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@allthemorezo

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✨welcome to the deep end✨😵‍💫🥹
30-something asking big questions + doing the scary thing
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TBH I was pissed when he left. Not just from the messiness of our relationship. I was 24, suddenly solo, juggling student loans and a pricey San Francisco apartment. 🫠

We stayed friends as best we could, but it took nearly a decade to unpack repressed resentment and genuinely appreciate how things turned out.

If it weren’t for Mike leaving, I might be a… financial advisor?

In this economy?! 🙂‍↔️

Thank you, Mike. Think of you whenever “Collard Greens” plays.

Here’s to celebrating the people in our lives every day, and recognizing the moments that changed everything 🥂

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exes | gratitude | butterfly effect taken in San Francisco, California by @allthemorezo

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a year ago

💪🐔still the reigning chicken fight champ

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It can be challenging to have lasting connections as a traveler because everyone is on their own itinerary. You can have THE MOST fun with people, and even have a night sharing secrets, but it hits different when you’re spending time with someone who you don’t have to explain context to; someone who knows you.

I love getting deep quickly with folks, however, building real trust and intimacy with most people takes time. I haven’t seen a lot of people talk about this part of long term travel (although maybe it’s just my nook of the internet).

Putting myself out there to say hello or check-in; being curious, patient, and open to meeting each person where they’re at (physically and emotionally), has been so important in making and keeping friends.

Fortunately I’ve crossed paths with incredible people who make me feel warm and cozy in any corner of the world.
 Thank you to:
🛹 @tobyhousesiargao for taking me to malinao rd
🥰 @aker_fry @its_gianni for flying to the philippines to hang out
🏄🏻‍♀️ @chlonavarro for being my creative muse
🦪 Ivan, @ronnronnturonn @nerbelle @alfredjuen @jessalynnnnnnnnnnn for being the best guides and letting me hustle you at ping pong
📸 @cjverde.foto for capturing me in my best light
🤿 @hellobrends and all the freediving besties
🤘 @monicaroams for always being down + bringing the girlies together for the best trip ever
@onedayiwillbeafamous for being my dive buddy
👯‍♀️ @kylieabroad_ + @kwek.angela for being down to clown (and dragging me to Catangnan Bridge that one day) by @allthemorezo

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When I’m not stress dumping on my friends and colleagues, I try to self-regulate my anxiety with lessons learned while freediving:
1️⃣ Lean into the moment. Struggle doesnt come from difficulty, it comes from trying to avoid it. When I surrender, I can observe ways the environment supports me!
2️⃣ Physical state cues the mental state; are my shoulders up to my ears? Relax the body and the mind will follow (use this one often driving on the 405 🤪)
3️⃣ Take a breathe up. This is a belly breathing exercise that helps to slow heart rate (among other helpful things).
4️⃣ There are tacos to be had if I can get through this 🌮

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A special thank you to @karibbeanmermaids for letting me tail you on this adventure 🧜‍♀️, and to the many people who endure my stress dumping when I’m too unconscious to self-regulate. 🫶

#freediverlife #cozumelmexico #shipwreckdiving #shipwreck #freedivinglife #freedivetothefuture #mexicomagico taken in Cozumel, México by @allthemorezo

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🌀 One of many reflections over the last month in Lombok.

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I love spending time alone — actually I need it 😅 — but living in a moment with others ties a knot that strings us together as we carry that memory throughout our lives.

This past month I had the gift of not only sharing my favorite activities: diving, learning the ocean, harassing people for their heaviest feelings, experiencing different ways of living, etc; but also seeing it all through the eyes of people who were doing it all for their first time.

The world struck them and their awe struck me.

Is this why people become parents? 😅

TYSM to the 🪸gili gang🪸 for the trust and for being the best group a gal could adventure with!

~tampiasih~ is ~thank you~ in sasak, the provincial dialect of lombok. 💛

Indonesia’s national language is ~bahasa indonesia~, but because ID is such a huge and sprawling country with many different indigenous ethnic groups, I’m trying to learn both 😇 — connecting with Lombok feels different from connecting with Bali, Java, etc. by @allthemorezo

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you never know who’s gonna match your vibe ✨❤️‍🔥

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This is Sasha! I liked her outfit and let her know. A few minutes and several questions later, I learned she left corporate to travel and began building skills in new fields: becoming director of marketing at a youth leadership nonprofit and jumping into sales as a travel agent. She’s also been building a lot outside of her career. In between late night boogies, moonlight swims, and returns to our fave @pulo.lombok; I also learned that she’s someone who makes people feel safe ~ and ~ someone who has gone through a lot of change over the past few years—the kind of changes that lead you to face who you want to be and how you want to live.

Loss of community or making new friends as an adult comes up as a concern when I talk about long-term travel. Transience doesn’t make connection easier, but I’ve found depth meets the extent of your own vulnerability. To make friends, you’ve gotta be friendly! Initiating contact always feels a bit awkward but we persist; otherwise we wouldn’t have met and produced this banger 😌

I’m so so grateful for all of the people who humour my curiosity — to whatever level they’re willing to meet me at <3

&& Sasha, thank you for the stories, the laughs, and your open heart — excited for where the journey takes you 💓

travel | friends | community taken in Lombok, Indonesia by @allthemorezo

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24 days ago

🙅🏻‍♀️ no means no!! including @ myself!! boundaries (or lack thereof) are a reflection of my choices!

runner-ups include:
💸 paying rent and debts for people I will never see again
🤡 hours with misandrists + pro-eugenics
❤️‍🩹 assault

actually maybe these were worse lmao (nothing is worse than scabies though)

#lessonsoflife #breakingthecycle #boundaries by @allthemorezo

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3 months ago

i’ve been aggressively building this life and so grateful for all of it!! un/fortunately i’ve also been speeding through it to experience all👏of👏the👏things, and haven’t spent much time on maintaining the memories 🙈.

the homie @aker_fry / @fry_fpv started sharing some of his reflections (highly rec a peep, the boi is talented 📸 ) and that brought me back here: pantai merah!

we stopped here for the day as part of a lil sailing trip around komodo island. i was amused to find intricate corals and ambivalent deer scattered around the beach 🤭 🦌🐚

whenevs people ask me where my fave country is, i pause a bit because everywhere is special in its own way and one city for a few days or weeks isn’t enough to make an absoluteee statement about a whole ass country. BUT if i’m being honest—aka not being contrarian solely because bali already has so many 🔔 —i’ve gotta admit that indonesia has me in a chokehold 😭

🐚💥and tbf she’s already calling me back 💥!! 😅

if she calls you, i’m headed back to Lombok and bringing a crew with @worldpackers.epictrips this September!! we’re giving back to nature with coral gardening alongside island adventures galore 🥹🪸

kk love you bye!! taken in Komodo National Park by @allthemorezo

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home is with the homies ⸜(｡˃ ᵕ ˂ )⸝♡

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actuaaalllyy i’m hosting a zoe activity with @worldpackers, sept 26-oct 3!
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if ya wanna help me restore coral reefs and romp around indonesia this fall… ⤵️ taken in Lombok, Indonesia by @allthemorezo

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hiii! hop in babe, we’re goin to lombok!!!! 🪸

back to the place where i first tried scuba, became a freedive instructor, and fell in love hehe 🫣🌺

if you’re freee… we’ll be there:
🇮🇩 sept 26-oct 3 🇮🇩

🪸i’m in it for the coral restoration but we will be doing a tooon of other stuff with @worldpackers liiikeee sunset hikes, waterfalls, etc.

plus the last time i was in lombok i got called a muscle mamiii 😆💀

comment 🪩 or dm me if you wanna get the details!! there’s a private chat for the homies 😏 taken in Lombok, Indonesia by @allthemorezo

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33 years ago today, this very pregnant woman was pushed around a hospital—alone—between waiting rooms and hallways, basically in labor (‼️). After hours of being dismissed and repeatedly getting confused for another patient (💀) this pregnant lady finally became a mom… mine!

She was 27 when she had her first kid. I can’t imagine how it feels to carry the responsibilities she had, let alone on her own. At the same age, I was exploring the world and redefining what success meant to me. The capacity (and frankly, audacity) to design my life is largely from watching her charging through it. My mom was never going to fit into any boxes, and certainly not a version of motherhood that my lil conditioned baby brain assumed it should look like.

I can’t celebrate my birthday without honoring the lady who made it happen.

✨s/o to @feministabulous, the men doing inner child work, and all the parents out there loving in their unique, infinite, and powerful ways

P.S. highly recommend asking your parents to recount random moments

P.P.S. sometimes you gotta take a few breaths before responding to the way they interpret things, but being curious is 11/10 times more satisfying than being defensive

gratitude | life lessons | love language taken in Chicago, Illinois by @allthemorezo

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To be suuuper clear, Brooke is not a villain in this story. I actually admire Brooke’s capacity to honor herself in elementary school. Being honest about wants and needs is still something I’m working on today.

In the spirit of honesty: growing up I felt like the third wheel in every group. I was a person people could come to, but didn’t feel like the first one they’d invite. A big part of that was my own doing. I didn’t know who I was, so how could anyone else connect with that? (Spoiler: I knew who I was. I was just terrified of embracing that person and getting rejected.)

I tried to fit in wherever I could and be as ~chill~ as possible. To not take up too much space or burden anyone. This taught me how to meet others where they are, but now it comes less from a desire to be likable… and more from the impulse to connect. :)

Thank you to the humans around the world that have humored me over the years. This life is more beautiful with you in it.

🙋🏻‍♀️ For anyone curious—consent was received before sharing this story, but most of the stuff featured has already been shared publicly.
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butterfly effect | friends | childhood | belonging taken in Los Angeles, California by @allthemorezo

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EVERYTHING IS NOT FINE (but it will be)!!! A letter to myself re: landing in aus. adapted from onemorestop.me for IG (in ze bio if you prefer to read over listening to me yap). The last slide with the lesson is kinda worth it tbh 🙂‍↕️

Timtams are delicious biscuits and I recommend them for emotional eating.

✨It took about 21 days to process 5 months of suppressed emotions; 30 days to write about it; another 30 days to slowly pull together footage to relive the emotional processing + get over the urge to avoid being a burden and the anxiety of public expression 🫠🤢

I still wanna throw up!!!

k bye!!!! thanks for being here!!! taken in Maroubra, New South Wales, Australia by @allthemorezo

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