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Kai (they/them)

@becoming_x.kai

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Trans. Queer. Vegan.
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KITTEN SPOTLIGHT

Kai

Yall aren't gonna wanna miss this stellar cast! Spiced Cabaret is excited to bring a stacked lineup of talent to White Horse Inn for 'Hot, Horny, and Heartsick'. Our own little love letter to the baddies and saddies. Featuring music by Nine Inch Nails, Meg Meyers, Deftones, etc

Saturday April 25th @ White Horse Inn Oakland, CA
Doors @ 6
Show @ 7
Tickets $15 Door/Venmo
Eventbrite: https://tinyurl.com/SpicedCabaretHHH
@SpicedCabaret (venmo)
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#burlesque #dragshow #oaklandnightlife #queerart taken in Oakland, California by @becoming_x.kai

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Happy birthday to the love of my life!! It has been amazing to see you change and grow the past 11 years, I’ve loved every version of you more and more. You’re so kind, thoughtful and full of love & fire, I’m so lucky to have you in my life. I’m happy to be celebrating your birthday with you another year. Here’s to turning 35, looking forward to celebrating many more birthdays with you. I love you baby, @tsut.udoni 💖 by @becoming_x.kai

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In love with my masculinity. In love with my femininity. In love with my trans body ❤️‍🔥⛓️🖤

Happy #transdayofvisibility #tdov by @becoming_x.kai

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Frankenstein Ballet w/ @tsut.udoni from a few months ago for my birthday. Had the best time, as always. I love doing life with you. Thank you for always being down for a mini photo shoot and getting the best pics of me.

Outfit inspo & confidence thanks to Mamo 😜 by @becoming_x.kai

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Happy anniversary to my love. We have faced many obstacles throughout the years and have helped each other grow in so many ways. 11 years is a long time to do life with someone, so naturally there has been a lot of growth, love, joy, laughs and tears. We have been through a lot but we have always made it through everything together and our love has only grown stronger with time. It will always blow my mind that someone could continue to love me for so long. Thank you for bringing so much happiness and love into my life. I love you forever 💖 by @becoming_x.kai

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🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤 by @becoming_x.kai

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Saddie Baddie 4 life ❤️‍🔥💋 by @becoming_x.kai

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a year ago

Trans March 2025 💘 by @becoming_x.kai

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Happy international non-binary people’s day! This was supposed to be a TDOV post but I forgot to post. Lol

It took a long time for me to truly feel comfortable with who I am, without worrying about what other people think. I originally started this page to update people on my transition, but I stopped sharing around the time I got top surgery which also lines up with when I slowly lowered my dose and frequency of my shots. I eventually completely stopped HRT in 2021 and have been off of hormones since then. Tbh, I was never 100% sure that I wanted to get on hormones or if I would be happy with the changes… I just knew that I didn’t feel like a girl, so I thought maybe it wouldn’t hurt to try boy-ish? Lol. Gender has always been a weird thing that I never understood, so everything that I’ve ever done has been an experiment? A gamble? A risk? In hopes that I would maybe someday feel comfortable in my body. I also never felt that instant joy after top surgery that I would see a lot of people experience. I chose to not share about any of this because I saw the hate that people would get for “detransitioning” and did not have the capacity to deal with that at the time. I, myself, have never considered this detransitioning but rather a part of my transition. Gender is still something that doesn’t make sense to me, am I both? Am I neither? Am I something in between? I’ve spent the past 9 years exploring and trying to figure it out, but I still don’t really know. All I know is that I am now comfortable in my body. I let people perceive me however they perceive me, and it all feels good to me as long as it’s respectful. I guess all of this to say, I did a lot of the things that society says trans people must do in order to be valid and it didn’t make me feel anymore trans than I felt before medically transitioning. It didn’t make me feel seen or respected as a trans person. I’m also still just as confused about gender, but now I look a lil different. To my fellow enby’s and trans people, you are valid, you are enough and you are loved. Every way that you choose to transition (or not) is beautiful. I see you and I love you 💘🏳️‍⚧️ by @becoming_x.kai

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🖕🏼🧊🔥 by @becoming_x.kai

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HAPPY (belated) BIRTHDAY to @tsut.udoni !!! Thank you for existing and being the fire that I need in my life. Your love and passion makes my world a brighter place. I always have so much fun with you (thank you for always letting me annoy you 😘) I can’t wait to celebrate many more birthdays with you, I love you forever ❤️‍🔥🌹 by @becoming_x.kai

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GENDER OF THE DAY 😽💋🤭

#trans

Existing in this world as a trans person can be hard sometimes. I’ve definitely let it get to me in the past. I felt the shift in how people treated me, how they interact with me, how they look at me. When I tried to start dating it was weird to be fetishized and to feel undesirable and not be seen as a whole person. It use to be a lot for me to handle and I would often wish that I wasn’t trans (very ashamed to admit that because I love being trans), so I stopped talking about my experience as a trans person on this page.

Anyways, I learned to stop caring what other people think and stopped seeking validation from people.

Gender never really made sense to me, it still doesn’t. My gender expression looks like this today, but even I don’t know who I will be tomorrow or how I will express myself. My existence confuses people to the point where they will use he/she/they pronouns in the same sentence, and that has been very gender affirming for me.

I’m proud to be trans. I will show my scars and wear these shirts that lets everyone know that I’m trans any chance that I get. We can’t be erased, we have always existed and we will always exist 🖤 by @becoming_x.kai

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