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Annie Kay

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Choosing to live life, not survive it.
Body positive. Funny. Healing. Relatable.
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Another field trip for the books! Wade Robby Jr. said it was super sick. by @wrade.co

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I had this idea that when I became a mom, that’s all I would be. I would eat, sleep and breathe motherhood because that’s what I signed up for. While I was full send, breathing all things mom, I was suffocated myself slowly. Motherhood became something I felt like I was constantly failing at, something I couldn’t keep up with. One forgotten signature and I was beating myself up for days because good moms don’t do that. I was sinking into my failures every single day. Myself was non existent, the things I loved, the joy of my own experiences was something I could hardly remember feeling. One day, after therapy and the reassurance I do not need to be perfect to be a mom, I decided I was going to stop. My mindset shifted and things became less intense. A forgotten signature became a common mishap instead of a grenade for a mental spiral. I don’t want to be perfect anymore. I just wanted to be their mom. Imperfect, playful, optimistic, loving. I wanted them to see I could still feel my own experiences while still living in theirs. I didn’t need to just be Henry and Wade’s mom, I could be Annie, Henry and Wade’s mom. I could still keep myself alive in motherhood and that’s what I’m doing. by @wrade.co

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We’re cool but we can be toxic.

PEOPLE PLEASING: We say yes when we should say no, then we get angry when people take too much from us.

SCANNING THE ROOM: We react to tiny changes in people’s behavior or facial expressions assuming something MIGHT be wrong.

EXPECTING AWARENESS: You notice everything about everyone and when they don’t read you, like you read them, you feel unimportant or invisible.

BECOMING THE RESCUER: This is a big one.. you’ve become so used to being the fixer, the one they turn to, the one who can carry the emotional weight for them until you’re own weight becomes too heavy. You crash out, it becomes too much.

DISAPPEARING: This plays into the last one, we end up emotionally exhausting ourselves from taking on everyone’s emotions, being the fixer, scanning for mood changes, being the thermostat in social environments.. we start to feel like shutting everyone out is the only way to recover..

If you can relate, drop a 🤍 below. by @wrade.co

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6 days ago

Let the Halloween festivities begin! We still need our official costumes but we made do tonight. by @wrade.co

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It’s going to be really embarrassing at week 6 when it still looks the same. by @wrade.co

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The pain doesn’t disappear, it changes hands.
Mental illness can narrow your world until you can no longer see beyond the pain that you’re standing in.
So when your own reasons to stay feel impossible, borrow someone else’s for a while. You’re reason enough to someone. by @wrade.co

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9 days ago

I stopped reaching for the people who would never reach back.
I think the hardest part of losing relationships is wondering if you’re the only one holding memories you created together, or if those memories never meant to them what they mean to you.
In my darkest moments I would try and reach out to these people. Not for their sympathy, not to talk about my problems, I had those buried inside me. But I wanted to make sure the people I cared about weren’t feeling the way I was. My heart would break if I found out they were struggling and I never offered my ear, hand or shoulder. Sadly, that wasn’t done for me. So my therapist told me to stop reaching, my heart broke everyday they never reached out to me. They still haven’t. The hardest year of my life, crickets. The good news is, I have amazing people in my life that reach out, love me and cherish the relationship we’ve created. Though I’ve grieved these other relationships, this year has really illuminated the ones that take me unconditionally and as I am. The ones who answer back. Whether that’s right away, in a few days, maybe weeks. I’m a prize. An amazing person to have in your corner, I recognize that and it’s too valuable to give to people who can’t see it. I’ll always love them, my door will always be open, but I’m different now. by @wrade.co

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They call me Henry’s mom. This field trip was one of my favorites. And yes, I’ve decided to no longer post my children’s faces. by @wrade.co

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I’m freaking serious this time. by @wrade.co

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18 days ago

You get extra points in heaven for choosing second hand. by @wrade.co

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19 days ago

Alright babe, your turn is up. by @wrade.co

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21 days ago

Oh well. I’ve had so many amazing conversations with so many women after posting about my stretch marks and loose skin.. I didn’t realize how many people I would end up engaging and going deep with. Then there have been those messages and comments that try to tear you down.. “try” being the key word. For all of the good there will always be bad and I’ve always known that. Good thing my loose freaky skin is thick. 😉 by @wrade.co

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