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Bridgee Melling

@bridgeemelling

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In the last few years, I haven’t often shared updates here anymore, as there was so much offline life to live and shouting about it from the social media rooftops had started to feel increasingly wrong and self-indulgent, somehow. These days though, I’m slowly starting to explore sharing about myself publicly again, but perhaps from a different source and in a new way…

So, here I am, at nearly 46 and I can honestly say that the last few years of hard internal and external work have been so worth it, because I have never felt better in my body and soul and yet, I realize what a huge privilege it truly is to be able to say that !

When I first started my BJJ journey almost five years ago, I had no idea that it would have such an impact on my life… I went from being a passionate lifelong dancer, with a body that never really looked like a dancer’s body was expected to and the socially conditioned mind frame and insecurities to match, to venturing into the world of martial arts for the very first time and encountering a community for whom the shape of the body doesn’t matter as much as celebrating how capable it is.

Seeing other women fight, lift heavy weights, build muscles and focus on eating, sleeping and breathing in a way that supports all of that has been eye-opening in so many ways and it inspired me to think about health, aging, femininity and my body in a completely new way. Now in my midlife, with the big 5-0 only a few years away, I have set goals my younger self would have never even dreamed of and I am so excited to continue on this journey and find out what else I’m capable off !

Learning about perimenopause and menopause as the powerful transitions they are, while shedding limiting beliefs and deconstructing the narrative that our worth decreases as we age and our best years are behind us, has been so worthwhile and what I have discovered is so much potential for change, growth and a deeper sense of self-worth.

The bottom line is, that as long as we breathe, it’s not too late and we are not too old to choose to explore something new and embrace healthier ways of being and relating.

#womenwholift #martialartstraining by @bridgeemelling

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This little one turned seven today and WHAT ?!! It‘s true what they say: the days are long but the years are so, so short ! 🥹😍 by @bridgeemelling

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Happy and healthy holidays , from our family to yours (minus our oldest, who moved out earlier his year and celebrated with her partners) ! ❤️

#nonmonogamy #polyamorous by @bridgeemelling

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9 months ago

I got promoted to blue belt today and it’s been such a special moment !! This has been two years in the making and represents the very first time in my adult life, that I have followed through on something that requires such a long and often arduous process, not because I felt I had to but because I genuinely wanted to do it for no one but myself !! The best part though was getting to share it with two of my favorite humans (one of which I actually MADE), who also received new belts… so it was family graduation day ! 💙💛💜

Thank you so much to the amazing people in this photo, who have taught me everything I have managed to learn in the last three years, with such dedications, patience, kindness, humor and empathy for my quirky ways and also to all my team mates. Here is to the next chapter on my BJJ journey ! ❤️🙏🏼 taken in Gracie Berlin - Brazilian Jiu-jitsu by @bridgeemelling

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Who is the ULTIMATE BADASS? 🏆

TOMORROW is the day🔥 We can’t wait to watch this grappling superfight between Bridgee Schultze-Melling from @gracieacademyberlin and Lisa Fischer from @tsvwesterhausen 💪

📅 Nov. 9th, 2024
📍 Berlin @fenrizgym
🥊 18 fights taken in Fenriz Gym by @bridgeemelling

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Halloween has always been one of our biggest and most beloved yearly family events and traditions and this year is the very first year where the older two will each be at a separate party and we will be left to go trick or treating with only Gabe… cha-cha-changes… 😅🥹

Happy Halloween !! 🎃 by @bridgeemelling

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I took my two oldest babies out for lunch today and they allowed me to take this super rare selfie of us… Ellie will turn 18 in just two short months and towers over me and Charlie is now at 14 as tall as I am… It REALLY hit me today how fast they are growing up !
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Ps: Cue Gabe when I picked him up from camp today and showed him this “Hey, why am I not in this pic ?!” by @bridgeemelling

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Yesterday we celebrated the two year anniversary of our very first date and it was simply perfect. Together we have built the healthiest, most connected and fulfilling partnership I have ever known and I am so grateful Ulf @psychoeducationcounselor exists in my universe.

Being with him dissolved the remnants of my lifelong Autistic loneliness, he helped me dismantle the thickest childhood trauma induced walls I had build around my inner self, pulled me towards the “dark side” as he jokingly calls it and taught me how to be a more integrated human, instead of someone living mostly in my head. He single-handedly infused completely new levels of trust, self-compassion and self-worth into my system, even though I battled him every step of the way and in the end it took a warrior poet to truly conquer me.

We are equals and yet he is my alpha and beloved Daddy and I can’t imagine anyone more worthy of being my protector, champion, safe heaven and sensei. Thank you, my love, for gifting me two years full of miracles, I am grateful for every moment we get to share with each other and so excited to grow old and wise, while staying young and silly with you. ❤️ by @bridgeemelling

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Happy Father’s Day to my darling, who has been my stable base for twenty years and counting and I am beyond grateful ! @jynsm

In so many ways we have grown up alongside each other, have lived what seems like countless lifetimes in the space of two decades and loved each and every version of the other. We have made a commitment to each other to never limit each other’s freedom, while making sure that our family remains a priority and I’m so grateful for the way we work together to honor this commitment.

He has one of the kindest, most generous hearts I have ever known, his enthusiasm and energy know no bounds, he is up for every silly adventure I have ever come up with (plus a few of his own) and one of the things I most love about him is that he makes even the most mundane tasks super fun !

I love you my darling, thank you for choosing to do life with me, for constantly learning to love each other even better than the day before, for the way you love our kiddos, for the work you constantly put into yourself and simply for the human you are. I am so excited for all the adventures life hopefully still has in store for us !! 🤗❤️😍

#happyfathersday #polyamorous #loveandmarriage by @bridgeemelling

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2 years ago

Polyamory is all about sharing the love and how could I do that without also dedicating a post to my lovely girlfriend !

We met in the funniest way ten months ago, when I briefly dated her partner back then and from the very first moment, we just got each other without words. She is my fellow witchy and a feeler and healer like me, we are incredibly similar in about a million other ways and I have never felt as safe in a relationship with another woman, as I feel with her.

We constantly work together to lovingly support and protect each other and our little bubble and it‘s so healing and beautiful to keep growing our bond consciously, at a pace that feels healthy for both of us, to deepen our trust along the way and really feel the love and intimacy grow.

@mary_me_78 Sweetie, I‘m really so grateful the universe brought you and your spark into my life and I‘m happy about all the small, big and everyday adventures and all the laughter and tears we get to share. ❤️

PS: A special thank you goes out to my love, Ulf, because Mary and I might have never happened, without his encouragement, gentle but persistent nudges in the right direction and all the lessons he has taught me, that I now get to make use of and pass on. 💋🙏🏼

#polyamorous #loveislove🌈 #queerpride #polyamorousrelationship by @bridgeemelling

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I rarely share things here anymore but this Ulf @psychoeducationcounselor appreciation post has been on my mind for a while now, because he has changed my life in more ways than I can count and truly deserves all the appreciation in the world, simply for being the incredible human he is.

He walked into the gym one fateful day about two years ago, to teach a BJJ class, our eyes met for the very first time across the mats and we felt instantly drawn towards each other. In that moment I knew without a doubt that someone very special had just walked into my life but had no idea yet how many treasures our shared journey would bring.

In the many months since, he has taught me so many valuable lessons, such as what healthy, mature masculinity looks like, the value of moving very slowly in order to grow quickly, what secure attachment feels like, that healthy love doesn’t hurt, that I’m worthy of being protected and treated with gentle care, the difference between trust and control, intimacy deeper than anything I have ever experienced before and a love that is so incredibly whole, safe and dependable.

Not a day goes by where I am not immensely grateful for the privilege to live my life according to my own rules and for the humans I get to freely love and be loved by and call my partners ! ❤️🙏🏼

Ps: thanks @chiara_doveri_photography for the incredible photos ! 🙌🏻 by @bridgeemelling

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