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Vanessa M. Reiser, LCSW

@vanessareiserlcsw

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Mom, Therapist, Author, Ironman, Narcissistic/Cult Abuse Expert. I run states in a wedding dress 4 narcissistic abuse. BOOK & PODCAST in linktree 👇

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Hi Everyone!

**Tis the season for giving!** 🎁🎄✨ Want a chance to win a FREE copy of my book?!

With the recent release of my book on October 29, 2024, I wanted to get everyone’s bookshelf nice and full with this tremendous resource.

I am excited to be raffling off a signed copy of my book “Narcissistic Abuse; A Therapist’s Guide to Identifying, Escaping and Healing from Toxic and Manipulative People” this year on December 20th. Right in time for the holidays! I am excited to choose someone from my Instagram following to send this amazing book to. As you probably know, I am super passionate about spreading awareness around this insidious form of domestic violence.

My book aims to fuse the concepts of cult abuse and narcissistic abuse.

Here’s how you enter the lottery:

1️⃣ Make sure you’re following me on Instagram @Vanessareiserlcsw

2️⃣ Like and share this post

3️⃣ DM my Instagram account with your Name & Mailing Address. This will remain anonymous.

4️⃣ Tag three of your friends that are not already following me on this post

5️⃣ Selection process is now open and closes on December 20, 2024

6️⃣ We will be announcing the winner on December 21, 2024

7️⃣ Selection process will be your name picked from a lottery

Official Rules: This is not endorsed, sponsored, administrated by or associated with Instagram. To be considered you are agreeing to be bound by the legal terms
I outlined in the video of this post.

Good Luck!

Order my book here: Narcissistic Abuse: A Therapist’s Guide to Identifying, Escaping, and Healing from Toxic and Manipulative People:

https://www.hachettebookgroup.com/titles/vanessa-reiser/narcissistic-abuse/9780306833175/?lens=hachette-go

Link to my book in bio!

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Disclaimer: My posts are not therapy or about one person. by @vanessareiserlcsw

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This was such a gift! @navigatingnarcissismpod @doctorramani by @vanessareiserlcsw

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Literally me with the glasses. @janefowlerrobinson by @vanessareiserlcsw

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🎙️ DAVE AND I CONTINUE TO UNPACK THE ANN MARIE ALLISON EPISODE!

What happens when a narcissist manipulates the couples therapist, too?

In this clip from Narcissistic Abuse with Vanessa Reiser, Dave and I discuss the ethical complexities of couples therapy when narcissistic abuse and coercive control are present.

The abuser may appear charming and reasonable, while the victim seems anxious, reactive, or dysregulated. Without understanding abuse dynamics, clinicians can unintentionally reinforce the very harm they’re supposed to address.

Abuse isn’t a communication problem. It’s a power and control problem.

Recognizing the difference can be the first step toward reclaiming safety, autonomy, and freedom.

🎧 Listen wherever you get your podcasts! Link in bio.

💜 Education is protection. Awareness is empowerment. Healing is a radical rebellion.

#NarcissisticAbuse #CoerciveControl #CouplesTherapy #Gaslighting #DomesticAbuse by @vanessareiserlcsw

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Anybody feel this way some days? by @vanessareiserlcsw

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❤️ Friends, lots of laughs and Teddy Swims, who was absolutely amazing! 🎶 There’s nothing like making memories with people you genuinely enjoy being around. Life is good and I’m grateful! 🥰🥂

@teddyswims : You were Brilliant ✨ taken in Washington, DC by @vanessareiserlcsw

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🎙️ DAVE AND I CONTINUE TO UNPACK THE ANN MARIE ALLISON EPISODE
Sometimes the voice telling you to leave isn’t a scream. It’s a whisper.
In this clip from Narcissistic Abuse with Vanessa Reiser, Dave and I continue unpacking my conversation with Ann Marie Allison, and I share something deeply personal about my own experience escaping narcissistic abuse.
There were little whispers along the way. Moments when something inside me was telling me to get out. To leave. To save myself.
And then there was one whisper that I finally listened to.
GO. NOW. FLEE.
I remember recognizing a window of opportunity because my abuser was high on marijuana. Based on my experience with him, I believed he would be calmer and less dangerous in that moment.
So I left.
That was not luck. That was survival. That was my nervous system assessing danger, recognizing patterns, and identifying what I believed was the safest opportunity to escape.
People often ask survivors, “Why didn’t you just leave?”
What they don’t understand is that leaving an abusive relationship can be one of the most dangerous moments. Survivors are constantly calculating risk, anticipating reactions, and looking for an opportunity to get out safely.
Sometimes survival means listening to the quietest voice inside you when everything around you is telling you to stay.
And sometimes that whisper saves your life.
🎧 Listen to Dave and me continue unpacking the Ann Marie Allison episode on Narcissistic Abuse with Vanessa Reiser, available wherever you listen to podcasts. Link in bio.
💜 If you’re experiencing abuse, you deserve support and a safety plan tailored to your circumstances. In the U.S., contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-SAFE (7233) or visit thehotline.org.
#NarcissisticAbuse #NarcissisticAbuseRecovery #CoerciveControl #DomesticViolenceAwareness #SurvivorStories by @vanessareiserlcsw

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🎙️ DAVE AND I UNPACK THE @reelannmarieallison EPISODE
In this clip from Narcissistic Abuse with Vanessa Reiser, Dave and I talk about a truth that can be incredibly difficult to accept when you are trying to leave a narcissistic relationship:
You can get away the hard way, or the hard way.
There is no easy way out.
You can leave today and face the grief, fear, uncertainty, withdrawal, rebuilding, and discomfort that come with breaking a trauma bond.
Or you can leave years from now and face many of those same things, after giving the relationship even more of your time, energy, peace, and life.
That does not mean leaving is simple. It isn’t. People stay for complicated reasons, including children, finances, fear, culture, isolation, trauma bonding, and coercive control.
But waiting does not necessarily make the exit easier.
Sometimes the choice is not between hard and easy.
It is between hard now and hard later.
And time is one thing we never get back.
🎧 Dave and I continue unpacking my conversation with Ann Marie Allison, producer of You’re Dating a Narcissist, on Narcissistic Abuse with Vanessa Reiser. Link in bio.
#NarcissisticAbuse #NarcissisticAbuseRecovery #TraumaBond #CoerciveControl by @vanessareiserlcsw

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🎙️ NEW EPISODE ALERT!

Dave and I are back breaking down my conversation with @reelannmarieallison the producer of @youredatinganarcissistmovie 🎬

We dig into how to tell a story that captures the REAL weight and danger of narcissistic abuse without making it seem like a Hollywood thriller about a serial killer.

Because the truth is, abuse doesn’t always look terrifying. Sometimes it looks like the perfect partner, the charming personality, or the person everyone else thinks is wonderful. Behind closed doors, the reality can be entirely different.

That’s why representation matters. We need films that show the seriousness of this kind of abuse, help people recognize the red flags, and expose the manipulation that can keep someone stuck in a toxic relationship. ❤️‍🩹

🎧 Tune in to Narcissistic Abuse with Vanessa Reiser and listen wherever you get your podcasts! Link in bio.

#NarcissisticAbuse #YoureDatingANarcissist #VanessaReiser #CoerciveControl #TraumaBond by @vanessareiserlcsw

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🎙️ NEW EPISODE DROPPING TODAY!

Dave and I are back unpacking my conversation with @reelannmarieallison the producer of @youredatinganarcissistmovie 🎬

We talk about something so important: how do you make a movie that is HEAVY enough to shine a light on the very real dangers of narcissistic abuse without turning it into a movie about a serial killer?

Because narcissistic abuse doesn’t always look like something out of a horror movie. It can look charming, loving, successful, and completely normal from the outside. And that’s exactly what makes it so dangerous.

We need stories that help people recognize the red flags, understand the psychological manipulation, and see the danger BEFORE they’re trapped in it.

This conversation is about storytelling, awareness, and why getting narcissistic abuse right matters so much. ❤️‍🩹

🎧 Listen to the new episode of Narcissistic Abuse with Vanessa Reiser wherever you get your podcasts! Link in bio.

#NarcissisticAbuse #YoureDatingANarcissist #VanessaReiser #CoerciveControl #TraumaBond by @vanessareiserlcsw

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🎙️ ANN MARIE ALLISON ON NARCISSISTIC ABUSE WITH VANESSA REISER
In this clip from my conversation with @reelannmarieallison producer of @youredatinganarcissistmovie we talk about one of the most unsettling parts of healing from narcissistic abuse.
You are not just grieving the relationship.
You are grieving what you believed about people.
You may be realizing, sometimes for the first time, that there are people in the world who can lie, manipulate, exploit, and hurt others with very little empathy or remorse.
That realization can be chilling.
For survivors, part of the trauma is not only what happened inside the relationship. It is the collapse of your assumptions about human behavior, trust, safety, and what you thought other people were capable of.
And that is a different kind of grief.
Healing means rebuilding your ability to trust yourself, recognize patterns, and understand that seeing the darkness more clearly does not mean you have to live in fear of it.
🎧 Listen to my full conversation with Ann Marie Allison on Narcissistic Abuse with Vanessa Reiser. Link in bio.
#NarcissisticAbuse #NarcissisticAbuseRecovery #AnnMarieAllison #YoureDatingANarcissist by @vanessareiserlcsw

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