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HeidiTrue: Certified Somatic Intimacy Coach

@true.intimacy

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It’s a process, one I have developed and delivered many times over the post few years, and it’s one that works. If you or your partner is coming sooner than he or his partner would prefer, send him this reel or just send him to my website ( you’ll find that in my bio)
It takes a little time but the results are great!
I coach all over the world via Zoom

#prematureejaculation #lastinglonger #satisfaction #performanceanxiety by @true.intimacy

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5 months ago

Share if you know this

I can not speak it more clearly ( well without getting shutdown on here at least )…
🐈‍⬛ & Women’s bodies do not work the same way as men and their aubergines
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Our ssl patterns are quite different & our needs are YIN….
slowness, presence, time, patience, safety, respect for our differences - that all adds up to high level pleasure in women’s ssl systems
Yet we never learn this, not at school, not from talking about S, certainly not from watching adult entertainment

You can go half your life or more, never realising the incredible depth & range of your pleasure potential- especially if you don’t take the time to explore yourself or you don’t stumble across a lover that knows the way of women

Slowing down, being curious, communicating - these are more useful and effective than the ‘techniques’ or tips given in Cosmo ( although I give those too as part of my ‘🐈‍⬛whisperers’ session for men & lovers of women - see link in bio)

Isn’t it time you opened up to the full potential of your magnificent body? Undoing the blocks to intimacy you’ve collected along the way…..
and learned the techniques to take your S life to the realm of the sacred?

I have a free initial chat for you to ask questions and see if we are a good match to work together in intimacy coaching

Link in bio

#yourfullpotential #pleasureactivism #pleasurepotential #relationships #bodies #sacredunion #tantra #curiosity #slowdown #nervoussystemregulation #somatichealing #couplesgoals #lovelife #love #yin #yang #differentnotless taken in Australia by @true.intimacy

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Pleasure is very much a part of being human, and is incredibly good for our nervous systems, relieving stress, connecting us to our inner selves and helping us connect to others, even helping with pain management.
Yet so any of us have blocks to pleasure through nervous system disregulation, emotional blocks, deep wounding, conditioning and trauma. So this has to be gently addressed first.
Pleasure is healing -it is literally medicine.
#pleasurematters #pleasureactivism #eros #intimacycoach by @true.intimacy

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This year my work with couples- helping people in relationships have better, more satisfying intimacy, has far outweighed any other service I offer.

People are really struggling out there, struggling to connect physically and emotionally, not knowing how to make room for each other’s needs and still honour their own, finding it impossible to initiate S. ex, or not having the skills to navigate the inevitable blocks that are in long term love.

Stress and busyness are a big factor. Stress has a HUGE effect on relationships.
As are changing hormones, being new parents, and other big changes in life.

Most people don’t know why they act the way they do, even though they find themselves in the same pattern over and over. Attachment styles greatly influence and affect intimacy.
As does conditioning- the beliefs we pick up that shape us -yet do not serve us, these are a massive factor in your intimacy impasse as well.
I help you navigate all this and more.
My books are full for couples work until mid October when I’ll be taking on new clients.

Make sure you’re on the waiting list to finish off this year knowing you’re finally working on it

S. ex and intimacy are vital aspects of a healthy, loving, long term relationship.
#longtermrelationship #couplesgoals #eros by @true.intimacy

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2 months ago

You can’t force a flower open 🌹

SO many people do not know that it takes a women’s body an average 20-45 minutes to be fully aroused.
To have her full lady bone r😉

We understand that a man’s erection is pretty important to him, yet dismiss the existence of the c lit-oral erection. Or we know it but STILL don’t honour it, even in our own bodies. (People pleasing is often at play here, as is not feeling ‘enough’, or feeling that you’re ’too much work’. Intimacy coaching will help you navigate these imprints)

Rushing to penetrate her means she misses out on all that potential sensation and plea sure. She literally won’t feel as much internally if her lady bone isn’t engorged. Remember a good part of it is internal, too!

When she is rushed she may feel pain. She might feel irritated. Sad. Disappointed. Bored or distracted. She may feel like something is missing. She may feel pressured. Or that she has to rush herself. She may develop aversion to touch. She may fully check out.

She might feel nothing much at all.

None of that is good s. Ex

We all deserve good s. Ex and plea sure. When we get it good, we want more, that’s just natural!

Rushing towards P in V s. Ex like fumbling teens should not be happening.
Yet I see it in my work with couples and individuals all the time.

Can we commit, right now, to understand our arousal pattern or that of our partners?
And to never enter or allow ourselves to be entered before we are a full bodied, physiological Fck yes?

Share me an emoji for your committment or your fck yes.
And share this with a friend who knows!

#equalityinthebedroom #pleasureisthemeasure #fullyes #ladyboner by @true.intimacy

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5 months ago

Please don’t believe that your desire and capacity for ssl intimacy naturally declines in midlife.

This myth is perpetuated by the Patriarchy ( yes that P word, but it’s damn true) that is so damaging for both women and men.

The idea that women lose their capacity for pleas sure once no longer fertile is about as ugly a lie as you can get.

Midlife is a time of expansion and taking up more space, and centering your own needs at last - including in the bedroom.

Even if you’ve lost your spark in the tumult of life and kids and hormonal changes, it doesn’t have to stay this way.
Losing the ability to access raw desire is certainly not my experience or that of many of my peers and clients.

We all deserve plea sure. It’s something that flow through us and lights us up.

Midlife women deserve plea sure -and on her terms - at last.
And centring her enjoyment and with her innate pacing in mind is the way forward.

Links in bio to find out more
#couplesgoals #longtermrelationship #menopause #eros by @true.intimacy

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5 months ago

One of the reason that s. Ex gets better ( or very much should ) as you mature is that you start to realise that the standard model we have been given isn’t really serving anyone. Yep- Not even guys.

This month’s True Intimacy Matters newsletter discusses what happens when we stop organising s. Ex around a goal and start to organise it around Plea sure.
Because….
✨Plea sure is the measure ✨

#couplesgoals #pleasurematters #eros #pleasureisthemeasure by @true.intimacy

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5 months ago

I’m hearing from the women I work with that they value intimacy and do want to have s x with their long term partner, but it’s become another thing they have to effort through.
Rush themselves into.
This is quite simply not fair.
It’s missing the point of intimacy.

When we slow r i g h t down, take expectations off the table, get close and connect skin to skin without time pressures, with pleasure as the only measure… when we can relax and sink into the experience- well THAT is what makes for great s.
That’s what women need. S from a place of a down regulated nervous system. (Not as something they have to do to keep the peace)

No goal, no performance from either person, not forcing oneself to hurry up or reach for something- not trying to match his pace, not trying to make something happen - and certainly not enduring, either.

When we slow down and relax into ourselves and each other’s experience, the magic of ssl intimacy is apparent ✨
A wonderful, deeply connecting, highly pleasurable, mutually satisfying part of life that’s integral to a healthy, happy relationship. To live only like roommates or even best friends is NOT what you chose your partner for….

If you need guidance, I help couples and individuals who are not having s, or not having the kind of s, intimacy and pleasure they desire, to bring this special magic back into their relationship.

Links in bio

#pleasureisthemeasure #longtermrelationship #couplesgoals #slowdown intimacycoach by @true.intimacy

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6 months ago

In my practice, I see a lot of women with pelvic tension. Not just severe tension - which can manifest as vaginismus, pain during s. Ex or inability to have penetrative intimacy- but also just low grade chronic tension and a holding pattern that keeps her from embracing her full ssl expression.

This area is SO full of nerves and has SO much potential for pleasure and I think maybe this is why it gets so affected by anxiety and stress, because it’s very much linked to the nervous system through all these networks.

Pleasure is our birthright!! You can reclaim it!!

If this is something that’s relevant to you reach out.
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#pelvicfloordysfunction #trauma #pleasurematters #vaginismus #painduringsex by @true.intimacy

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Things do come in waves and this year people are presenting to me with big issues around initiating intimacy- not being able to, feeling blocked, not liking the way it’s done, feeling awkward or ashamed, feeling the ‘ick’, being so very worried you’re doing the wrong thing- all of it this and more.

Often, couples get so out of practice or even fully stuck that the s. Ex just stops happening and next thing they’re heading towards a s ex less marriage.

It’s no small thing!
That’s a big deal for most people. Because we didn’t get together to be roommates, right?

I’ve written all about it in this month’s edition of True Intimacy Matters

Link ⬆️ up ⬆️ above ⬆️

#longtermrelationship #sexlessmarriage #pleasurematters #intimacymatters by @true.intimacy

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7 months ago

I had to reinstall this app in order to make this reel. I’ll delete it again in a few days.
This is my new pattern.

I’m finding it hard to find a reason to be on here much. It’s SO distracting, disturbing- my algorithm only gives me things to worry hard about. So divisive, too

I’m on my phone less, so posting less and finding more time for other things.
My business flows on regardless.
My client schedule is just the way I like it.

When I see my man, I want to be present with him. I want to know what he’s been thinking about, not some random influencer.

Sure I get distracted at times or have to text my kids or handle some drama or client issue, but when I’m with him I don’t want to be on my phone and off in my own world ( or the world that IG has chosen for me)

If you’re spending less time on socials too, I invite you to connect via my monthly newsletter ‘True Intimacy Matters’

On good old fashioned email I get to share what I’ve been seeing, thinking, feeling and studying about s. Ex, love, intimacy, relationships, and the way our nervous system, conditioning, beliefs, experiences and culture affect them all.

And I get to share it on email in my own voice, without c e n s u r e

Link-in-bio to sign up

You also get first access to masterclasses,
in-person events, courses and special offers on coaching

Social media leaves our nervous system wanting. Be very careful of it taking up more time than it deserves. I’m seeing screen use undermining clients with good relationships.

#putthefuckingphonedown
#trueintimacy #lovematters #sexmatters #pleasurematters by @true.intimacy

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7 months ago

Women- what’s your favourite thing about your favourite men?
Men- what’s your favourite thing about being a man?
Is it muscles and net worth 😉?

Please do let people know in the comments

#polarising #socialcontrol #division #dividedwefall by @true.intimacy

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