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Tish Nami | Dating & Standards Coach

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The bills are now in your name. Does your answer change? 👀

It’s easy to say “I’d hold my man down” until one income has to cover the whole house. Now you’re paying, he’s stressed, and the arrangement you agreed to looks very different.

But are we talking about your husband of ten years or a man you’ve been dating for six months? Because some of y’all have very different rules depending on that answer.

We’re getting into money, commitment, and who gets the final say on The Savage Seat, Episode 2.

Would you hold him down, and what would you need to see from him while you do? Let’s hear it in the comments.

Subscribe to Soft & Savage on YouTube for the full conversation.

Dating a Man Who Lost His Job / Money and Relationships / Supporting Your Partner Financially / Financial Expectations in Marriage by @tishnami

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Hey My Beautiful Ladies, you don’t have to spend Sunday recovering from everybody else and preparing to give yourself away again on Monday. 🤍

Today, take some of that love you give so freely and bring it home to yourself. Rest. Pray. Eat something good. Let your mind be quiet for a little while.

May this Sunday remind you that your life holds more than responsibilities. There is love to receive, peace to protect, and goodness to notice.

👇 What are you giving yourself permission to put down today?

Save this reminder, share it with a woman who needs a breath, and follow Tish Nami + The Soft & Savage Podcast.

#explore #SelfLoveJourney #ProtectYourPeace #fyp #SoftAndSavage by @tishnami

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“She one of them”… because she won’t hold him down financially without a ring? 👀💍💸

@the_tina_rose gave her answer, and @tonydamillionaire was NOT having it! 😂🔥 Is she protecting her standards—or showing she won’t stick around when things get tough? Wait for the reveal! 👀🍿

👇 Would you hold a boyfriend down financially, or is that husband treatment? Tell us in the comments!

🎙️ The Savage Seat EP2 is coming next week! Follow @tishnami + @softandsavagepodcastbytishnami and subscribe on YouTube for the full debate. Send this to your group chat! 🔥
@curtis.caine @fraathouse11 @fraathouse_podcast
#TheSavageSeat #SoftAndSavagePodcast #relationship #explore #fyp by @tishnami

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🚨 HE PAYS THE BILLS… SO YOU DON’T GET A VOTE? 👀💸

Sis, did you find a provider—or sign up for a relationship where your opinion needs approval? And fellas, does covering everything earn you the final say? 🔥

@tishnami The Savage Tsunami + @the_tina_rose of Prefab Media go head-to-head with @tonydamillionaire + Curtis of @fraathouse11 @fraathouse_podcast ! Someone tag Curtis

🎙️ The Savage Seat EP2 Coming Soon on the Soft & Savage Podcast YouTube channel! Who’s Ready for the Drop?

👇 Does paying ALL the bills mean making ALL the rules? Pick a side in the comments!

Follow @tishnami + @softandsavagepodcastbytishnami , subscribe on YouTube, and send this to someone who’ll argue their side! 🍿🌊

#RelationshipTalk #dating #fyp #SoftAndSavagePodcast #TheSavageSeat by @tishnami

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Your provider lost his job… you jumping ship or nah? 👀💸 Be honest—do you love HIM or the lifestyle? 🔥

👇 Vote below and defend your answer!
Follow Tish Nami + the Soft & Savage Podcast, and subscribe on YouTube for The Savage Seat! Ep. 2 COMING SOON🎙️🌊

#relationships #Dating #viralreeĺs #SoftAndSavagePodcast #fyp

Poll: He lost his job. You staying or leaving?

* 🤝 Holding him down
* 🚢 Jumping ship by @tishnami

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He pays the bills… so does your opinion need his approval? 👀💸 Sis, did you get a provider—or a sponsor with terms and conditions? 🔥

If he pays for EVERYTHING, does he get the FINAL SAY? 🗣️

🎙️ Tish Nami, The Savage Tsunami + @the_tina_rose of Prefab Media go head-to-head with @tonydamillionaire + Curtis of @fraathouse11 !

The Savage Seat EP2 Coming Soon on the Soft & Savage Podcast YouTube channel! 🍿🔥

👇 Comment “PROVIDER” or “CONTROL”—where do you draw the line?

Follow @tishnami + @softandsavagepodcastbytishnami , subscribe on YouTube, and share this with somebody who’s going to have an OPINION! 🌊

#dating #relationshiptalk #fyp #explore TheSavageSeat by @tishnami

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🚨 GIRL, YOU QUIT YOUR JOB… BUT HE CAN QUIT YOU. NOW WHAT?! 👀

The trips are cute. The gifts are cute. But “he got money” and “I’m secure” are two different conversations! 💅🏽

Swipe before you trade your paycheck for a promise. ➡️

Would YOU quit your job for a man—and what would you need secured first? Let’s talk in the comments! 🔥👇🏽

🎵 Set this to the viral trending sound: “Anxiety” by Doechii—because the real question is: are you financially secure, or just emotionally attached to the lifestyle? 👀

Follow @tishnami AND the @softandsavagepodcastbytishnami . Subscribe on YouTube for The Savage Seat segment—because we’re asking the questions the luxury pictures don’t answer! 🎙️

Save this and send it to your girl who already drafted her resignation letter! 😂💋

#DatingAdvice #explore #Relationship #fyp #SoftAndSavagePodcast by @tishnami

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🚨 Girl Whew Chile, before you go Loony Tunes and quit your job for a Rich / High Value man… is your name on anything besides his phone?! 👀😂

His money doesn’t automatically mean YOUR security—and we’re getting into it on The Savage Seat! 🔥

Would you quit your job for a man? What would you need secured first? Drop it in the comments! 👇🏽

Follow @tishnami AND the @softandsavagepodcastbytishnami , and subscribe on YouTube for more Savage Seat conversations! 💋 Send this to your friend who already has her resignation letter drafted! 😂

#datingadvice #relationshipadvice #rickross #fyp #explorepage✨ by @tishnami

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Catch me TONIGHT on UNtriggered Live with @uglymoneyniche ! 🔥

10 Black women. 10 Black men. One room. And you already know I’m coming with my real opinion. 👀

Pull up to @energyoraclecafe in Austell, GA, 7–10 PM. It’s free and open to everyone! Can’t make it? Watch live on UglyMoneyTV.

What’s ONE question you want me to ask the men tonight? Drop it in the comments. ⬇️ by @tishnami

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It was a pleasure coming on to the @softandsavagepodcastbytishnami as a featured guest! Thank you @tishnami !

Stay tuned for Episode 2 titled therapy didn’t fix you, it just gave you a vocabulary word.

As a licensed Marriage and Family therapist I’m talking about what real transformation looks like versus performing healed, and why awareness alone doesn’t change patterns.

Stay tuned!

#relationships #dating #innerwork #healing #boundaries taken in Atlanta, Georgia by @tishnami

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MEN LIE when they say they want a traditional woman. 👀

Because how are you asking for a Proverbs 31 woman while telling her everything needs to be split 50/50? You want her to cook, clean, nurture, support your vision, and hold the whole house together—but when the bill comes, suddenly it’s “we’re a team”? Sir, which version of traditional are we doing? 😂

🎙️ The Savage Seat, Episode 1: “Got it — You Want A Proverbs 31 Woman, but Still Want to Split 50/50.”

I want to hear from both sides: Can a man expect traditional roles from a woman if he expects a 50/50 financial partnership? Men, defend your answer. Women, tell me where you stand.

Drop your verdict below, tag somebody who needs to join this debate, and follow Soft & Savage Podcast by Tish Nami for more of The Savage Seat. 🔥

#datingadvice #relationshipadvice #fyp #explorepage #SavageSeat by @tishnami

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12 days ago

You posted “unbothered”… then checked to see if they watched your story. 👀

You blocked them, changed your hair, booked the trip, took the pictures, and told everybody you were good. But when the room gets quiet, does it still hurt?

I’ve been there. Sometimes “unbothered” is how we get through the day. Sometimes it becomes a performance we feel like we have to keep up—even when we need space to be honest about what happened.

That’s where we’re starting Episode 1 of the @softandsavagepodcastbytishnami Soft & Savage Podcast™ by Tish Nami: Are You Truly Unbothered, or Is It a PR Campaign? 🎙️

It drops today at 12 PM ET. Follow @softandsavagepodcastbytishnami on YT and IG , and comment UNBOTHERED if you want the link when it goes live. Send this to the friend who always says “I’m fine” when you know she’s carrying more than she lets on. 💕#datingstandards #relationshipadvice #womenhealing #fyp #relatable by @tishnami

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