How do you want to FEEL? 

No matter how big your goals are—your habits and routines are the vehicles that get you there. 

What vehicle are you setting in motion and where is it headed?

As someone who has struggled with ADHD, perfectionism, OCD, overthinking, and anxiety…routines are what keep me from having to think about and negotiate with myself over what I SHOULD be doing and help me to reduce my cognitive load (that feeling when your brain is too full 🤪) and save my real mental energy and focus on what matters most to me.

Without proper planning it’s easy to do what’s convenient in the moment (all while telling yourself it’s the best decision for your desired outcome, of course), even if it later proves to be less than productive. 

In order to do this, we must get clear on a few things first:

🤍 Our goals
🤍 Our values
🤍 What small action step(s) we CAN take 

My goal is to be my most authentic self & lead by example while sharing with others ways I have found to live healthfully and enjoy life!

Chunking my goals into small, doable action steps is what will help me get there!

What do you value most? Where do you see yourself in one year? Five years? Ten years? Drop it in the comments 😉🤩

#habits #routines #tinyhabits #goalsetter #goalcrusher #dreamlife #anxiety #adhd #evolutionarypsychology #psychology #behavioralhealth #health #functionalmedicine #dopamine
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✨New Year. Same me. #wouldnthaveitanyotherway

#newyear #newshinydreams #sameme #selflove #acceptance #youmaketherules #whodoyouwanttobe #purpose #vision #passion #followyourbliss #travel #healingjourney
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There’s only one person that needs to believe in you and it’s YOU.

Do not give into the fears or doubts sewn by others or even your own mind. 

I repeat: Do NOT feed the fears.

Who knows what gifts you’ll be denying yourself and the world if you do.

Inspo by @officialqueenmusic, my iTunes shuffle, #theeverydayheromanifesto by @robinsharma & #donotfeedthefearsphoto from @thestageoftime 

#broughttoyouby #shuffleroulette #beyourownsuccessstory #belief #mindset #growthmindset #purpose #goalgetter #perseverence #success #queen #bohemianrhapsody #loveyouanywayelton #songsthatalmostdidnthappen #underpressurewasanotherone #thankyoujohndeacon #opinionsarelikeassholes #hatersgonhate
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🚨 𝙱𝚁𝙴𝙰𝙺𝙸𝙽𝙶 𝙽𝙴𝚆𝚂…𝚢𝚘𝚞 𝚊𝚛𝚎 𝚗𝚘𝚝 𝚊 𝚜𝚒𝚕𝚘! 🚨

One of my favorite defense mechanisms has been to try and do everything myself so that I don’t need to ask for help or rely on anyone and never be disappointed 😁

Let me tell you how that’s working out 🫠

It has resulted in wasted time, unachievable goals and feelings of being “less than”. 

Not asking for help ENSURES you will not get any. What is the worst that could happen, you’ll be told “no”? Likely in a kind manner, but even if not, so what? Only one of these scenarios affords you the opportunity of actually getting the help that may be beneficial to you and help increase your success in achieving your goal.

For me, the fear of being told “no” was also a deterring factor. 

The reality is, if you don’t experience things not working out the way you want you will be robbed of the opportunity for growth and the chance to find alternative solutions to to solving your problems. Perhaps things work out differently yet even better than expected!

We have evolved to be pro-social creatures. It’s integral to our survival, so helping others is simply ingrained. Some may even argue that no kind acts are done for the sake of doing a kind thing BECAUSE these acts are part of our survival (or that even the residual feelings of pleasure resulting from said act make this so)—Reciprocal Altruism, if you will (check out theory by Robert Trivers for more info).

I don’t know how I feel about the motive but either way—evolutionary psychology backs the action and so do I 😆. Ask for help and offer it when you can and watch your life and the world change for the better 😉

💁🏽‍♀️💋

Tag your favorite helper in the comments! 🦸🏽‍♀️

#community #culture #individualistic #recipricalaltruism #theselfishgene #evolutionarypsychology #sociology #sociobiology #evolutionarybiology #health #goals #mentalhealth #wellness #thextraintrovert
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