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3 days ago

How to plan the next 3 months so you actually hit your goals:

Ok but what’s ONE thing you want to make happen before 2027?? 🥹✨

PSSST speaking of... if you want help turning your dreams into reality, comment ‘dream’ and I’ll send you my workbook!! 🍀

Hi I’m xinyi (‘shin-yee’)! A 32yo software engineer sharing how I’m living an unconventional, intentional, and playful life beyond the 9-5 (digital nomading, not living with my hubby, community building @dontbestrangers, language learning (español + 中文), and making art + content)! ✨yes, I’m a side quest maxxer 🤭

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A reminder to use your freewill!!!

🥹 btw hi I’m xinyi (“shin-yee”) & I’m a multipassionte building a playful life beyond the 9-5!!

If this resonates, I’m building + launching a Lucky Girl Club!! 🍀 is a 1 month course + community where we make our own luck!! 🍀

Starts Sep 1!!!

what's included:

🍀3 live group workshop calls to help you design and live your MOST playful + intentional life

🍀 group chat for accountability + wins

🍀 a community of girls who are doing the same (I have 4 years of exp connecting with people so I PROMISE I will connect you with some very cool girlies EVEN if you’re an introvert like me bc I design everything with the introvert in mind 🥹)

🍀 direct access to me for Q&A

If you’ve ever said to yourself “universe, please show me how good life can get”…

comment "lucky" to join the waitlist!!

Ps. If you know a bestie who would do this with you, please send this to them! 💌 by @xinyixan

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3 months ago

Ever feel like everyone else got “overnight success” while you’re still figuring it out?? 😩

no one’s overnight!! it’s just the slow, boring, consistent part nobody posts about 🥹

what’s something YOU’VE been building slowly?? tell me below 👇

if this resonated and you want to help fight adult loneliness, follow @dontbestrangers!! every follow helps us reach more people who need a friend 🍀

Hi I’m xinyi (‘shin-yee’)! A 32yo software engineer sharing how I’m living an unconventional, intentional, and playful life beyond the 9-5 to inspire you to do the same (digital nomading, not living with my hubby, community building @dontbestrangers, language learning (español + 中文), and making art + content)! ✨yes, I’m a side quest maxxer 🤭

adult loneliness, community building, how to make friends as an adult, building a community from scratch, overnight success myth, women’s retreat, introvert friendships, Don’t Be Strangers, slow growth, side quest maxxing #adultloneliness #makingfriendsasanadult #communitybuilding #womenscommunity #introvertfriendships taken in Dallas, Texas by @xinyixan

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Ever asked urself “should I keep going or is it time to quit??” 😩

lucky girls’ don’t burn out: a workshop on resilience, release, and realignment 🥹 come journal, reflect, and have some breakthroughs with me!!

comment “BURNOUT” and I’ll send you the direct link to RSVP 🍀

Hiii I’m xinyi (‘shin-yee’)! A 32yo software engineer sharing how I’m living an unconventional, intentional, and playful life beyond the 9-5 to inspire you to do the same! ✨ (and running @dontbestrangers, a community against adult loneliness, since 2021 🤍)

#burnoutrecovery #selfcare #personalgrowth #mentalwellness #womensworkshop

burnout workshop, online workshop, burnout recovery, how to avoid burnout, resilience workshop, should I quit, when to quit, how to know when to quit, work life balance, 9-5 burnout, software engineer burnout, journaling workshop, guided journaling, self reflection, realignment, reconnect with your values, creative burnout, women’s workshop, virtual event, community event, Don’t Be Strangers, Lucky Girl Club, side quest maxxing by @xinyixan

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7 days ago

not me realizing I’ll probably call myself a “72yo girl” someday 🤭

age really is just a number when your vitality comes from your values, not your birthday!!

What are your values and how young do they make you feel? 👇

mine are:

👯‍♀️community (sisterhood)
🦁courage (growth is on the other side of fear!!)
🔬curiosity (student of life)

Pssst. if you don’t want to turn 72 one day and realize that your life was only ever “ok/fine/boring” (or even feeling completely lost most of your life???), and you’re ready for the version of you that’s actually living — playful, intentional, on purpose — this is your sign!!! 👀

lucky girl club 🍀 1 month to completely redesign your life (starts Oct 1!)

🍀 3 live workshops to map out YOUR version of a playful, intentional life
🍀 a workbook that turns “someday” into an actual plan
🍀 24/7 group chat + community so you’re not doing this alone
🍀 direct access to me for the stuff you’re too scared to ask out loud

this is for the girls who keep saying “next year I’ll...” — it’s next year. let’s go!!

I’m going to teach you how to ask better questions + how to start on the projects that you’ve been too scared or too perfectionist to start!!!

comment ‘lucky’ to learn more!!! 🍀

Hi I’m xinyi (“shin-yee”)! A 32yo software engineer sharing how I’m living an unconventional, intentional, and playful life beyond the 9-5 to inspire you to do the same! ✨

32yo girl, ageless, values, personal growth, community, sisterhood, courage, curiosity, playful life, intentional living, lucky girl club, side quest maxxing by @xinyixan

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8 days ago

people always think digital nomading = vacation, but…

PSSST. if you’re tired of a life that is “ok/fine/boring” (or even feeling completely lost???) and ready for the version of you that’s actually living — playful, intentional, on purpose — this is your sign!!! 👀

Lucky Girl Club has an online workshop is THIS SUNDAY 🍀

🍀 Lucky Girls Don’t Burn Out: workshop on resilience, release, realignment

Have you asked yourself, “Should I keep going or is it time to quit?” hen let’s answer this question together, here! Through guided exercises and thoughtful discussion, you will learn practical frameworks for evaluating your projects, relationships, and creative endeavors.

Comment ‘Lucky’ to sign up! 🍀

Hi I’m xinyi (‘shin-yee’)! A 32yo software engineer sharing how I’m living an unconventional, intentional, and playful life beyond the 9-5 to inspire you to do the same (digital nomading, not living with my hubby, community building, language learning, and making art + content)! ✨yes, I’m a side quest maxxer 🤭

day in the life, digital nomad, Mexico City, CDMX, solo travel, software engineer, side quest maxxing, Lucky Girl Club, junk journaling, café hopping, playful life, intentional living taken in Mexico City by @xinyixan

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9 days ago

No, I don’t live with my hubby & this is how I have difficult convos to stay true to myself!!

💖 Example conversation: I adore you and deeply cherish our friendship but recently I’ve been feeling exhausted from too much activity and need to recharge by myself as an introvert. I’m scared to let you down by saying I can’t hang out, but I’m even more scared that if I keep saying yes, I’ll burn myself out and start to dread seeing you.

And then I would let go of expectations of how this conversation will go!!

🥺 I really value my time and energy, and if someone can’t respect my boundaries even when I lead like this, then I know this person isn’t for me.

Hi I’m xinyi (“shin-yee”)! A 32yo software engineer sharing how I’m living an unconventional, intentional, and playful life beyond the 9-5 to inspire you to do the same! ✨

Pssst. if you’re and ready for the version of you that’s really good at setting boundaries and ACTUALLY living — playful, intentional, on purpose — this is your sign!!! 👀

lucky girl club 🍀 1 month to completely redesign your life (starts Oct 1!)

🍀 3 live workshops to map out YOUR version of a playful, intentional life

🍀 a workbook that turns “someday” into an actual plan

🍀 24/7 group chat + community so you’re not doing this alone

🍀 direct access to me for the stuff you’re too scared to ask out loud

this is for the girls who keep saying “next year I’ll...” — it’s next year. let’s go!!

I’m going to teach you how to ask better questions + to how to start on the projects that you’ve been too scared or too perfectionist to start!!!

comment ‘lucky’ to learn more!!! 🍀

authenticity, vulnerability, friendship boundaries, self-love, Asian American identity, people pleasing, introvert friendships, emotional honesty, healthy boundaries, leading with love, fear of rejection, being seen, self-discovery, relationship advice, personal growth, boundary setting, communication skills, introvert vs extrovert, self-worth, letting go of expectations by @xinyixan

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how I went from feeling stuck to moving into my own apartment at 32, growing this account from 1k to 3k+, hosting retreats, and traveling— all while working my 9-5:

I use this exact 4-step method every quarter to reset & refocus. slide through for the full breakdown 💖

comment how you’re locking in below, and save this post — open it back up Jan 1 2027 and see how many goals you hit!!

Hi I’m xinyi (“shin-yee”)! A 32yo software engineer sharing how I’m living an unconventional, intentional, and playful life beyond the 9-5 to inspire you to do the same ✨

PS — if you want to do this in good company, join Lucky Girl Club 🍀 comment “lucky” if you want in on the next round!!

lock in, goal setting, lucky girl syndrome, 2027 goals, playful living, intentional living, side quest maxxing, Don’t Be Strangers, women’s retreats taken in Dallas, Texas by @xinyixan

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17 days ago

feeling like you didn’t belong anywhere as a kid might be the reason you get to live like this now 🥹✨

Hi I’m xinyi (“shin-yee”)! A 32yo software engineer sharing how I’m living an unconventional, intentional, and playful life beyond the 9-5 to inspire you to do the same! ✨

Pssst. if you’re tired of a life that is “ok/fine” (or even feeling completely lost???) and ready for the version of you that’s actually living — playful, intentional, on purpose — this is your sign!!! 👀

lucky girl club 🍀 1 month to completely redesign your life (starts Oct 1!)

🍀 3 live workshops to map out YOUR version of a playful, intentional life

🍀 a workbook that turns “someday” into an actual plan

🍀 24/7 group chat + community so you’re not doing this alone

🍀 direct access to me for the stuff you’re too scared to ask out loud

this is for the girls who keep saying “next year I’ll...” — it’s next year. let’s go!!

I’m going to teach you how to ask better questions + to how to start on the projects that you’ve been too scared or too perfectionist to start!!!

comment ‘lucky’ to learn more!!! 🍀

luckiest girl, third culture kid, growing up between cultures, adult loneliness, don’t be strangers, intentional living, playful life, side quest maxxing, immigrant story by @xinyixan

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1. I fear I will never be good at anything because I want to try everything. I am multi-passionate and this pained me for most of my life that I didn’t feel like I belonged anywhere in terms of a niche. If I go to a tech conference, I also feel like an imposter despite working in the field for almost a decade because I don’t read about tech constantly and barely think about it outside of my job. 😩

2. I carry the burden of eldest daughter to immigrant parents. I can’t stop worrying about everyone and everything. How will I take care of my little sister when she needs another heart surgery? Will my parents be ok? When do I need to move back in with them so that I can take care of them? The chronic stress is embedded into my body, and I am also worried if I don’t address this now, I’ll havehealth problems sooner or later. 😵

3. I have “wasted” $20,000+ on failed projects where I wanted to explore alternative career paths, including an eComm business I wanted to try on Amazon. I ultimately had to liquidate all my physical stock from storage warehouses bc I couldn’t keep going and it didn’t make sense anymore. But even looking back, I knew I had to try to learn that physical products wasn’t for me. In some ways, it’s not a waste at all, but an investment in my continuing education. 📚

4. I had such a deep sense of shame growing up Asian American. Feeling not Asian enough when I go back to Malaysia and not American enough to fit in. I tried to punish myself by learning Mandarin bc I wanted to reconnect with my roots. Then any time anyone spoke to me in Chinese, I was too embarrassed to reply because I didn’t want to be exposed for being a fake Asian. (I’ve since overcome this and fully embrace my mixed identity and study Mandarin for funsies!) 🥹

Which resonates the most?

Hi I’m xinyi (“shin-yee”)! A 32yo software engineer sharing how I’m living an unconventional, intentional, and playful life beyond the 9-5 to inspire you to do the sam!! & no I don’t live with my hubby ✨ by @xinyixan

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19 days ago

You won’t believe what happened 🙈🙈

I loved making this video so much because I feel like it highlights my silly-ness. 🥰 my husband was the biggest pot twist in my life as someone who is aromantic and was completely convinced that she would die alone (in a good way!!) !! but I’m not mad at all about how things turned out 🥹

I think the moral of the story is that if you allow it, universe will always show you how good life can get!!

Hi I’m xinyi (“shin-yee”)! A 32yo shy software engineer sharing how I’m living an unconventional, intentional, and playful life beyond the 9-5 to inspire you to do the same! ✨btw I don’t live to my hubby 🤍

Ps. yes, I’m a side quest maxxer: digital nomading, community building @dontbestrangers, language learning (español + 中文）, and making art + content 🤭 by @xinyixan

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