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Slavic woman living abroad. Lost her spark along the way. Building the life she always wanted in her late 30s. Join me. Become the woman you admire ✨

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Welcome 🤍

This is a space for the woman
done shrinking. Done settling.
Finally ready to rise.

Here’s what we’re building together:
💡 Inner Power - Know who you are
💛 Solo Dates - Love your own company
💫 Mindful Dating - Choose wisely

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#theadmirableyou #innerpower #solodate #datingwithapurpose #knowyourworth by @theadmirableyou

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6 months ago

One man said “come meet me in my neighbourhood” - an hour away from my hotel, no consideration for where I was staying or whether I felt safe traveling that far alone in a strange city. When I said no, he called me a time waster.

Another man picked me up from my hotel. Chose the restaurant. Made the reservation. Told me to be ready at 7. Paid without hesitation. Was genuinely interested in knowing me. Walked me back to my hotel when the evening was over.

Same city. Completely different effort.

And yet, I didn’t feel a spark. No real romantic connection. It was a lovely evening. But not enough for a second date. And that’s okay.

Here’s what two men in New York taught me:

One showed me very soon what I won’t accept. The other showed me what a standard date should actually look like.

❤️ This is your reminder to set your standards in dating early. The right man will rise to meet them - without being asked.

💌 Save this - and share it with her. She needs to hear it. You know who she is.

Follow for more real talk on dating with standards @theadmirableyou

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#datingwithintention #firstdatestandards #knowyourworthladies #choosewiselyinlove #raiseyourstandards taken in New York City by @theadmirableyou

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3 months ago

Peace isn’t given to you. You build it. Quietly. One intentional decision at a time.

Here’s what actually worked for me:

1. Feeling the difficult emotions instead of running from them.

The painful periods, the failures, the sorrow - I stopped suppressing them. I let myself feel it fully. Hard times make us stronger when we stop avoiding them and accept them as part of growth.

2. Living on my own terms.

Not anyone else’s expectations. Not societal pressure. Just: What do I actually want my life to look like?

3. Prioritising myself.

Solo dates. Healthy habits. Positive self talk. Resting intentionally. Not as a reward but as a non-negotiable.

4. Being selective about who I let into my life.

People who inspire, not drain you. Who see the best in you. Who share your values. Quality over quantity - always.

5. Caring less about the small stuff.

Still working on this one, I admit. The traffic. The thing you said that came out wrong. The day that didn’t go as planned. The pile of laundry you haven’t folded yet. Choosing not to let those things consume you? Life gets a little lighter.

🤍 Peace isn’t a destination. It’s a daily choice.

💌 Save this for when peace feels far away.

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#theadmirableyou #selflovefirst #innerworkjourney #lifeafter30 #choosingpeace

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And she heard her inner voice say: What if it doesn’t work out?

We put so much energy into negative outcomes. Not because we’re naturally fearful, but because we’ve been conditioned to protect ourselves from disappointment. From uncertainty. From hoping for something that might not come.

What if you stopped focusing all your energy on what could go wrong, and just trusted instead?

Trusted your skills. Your good intentions. Your kindness. The work you’ve been doing in the background. That one crucial decision you made in the beginning, and the promise you made to yourself. And maybe even something bigger than yourself.

Girl, what if it was already taken care of?

So what if everything does work out, better than you ever imagined? 🤍

💌 Save this for the days you forget what you’re capable of.

Follow along as you become your most admirable self ✨ @theadmirableyou ✨

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#buildingher #trusttheprocessgirl #yourglowupjourney #gratitudemindset #theadmirableyou by @theadmirableyou

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3 months ago

She stopped waiting. Here’s what happened instead:

She learned to trust her own instincts. To slow down. To be present. To surprise herself. Fear showed up every time. She went anyway.

And slowly - she stopped needing anyone to make the moment complete.

Going alone is not lonely. It’s your most liberating way of showing up for yourself 🤍.

📩 Share this with her. She’s been waiting long enough.

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#solodates #glowupseason #romanticizeyourlife #selfdiscoveryjourney #liveintentionally taken in Madrid,Spain by @theadmirableyou

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I’ll be honest. I disappeared for 2 weeks. Life got heavy. My mind was full. And I simply didn’t have the capacity to show up here on top of everything else.

At first I felt guilty about it. Like I was falling behind. Like resting was something I hadn’t earned yet.

But then I realised, this wasn’t a step back. It was a necessary pause. And there’s a difference.

The woman you’re becoming - she doesn’t grind through every hard season. Sometimes she stops. She breathes. She listens to her needs. She takes care of herself first. And then she comes back, more herself than before.

That’s not weakness. That’s inner power in action.

If you’ve been giving yourself a hard time for needing a break, this is your sign to stop. Rest isn’t failure. It’s part of becoming her. Even if it takes a little more time.

🤍 Save this for the moment you need permission to pause.

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#becomingher #chooseyourself #restisproductive #permissiontopause #innerpeace taken in New York City by @theadmirableyou

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4 months ago

I had one of those days when staying inside felt more comfortable. But I knew going outside would change my whole mood. So I went anyway. And that decision changed everything.

An old man with a dog sat down next to me on a bench. We talked like we knew each other. Shared stories. There was something about him, calm, unhurried, at peace with everything.

And I found myself thinking - why do I feel so peaceful next to this stranger?

As an introvert, small talk isn’t exactly my thing. But something about him made it feel easy, natural even.

In a world full of noise and reasons to be guarded - sometimes it’s a random stranger on a bench who reminds you that most people are just here to live their life the best they can. To spread good energy. To be kind.

A woman who knows herself doesn’t close off the world to protect herself. She stays open, selectively, intentionally. That’s not weakness. That’s inner power.

This is your reminder to stay open. To new conversations. New people. New opportunities. You never know what a simple bench moment can teach you 🤍!

💌 Save this for the days you feel like closing off from the world.

📩 Share this with your girl who loves spreading positivity.

@theadmirableyou
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#innerpower #knowyourself #womenwhogrow #stayopenminded #mindsetshifter by @theadmirableyou

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3 months ago

There’s something freeing about dating in a new city - and something that requires you to be even more in tune with yourself. The excitement is real. But so is the need to trust your instincts.

You don’t know the neighborhoods, the routes, the safe spots. You can’t just call your bestie to come pick you up if something feels off.

So when he said “come meet me in my neighborhood” - an hour away, no consideration for where I was staying or whether I felt safe traveling alone in a city I didn’t know - I said no.

When I refused, he called me a time waster. And that reaction told me everything I needed to know.

On a first date, effort matters. Asking me to travel an hour to his neighborhood isn’t effort - it’s entitlement. The right man thinks about your comfort, not just his convenience.

Without the familiar comfort of home, every decision felt more intentional. Including who I chose to spend my time with. New city, new clarity. Being away from everything familiar made me more certain of what I want - and what I won’t accept.

Being alone in a new city doesn’t weaken you. It shows you exactly how capable you are 🤍!

Her standards aren’t negotiable. Not at home. Not in New York. Not anywhere.

📩 Share this with your girl who loves exploring new cities & never compromises her dating standards doing it.

#datingwithintention #trustyourintuition #knowyourworth #choosewisely #nycdating taken in New York City by @theadmirableyou

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➔ You don’t have to wait for the perfect moment. It’s okay to stop and enjoy yourself in the midst of the storm.

➔ It taught me to trust my own instincts. When something doesn’t feel right on your solo experience - you leave. No explanation needed. Your life, your terms.

➔ The worst that can happen? It doesn’t go as planned. You get up and try again. The best case? You completely surprise yourself.

➔ Solo dates taught me what I actually enjoy - without anyone else’s opinion influencing mine.

➔ It taught me to slow down. To be present with myself. To be grateful for the moment - just as it is.

➔ Fear will always show up. You take yourself out anyway. And slowly - you become more comfortable in your own presence.

➔ Every solo date you complete builds a confidence that’s hard to put into words. You said you would. You did. That’s everything.

➔ You don’t need anyone to sit with your own thoughts and just be okay with it. That’s not loneliness. That’s freedom.

📩 Share this with your friend who’s been waiting for someone to go with. She can go alone.

💡 What’s the one thing you’d do alone if fear wasn’t in the way?

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#solodates #selfromance #enjoyyourowncompany #romanticizeyourlife #fallinlovewithyourself by @theadmirableyou

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That anxiety you feel around him? It’s not excitement. It’s your intuition telling you you’re not safe.

Safe love doesn’t make you anxious. It makes you calm. At peace. Like home.

She confused the two for a long time. Until she finally felt the difference.

Trust what your body is telling you. It always knew 🤍

📩 Share this with her - she needs to hear it from you.

#theadmirableyou #trustyourintuition #datingwithintention #choosewisely #safelove by @theadmirableyou

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She went on solo dates in New York. As an introvert. And she’d do it all over again.

Solo dates don’t have to be a quiet coffee around the corner of your street. Sometimes they’re a whole new city waiting to be explored - on your own terms, at your own pace, with nobody to compromise for.

This is what showing up for yourself actually looks like. Challenging yourself. Stepping outside your comfort zone. And growing in ways you never expected.

💌 Save this - you’ll come back to it when you need that little push to go solo.

🤍 Which slide are you adding to your NYC solo bucket list? Drop it below👇🏻

#solodates #newyorkcity #selflovefirst #glowupseason #womansolotraveler

One of the easiest combos to do alone - perfect if you love long walks, getting lost in a market and a little shopping.

The High Line does something to you. The city slows down. People slow down. And for me, it was one of the few places where I felt truly present.

Shopping at Hudson Yards, matcha to go, the most peaceful walk along the High Line, then food and souvenir hunting at Chelsea Market.

A lovely way to spend a chill summer afternoon in the city. Plenty of space - I picked a spot that was not too isolated, not too crowded. Just right.

Grab your favourite coffee to go, pack a lunch, bring a good book. Let the squirrels entertain you. Watch the people of New York pass by.

Switch your phone off. Just for a little while.

I didn’t know what to expect walking in. But it was everything I was looking for - no fancy dress code, no awkward stares. Just a cute terrace, typical NYC views and really good food.

And then it hit me - I can’t believe I’m here. In this iconic city. In a completely different reality than my everyday life back home. Just me and New York.

I’ll be honest, this one surprised me.

I didn’t expect so many people. The Brooklyn Bridge is really busy. Especially during peak season. And yes, getting nice photos alone is a little tricky.

But the views? Worth every crowded step.

Okay. Times Square is a lot to take in.

Rockefeller Center felt more manageable - less hectic, easier to absorb. But Times Square? That’s a whole different energy.

The chaos is part of the expe taken in New York City by @theadmirableyou

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