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Ms. Malissia
Founder MISTRESS MINDSET™ Institute
& 𝓣𝓱𝓮 𝓓𝓸𝓶𝓲𝓷𝓪𝓽𝓻𝓲𝔁 𝓐𝓬𝓪𝓭𝓮𝓶𝔂
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The New Era of The Domınatrıx Academy.

💣💥 by @thestudyofpower

Women are not fascinated by the Dom*natrx because of what she does. They are fascinated by what she permits herself to be.⁠
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She represents qualities that many of us have been taught to suppress, to fear, or to feel shame around.⁠
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Certainty. Desire. Standards. Authority. Influence. Command.⁠
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Being prioritized. Taking up space. Being obeyed.⁠
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Leading without apology. Asking for what she wants. Knowing how to receive without explaining herself or feeling like she owes something.⁠
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Her standards and boundaries are unshakeable.⁠
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Whether or not someone is interested in BD*M, those qualities create a visceral reaction. She shows us what we could have... who we could become.⁠
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She is a mysterious figure of bold femininity who lives outside of the social contract. ⁠
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Both alluring and confronting... and that is an intoxicating cocktail. The kind that makes her presence magnetic.⁠
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Powerful women recognize themselves in the archetype of the Dom*natrx because it represents complete self-expression, self-acceptance and liberation. She breaks the mold that was meant to suppress her and stands in her full size: Chin up, back straight, legs elongated by heels, clothes that celebrate her femininity instead of concealing it.⁠
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She steps out of the box that was meant to contain her feminine force. And then she steps on it.⁠
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For a decade, I immersed myself professionally in the world of the Dom*natrx.⁠
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What I discovered wasn't simply a profession.⁠
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It was one of the most fascinating studies of power, human psychology and feminine authority I have ever encountered. ⁠
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And that's why I've evolved the Dom*natrx Academy.⁠
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Not to teach women to become Professional Dom*natrxes.⁠
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But to study what this extraordinary archetype reveals about power, influence, identity, and the art of becoming unforgettable.⁠
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The 8 week LIVE Program begins on January 11. But the foreplay that prepares you for the experience begins the moment you register.
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If this speaks to something you've always felt but could never quite put into words...⁠
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Reply POWER and I'll send you the link to apply.
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Photo: Madam Margaux at a private event. by @thestudyofpower

Introducing a core concept of my book and central framework of my signature program.

Reply SUBSTACK for the link.

And share this post if it speaks to you 🌹

Ps: I just opened a private chat for my paid subscribers to direct message me so we can share groundbreaking conversations in parallel with the writing of the book. by @thestudyofpower

REVEAL: This the central topic of the book I have been writing for the last few years.

It is also a foundational concept through which I built the framework for the Domınatrıx Academy.

The word Mıstress is dear to me. It is connected to an identity, not a profession or role play.

It represents Mastery.

I have been exploring and studying power for a decade now, and this is the premise of my work: reclaiming the word Mıstress as the Female Master.

I love asking women (and men) what this word means to them and hearing their perspective.

Unlike the word Domınatrıx (which is different) it is heavy in meaning.

If you listened to my interview with Catherine Robbe-Grillet, I discuss this with her and it confirmed what I have been writing about.

Tomorrow I will publish a new article I have been writing on Substack, where I give you are deep dive into this concept and will introduce you to the framework that I built my Academy on.

Writing on Substack while simultaneously writing my book and connecting with people through my ideas, philosophy and thoughts has been a true blessing.

And I am so excited to finally birth this book, very soon 💣 by @thestudyofpower

Since I started having some of my Essays paid, it unlocked my desire to share more personal, secret, vulnerable stories. And there will be also in-depth training and educational content coming soon.

I realized how much I personally learn from reading and that we don't always have the time to tune into videos or listen to trainings, but sitting down to read with our undivided attention forces our brain to relax and absorb what is being shared. An opportunity for deep learning, fast.

Given I already write daily, sharing uncensored material to those eager to learn from me is a blessing.

This particular story is a defining moment of my Mıstress Journey. When I was being trained by my Mentor @rina_trevi

I share here the whole 2 week experience and how it influenced my practice as a Pro... and beyond.

My exploration of power through surrender of control, trust and receivership led me to the inevitable place of having to share the story of my own experience with surrendering control and relinquishing my power to someone I chose and trusted.

And how that 2 week long 'CNC session' allowed me to break through and overcome fears I didn't know I had. I am so grateful for the privilege I had to experience this with Rina and I am dedicated to continue passing on the torch of personal power through my own mentorship.

Comment SUBSTACK to read the whole article. 🌹 by @thestudyofpower

When we think of 'magnetism' we have to think also of 'attraction'. As magnetizing and attracting both comes from something being pulled towards you.
It is the opposite of pushing or chasing.

So what makes a woman magnetic / attractive?

I have asked this question so many times to so many people and in a lot of my programs. The answers of course vary.
Confidence, beauty, poise, self-respect, sensuality, intelligence, mystery...

I've received countless answers. Yet I always follow up with this: what is required of her to be perceived this way? As these traits and qualities can only be experienced if you come in contact with her.

First, you need to SEE her. Which implies visibility. If you can't see her, how can you notice anything and then be pulled towards her field?

Then what about people you see... but don't feel attracted/ magnetized towards them? You maybe 'see them' on your feed or on your street or at work everyday, but somehow... you just don't really see them?

Are they invisible?

This is the question. What makes you visible in a way that makes people think: Who is THIS?

Not from a place of shock or disgust, but in a way that pulls them in?

I started contemplating this closely as I was exploring the Siren energy (if you're familiar to my work you will know what I am talking about) and realized that what is seen, what is visible, is inevitably 'in the light'. And many of us have lived in the light while being completely shut down... hiding in plain sight.

The switch is off, keeping us safe (and small), protecting us from being seen.

So for a woman to be magnetic and attractive... her switch needs to be turned ON.
It has nothing to do with how she looks, but how you FEEL in her presence. You feel aliveness. Pleasure. Joy. Excitement. Feelings that energize you.

Alternatively, the fear of being seen, keeps the switch off. Which then both protects us from anything bad coming close, but also prevents us from letting anything good reach us as well.

That barrier cuts the current. She 'feels off' or maybe isn't felt.

So perhaps, the magnetic woman is a woman who is willing to be truly seen and felt?

I would love to hear your take on this? ⬇� by @thestudyofpower

I have been contemplating the relationship between receiving, control, surrender and féminité authority for a few years now.

But as I started interviewing the women of the Domınatrıx Academy, I noticed a pattern that hit me. It was like a revelation that was right before my eyes.

What if our capacity receiving is connected to our capacity to surrender?

I wrote an extended Essay on this for my subscribers who are curious to examine how I explore this in depth.

Reply SUBSTACK for the link 🤍 by @thestudyofpower

I've been doing POWER AUDITS with the women who signed up for the Domınatrıx Academy starting in January.

One very common thing many of them have is the Boss energy. Usually this is the one we first associate with the figure of the Domme.

But I teach the embodiment of that archetype from the connection between 3 energies... and even if the Boss is one of them, having the other two underdeveloped or muted makes the Boss quite tyrannical and controlling. Or makes her confidence circumstantial.

Those that usually are in leadership positions, the ones in charge, the ones people trust to command, have a remarkable hard time receiving.
Gestures, compliments, pleasure, attention, money, support, help.

They even pride themselves on 'I can do it all' and 'I don't need anyone'... and then feel drained, exhausted, overwhelmed... and move into self-sacrifice.
That to me makes us more sl*ves than Boss. More employee than CEO. And it disconnects us from the energy of the Goddess. Which is the one who knows she is worthy of receiving.

I have these POWER AUDIT sessions because I want to meet every single woman coming into the Program as the experience will be curated around them.

8 weeks. LIVE. And it has nothing to do with the Professional side of Domınatıon and everything to do with authentic feminine authority that encompasses all areas of our lives.

It has genuinely been fascinating to speak to so many different women and seeing common patterns and desires and how they value congruence between the power they know they have and how it is perceived and expressed, consistently.

If you are curious about the Domınatrıx Academy, reply POWER for the link to apply.

This program will most certainly rock your world. And the most fun part is that we already started the 'foreplay'. by @thestudyofpower

Attention and visibility go hand in hand.
The more visible we are, the more attention we receive.

The word 'receive' is key here. It is something given to us. But it can be something we do not want to receive... which usually comes from what we anticipate as a consequence of that attention.

Judgement, projection, envy, objectification, rejection, being called vain, or too much or even the maintaining of what people now expect from you.

So we hide.
We dress down, speak less, become less expressive, less noticeable, less visible.

Then there is chasing attention:
Doing something to get attention carries the energy of pursuit. And we often chase what we don't believe we can naturally receive.

And there is 'allowing' attention.
You are not pulling it towards you, but simply allowing yourself to be seen.

Beauty attracts attention. So does distinction, confidence, boldness and anything that refuses to blend into the ordinary.

If you highlight your features, dress exceptionally, speak with conviction or cultivate a powerful presence, you will inevitably be noticed.

And once people are paying attention, you get to decide what to do with it:
Receive it and redirect it. Use it to make a point, market, seduce, provoke curiosity or simply enjoy it.

But first, you have to be able to hold it.
To recognize your impact without making your worth dependent on it.
Because when being seen feels unsafe, the instinct is to disappear.

And I believe that pattern can extend beyond visibility into how much praise, opportunity, pleasure, support, money, desire and love we allow ourselves to receive.

Perhaps the work isn't learning how to get more attention but learning how to receive more without abandoning yourself in the process.

A woman can enjoy being looked at without needing the gaze to affirm her worth.

She can know she is having an effect and enjoy it. Not from vanity. But from recognition of herself.

Visibility from simply showing or sharing yourself is then genuinely being seen.

Here is my take: notice what pulls your attention. In a positive way. What do you stop to look at in admiration? What attracts your gaze?
Can you develop / amplify that in you? by @thestudyofpower

It is finally here!
The interview I conducted last June with Catherine Robbe-Grillet in France.
72 minutes. Unfiltered.
I came with questions and left with a revelation.

During our conversation Catherine shared how her wife Beverley (who was amongst us) asked her to submit to her. It was so aligned with how I myself got to be in that room with her.

And if you know my story and how I first started meeting clients as a Mıstress, you will find it even more special.

This month is Catherine's Birthday. She will be 96 years old next week. And sharing this now comes full circle.

The interview was conducted in French and there are subtitles both in english and french.

You will learn secret and spicy things both about me and her! And I also give you a detailed report of the whole experience around the interview... as an hommage to how she would report on her ceremonies, as she described it to me.

Reply SUBSTACK for the link!

Enjoy 🤍 by @thestudyofpower

Power is forged in private.

This is something I learned many years ago, when I experienced extreme loss, all at once.

If you have done my Mıstress Trifecta program, you know the story.

Sometimes right on the other side of extreme success, when all seems to be flowing abundantly and you have that feeling of 'I cracked the code' , appears the big waves that smash you down from the board.

At the beginning of 2020, in the same week, I had to go through 3 experiences of grief simultaneously. The kind that brought me to the floor.

My long term relationship with my girlfriend ended, one of my dear clients with who I had a very deep bond, and who immensely contributed to my life, ended his life. My residency in Australia fell through and I lost my biggest IG account... all in the same week.

I was in a penthouse downtown Melbourne when all came crumbling down. And I remember looking outside the window and asking myself what does this mean and should I just leave and drop all I built in the last 2 years.

That week was dark. But I prioritized my self in a way I hadn't in a while. Complete isolation with extreme self-care. I wrote many goodbye letters, drank a lot of herbal tea, cooked for hours, and cried for days.
I emptied the energy until all that was left was this question: What now?

And I remember hearing: remember who you are.
A very quiet voice that gave me goosebumps.
It reminded me of my power. The kind that can't be taken away from me. The kind that stands strong regardless of the hurricane.

I sat with myself in the longest meditation I ever had. I received clarity and that unshakeable feeling of: this is all part of the plan.

Losing what made me feel like 'I got it all' showed me what remained. I realized this was an amazing opportunity for me to NOT abandon myself. But to show up stronger, to hold myself through this.

After that week, my life really took off to a whole other level. Because I knew that no matter what, I got me.

Who we are when all goes 'according to plan' doesn't show us who we are. It is in adversity that we get to really experience our personal power. In the privacy of our intimate lives is where our power is forged. by @thestudyofpower