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Lucy Higgins | Women’s Empowerment Coach

@thequietconfidencepath

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I help midlife women step out of the "lost" phase and design their next chapter. Reclaim your:
✨ Self-Trust
✨ Identity
✨ Boundaries
✨ Confidence

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Part 2 of building midlife confidence and midlife identity. Have you said “why can’t I just be happy with what I have?”

Comparing yourself to other women in midlife can be a very damaging thing to do particularly as many women fake their confidence and believe in a fake it till you make it style mentality.

This may work in your 20’s and 30’s but in midlife you need to build quiet confidence that comes from your values, beliefs, your own judgement and decisions and helps you to become the woman you want to be and not the woman you need to be.

So like, share and comment if this is something you have been doing and watch out for the next video tomorrow. 🌸#quietconfidence #midlifeconfidence #womenover40 by @thequietconfidencepath

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21 hours ago

Midlife confidence can really shake you. Have you said to yourself lately “I don’t’t recognise the person looking back at me in the mirror anymore”

Confidence is linked to identity and this often needs to be reshaped in midlife.

Sometimes it just takes one thing to start feeling more confident so try this 1 thing today and be honest with yourself about how you really feel.
Like and save this video, and then comment and know I will reply to each message. 🌸#midlifeconfidence #quietconfidence #midlifeidentity by @thequietconfidencepath

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2 days ago

Learning how to protect your peace and set healthy boundaries shouldn’t come with guilt and overthinking and worrying if you are upsetting someone else. I am a women’s empowerment coach and I specialise in helping women 40+ find their confidence again by focusing on developing their own sense of identity, learning to set boundaries among many things. If you want support with your confidence then check out my free book in the link and I’ll add it to the comments. Comment help and I will reply. Like and share this post with a friend that may be struggling. #quietconfidence #boundaries #womenoverforty #midlifeconfidence by @thequietconfidencepath

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4 months ago

Learning to put yourself first as a woman 40+ probably isn’t something that comes easy. Years of putting everyone else’s needs above your own can be a sign that you have become a people-pleaser and having this mode as a default mode can really affect your confidence in midlife. I am a women’s empowerment coach who works with women over 40 to help them find their confidence again. It’s not been lost but simply eroded after years of caring and supporting others. Finding your identity again is something I can hep with along with focusing on giving you back your inner authority. Check out my free book in my bio or comment CONFIDENCE in the chat and I will reply and help. Share and like. #quietconfidence #midlifeidentity #womenover40 #peoplepleasing by @thequietconfidencepath

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4 months ago

Are you a woman 40+ struggling with her confidence because she has spent years making sure everyone else’s needs come first. Have you forgotten what it feels like to put yourself first and now lack the confidence to believe in yourself. Then I understand how you feel and I see you. I was that woman. If you want to know more about me or gain your confidence back then check out my free book in the link in my bio. Like and share for more support #quietconfidence #womenover40 #peoplepleasing #womenidentity by @thequietconfidencepath

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4 months ago

Grieving the woman you used to be after midlife transitions. If you feel this has affected you, then your next chapter is about learning to let go and becoming confident in the woman that you are growing into. Midlife can be very hard for women over 40 and losing confidence seems to play a big part. I am a woman’s empowerment coach and I focus on supporting women over 40 to regain their confidence and self-esteem and their identity after they have been impacted by midlife transitions such as divorce, empty nesting, caring for everyone else but themselves. If you want more support from me or recognise that you want to change then comment SUPPORT or follow me for more. Check out the free book in my bio #womenover40 #quietconfidence #midlife #confidenceforwomen #peoplepleasing by @thequietconfidencepath

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4 months ago

Grieving for who we used to be is a huge part of struggling with our identity in midlife as a woman. Over years we poured ourselves into caring for everyone else and slowly our confidence eroded over time until one day we looked at ourselves and didn’t recognise who we were anymore. If this resonates with you right now then know that you aren’t alone and this can change. I help support women in their mid lives to rebuild their confidence and find their new identity and create a sense of self that is looking forward to the new chapter of their lives that is ahead of them. Comment HELP if you want to know more about The Quiet Confidence path or check out the link in my bio. #midlifecoach #womenconfidence #womenoverforty #womenidentity #divorcerecovery by @thequietconfidencepath

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4 months ago

Nobody warned you about this part of midlife.
The grief and the strange, hollow feeling of looking in the mirror and not quite recognising the woman looking back at you.
You didn't lose your confidence somewhere along the way. You feel like you actually lost yourself.
Gradually. Quietly. One small sacrifice at a time.
You focused on being a mother, carer, wife and then the ex-wife. The one who held everything together while slowly disappearing underneath it all.
And here's what no-one talks about.... that your identity is a loss worth grieving.
This isn't a weakness, or a phase, and it's definitely not something to push through and get over.
It's a real, profound loss that deserves to be named and honoured before you can even begin to rebuild.
Because you cannot build a new version of yourself without first sitting with the woman you are letting go of.
When you give yourself that permission, then something shifts. Space opens up, and in that space, quietly, you will begin to come back.
You are not who you were before. You will be steadier, stronger, and far more certain of yourself.
And she is already in there. Waiting.

Save this if it touched something in you. Share it with a woman who needs to hear it today. 🌿
↓ Drop a 🌿 in the comments if this is you. You are not alone in this.

#IdentityLoss #MidlifeGrief #WomenOver40 #FindingYourself #MidlifeWoman #WhoAmI #MidlifeConfidence #QuietConfidence #WomenWhoHeal #SelfReclamation #MidlifeTransformation #ConfidenceCoach #WomenEmpowerment #KnowYourWorth #TheQuietConfidencePath by @thequietconfidencepath

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4 months ago

Why saying no can be hard for some women.
People-pleasing is not about being kind or unkind to others. It's about understanding what you want and listening to your own inner voice and having your own needs.
People-pleasing is a survival strategy that you learned in childhood and as an adult some of us have to be taught how to unlearn this strategy as it no longer serves us.
If you struggle with people-pleasing and want to change and unlearn this unhealthy pattern in your life then check out my free guides in my bio. Comment help me and I will support you to become the woman who has more confidence and no longer feels the need to please everyone else or keep the peace simply because these are the easy choices.
#people-pleasing #womenover40 #midlifewoman #divorcerecovery #startingover #quietconfidence #findingmyself by @thequietconfidencepath

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4 months ago

Do you say yes when you mean no.
Or you apologise for things that aren't your fault.
Perhaps you feel responsible for everyone else's emotions and are completely exhausted by it.
This is people pleasing. And if you've been doing it your whole life, you already know the cost.
The resentment that quietly builds and your confidence that slowly erodes over years.
The woman you used to be is buried so far under everyone else's needs that you've forgotten what you actually want.
This is what I want to tell you right now.
You are not too much. Your needs are not inconvenient, and saying no is not selfish, because it is the most important act of self-respect you will ever learn.
People pleasing didn't come from nowhere. It came from somewhere that once felt unsafe. Unlearning it takes time, compassion, and the right support.
But it is absolutely possible.
Save this post as a reminder. And if you know a woman who needs to see this today, share it with her. 🌿
↓ Drop a 🌿 in the comments if this resonated. I read every single one.

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#PeoplePleasing #WomenOver40 #StopPeoplePleasing #Boundaries #MidlifeConfidence #SelfRespect #QuietConfidence #WomenWhoHeal #MidlifeWoman #KnowYourWorth #ConfidenceCoach #EmotionalHealth #SelfWorth #UnlearnAndGrow #TheQuietConfidencePath by @thequietconfidencepath

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4 months ago

People pleasing is not kindness. It is a survival strategy that you learned at a young age and you can now start to unlearn this. Comment if this is something you struggle with. Check out the link in my bio for help and support.

#peoplepleasing#womenover40#womenself-confidence#midlife#self-worth#healingjourney by @thequietconfidencepath

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4 months ago

Be honest with me as this page is a safe space. In your relationship, whose needs generally came first.... Yours? Theirs? The children's? Probably everyone else but you. There is no judgment here because I know it took me a long time to acknowledge that I was always putting my needs behind those of everyone else. Tell me in the comments if you are in the same position. I know what that is costing you and I'm here to listen and help. If this is resonating with you, access my free guide in my bio, which covers this topic in depth.
#womendivorce#womenover40#womenconfidence#findingmyself#lifeafterdivorce#startingover#healingjourney by @thequietconfidencepath

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