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Things are really Falling into place. 🍂 🎃 🧙 by @thehatjefe

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4 days ago

“The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.”- Carl Rogers

Today marks a special day for me, one year without smoking weed and 870 days without drinking.

One thing I’ve noticed throughout this journey is how often people talk about change.

The idea is that lasting change often starts with acceptance rather than fighting who you are. Once you stop spending energy judging or rejecting yourself, you have more freedom to actually grow.

I’ve learned that pain, stress, and heartbreak are just part of the journey of life, just like joy and love are. These are all moments in time that eventually pass us by. Rather than acting or reacting, I’ve learned to pause, sit with these moments, and accept them.

For a long time, I was avoiding the unpleasant sensations that make up pain and stress through the use of drugs or alcohol. The reason I share these moments with you is in hopes of showing those who are struggling that there is an exit plan from all of this.

It is perfectly normal to feel these things, but you don’t need to let them consume you. The biggest part of my growth and change has been learning to accept myself just as I am. When you become fully present, you begin to free yourself.

For those struggling with this, start your acceptance with small things. Try one week without drinking. Or 10 minutes a day of exercise. Or, like I did, try Sober October and stop smoking. Or take a simple pause when a stressful moment comes your way and let your thoughts collect, rather than react.

Maybe you’ll like the way it makes you feel. Or maybe you’ll learn that you can accept whatever life throws your way without needing to run away from it.

My goal went from one week, to one month, to one year without smoking. I honestly don’t know if I’ll never smoke again, (I know I wont drink again) but I do know that I can handle whatever life throws my way. And I know you have it in you, too.

Lately, people have complimented me and told me I look younger or healthier. But the real change isn’t what you can see on the outside. It’s how I feel inside, in my mind, body and soul. Pause and smile. Life is wild and fucking awesome. ♥️ Rugie by @thehatjefe

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11 days ago

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21 days ago

Thank you for all the birthday love. It was truly felt. I don’t need much now a days besides the people that have supported me through thick and thin. Got to talk to Lay about what a home is and that it isn’t a structural object but a place in your heart that you hold for the people you care about. My friends,staff and family are the greatest gift I could ever ask for. I love the home she created for me and her notes. I’ll always feel at home with you guys! by @thehatjefe

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24 days ago

As I write to you on my 43rd trip around the sun I figured id touch base on some of the lessons ive learned over this past year, maybe they will help you or you can relate. Over this last year, I learned a lot about my accessibility to others.

I learned that I was the type of person that I jump to save others emergencies and drop everything I was doing and never asked for anything in return. I thought that this is what love was. But I learned that my energy is finite and eventual, id crash and burn if nothing was returned to balance.

You deserve the same kindness and respect that you are giving out to everyone else. You deserve love. Love means a safe place for both parties. It is not wrong to be a giver, but you need to find others that want to give back too.

Some people don’t want to be saved; they don’t want to do the work of healing. Sometimes the hardest thing for YOU to do is realize YOU cant change someone and some people don’t want to change and YOU must let go.

This isn’t about perfection, this is about intention. That doesn’t mean they are a bad person, it just means they are not YOUR person.

Our actions are our responsibility. It is our responsibilities to know our triggers. Even if you get baited into an argument. Stop giving people second chances, that they haven’t earned.

Some people have been conditions to find chaos and dysfunction normal. We have to rewire our system.

What is meant for you will rise to meet your standards, what is not will quietly fall away.

Your presence is a privilege and your energy is undeniable, never forget that!

With Love,

Rugie

If you are struggling. You are not alone. I am always here if you need someone to talk to. Text me-310-463-5217 by @thehatjefe

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a month ago

This weekend was just what my soul needed. Camping. Biking. Hiking. Golfing. Pickleball. Swimming. Reading. Writing. But most importantly with people that enjoyed my company and banter. Grateful for the great outdoors and those who like to explore. Stay Wild. taken in Fraser, Colorado by @thehatjefe

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a month ago

3rd Grade Lay. Keep paving the way. I am so proud of you. by @thehatjefe

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a month ago

Happy birthday to my wonderful daughter Layla. You have showed me what love is supposed to feel like. You have showed me how to live my life better. You have showed me things that I’ll cherish the rest of my life. I can’t believe how independent you are becoming. From your first sleepover camps, your first hat design and travel soccer team. I am so proud of you Lay. I am a better person because of you! Just slow down a little for me. ;) by @thehatjefe

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2 months ago

@woodwardcamp was a success! Layla was the youngest girl at the camp and won camper of the week! Proud dad moment seeing how happy she was and even though she got some bloody noses and hard falls she kept getting up for more tricks at the park. Great life lesson that it’s not always about landing the trick but what you do when you are down. Go Lay Go! (Yes I got some tears as she was called up for her award. Only 8 given out!). Shoutout to @zebpowelll for picking her up and whole Woodward crew… taken in Camp Woodward Terrain Park At Copper Mountain by @thehatjefe

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3 months ago

And just like that Layla is off to her first sleep over camp. She will be the youngest girl (7) by a few years at @woodwardcamp where she will be attending there ski camp to learn more tricks. She had been begging me to go the moment she learned about the camp. She is so brave, talented and obviously didn’t want any of daddy’s help carrying her bags. Of course I cried after dropping her off. She is growing up to quick. Can’t wait to see what she learns! taken in Camp Woodward Terrain Park At Copper Mountain by @thehatjefe

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3 months ago

What is up Sprout Fam! This is Grassroots LIVE from Electric Forest! 🌲⚡️

The energy out here is already absolutely insane, and we want to make sure you know exactly where to find us. We are holding it down at THREE different locations across the festival grounds this weekend!

📍 Where to find the GRC Booths:

Good Life: For our VIP Sprout Fam

The Ranch: Right in the heart of the madness

GA Main Street: Your first stop in the GA campgrounds

What we brought to the lot:
Come track us down to secure the official LE 500 Forest Collab Pins, dig through our exclusive unreleased samples, and get early access to upcoming drops before they ever hit the site.

The whole crew is out here ready for you. Come say what’s up, check out the gear, and let’s have a legendary weekend! 🏃‍♂️💨 by @thehatjefe

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3 months ago

“The moment I stopped searching is the moment I found everything.”

Let me explain how this has created peace and balance in my life. It is human nature to get caught up in fear, heartbreak, uncertainty, loss and when one comes to terms that trying to escape discomfort is not obstacles to awakening and the very things we try hardest to avoid can become the doorway to awakening you begin to practice in Buddhist terms samsara.

I was constantly trying to get away from pain with pleasure and for me it kept creating a cycle. For me it was the use of drugs, alcohol and self destructing habits. I was always trying to escape and never fully able to settle down with the life around me. This is a very common form of neurosis.

So, while I was constantly trying to escape samsara I was chasing nirvana. It wasn’t until I was able to live with both that I found true peace. That I found a place in my heart for heartbreak and depression and I live with it and not be drowned by it. That I no longer needed this escape from this feeling where often I turned to sex, drugs and booze.

At that point I found my nirvana and the openness that reality as it is was just what I needed it to be at that time. That these obstacles in my life created opportunities to become the person I am today.

Right now, I am enjoying the feeling of not needing anything but what the world offers me at that moment. So to be clear, I am constantly dealing with internal struggles, there are times I wish I had a partner to share this life with, that I feel alone as a boss, that I am trying to find my place in this world but that I am ok with these feelings and I am not trying to escape them anymore. I trust the process and enjoy each moment this gift of life has offered me.

May all beings be at Peace. 2222

Ruga by @thehatjefe

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5 months ago