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Brighty Mae

@brightymae

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California girl | East Coast living | Mom to Neurospicy Deaf girl | Living Wildly | Inspiring moms to talk to themselves | Proud Parent Supporter

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I personally had never seen anyone sell all their belongings, pack up their car and move across the country in search of a better place for their child. And no one I knew had seen it either. So I didnt hold their opinions and fears for us against them. But if we didn't drown out the noise I have no idea how much worse life would have gotten for both her and our family. She feels a sense of belonging here. That alone was worth it all! by @brightymae

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As summer wraps up! I think back 2 years ago when I sold everything, packed what we could fit our car and drove towards what I thought would be an amazing place for our girl. It all turned out alright. I could have let fear stop me but I couldn't not try... for her. I spun it as an adventure but when she asked if we were homeless and why we sometimes slept in the car I knew, failure wasn't an option. There is nothing I wouldn't do for my girl. As a person who lived a mediocre life of repetition because it was safe I never ever thought I had it in me to pull it off. But quitting wasn't optional to me. by @brightymae

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Lately it seems we are living life based around her needs first. I cant lie slowing down to her speed and staying home because she loves it here has been amazing. by @brightymae

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Fall is my season!!!! The colors, the fashion, the weather (it permits make up again) the textures, the food, the magical feeling in the air, the harvests... everything!
🤎🍂🌻🍁 by @brightymae

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I tried to do life based on what outside resources told me would work and even when it worked it still didnt feel right. So I stopped, stopped listening and seeking any advise from anyone but me. That's where I found true peace with myself. I aligned what I needed, wanted and how much of my energy and time went to specific things. My own personal rhythm. I'll forever stay on this path. by @brightymae

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As a woman with so many skills and a vast amount of experience in so many different things... people learn what I'm capable of and try to use and abuse me. They assume because I'm bubbly, sweet and well spoken that I'm easy to walk on. I stop them dead in their tracks every single time, even if it takes me a little too long to exit. I'm always made out to be the villain... but I'll take that over surrending my peace. by @brightymae

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No thank you without explanantion took me almost 8 years to get to. Now, my learned understanding about my child requires it. I'm not going any where calling myself having a good time when my kid is under distress the entire time. My child's happiness is linked to my own. by @brightymae

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Daily reflection always helps me when I set realistic expectations for the day. I don't often get to sit down and relax or do much of anything. I work relentlessly on training and supporting my girl. by @brightymae

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As a mom with every day being unpredictable, I stopped waiting for the call from school all day, I stopped pre-assuming what was going to go wrong, I stopped worrying about being removed from programs, I stopped worrying over finances, I stopped worrying about life and took on the approach that whatever happens... happens and I'll deal with it like I always do. That left room to enjoy motherhood again. A true F it attitude. Because if I know anything... I know how to bust a move and bounce back. by @brightymae

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I know summer time is meant for the kids to get breaks but we need ESY for 6 of those summer weeks to maintain the progress we've made this school year. I felt guilty at first but I figured out how to make summer still feel like summer for her.

-Weekend camping trips and hiking.
-Driving her to school so she can stay up later and sleep in.
-After school trips to the beach.
-A little extra of this of that.
-Farmers market every week to hang at the kids booth with other neighborhood kids.

I want her to have summer memories too but we just can't take the entire summe off school. by @brightymae

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Don't let anyone tell you that your retirement, 401k, and future stability is more important then your child's future. If you dont spend the time to support them now they will become untrained adults.

I don't know about you, but I wasn't given this beautiful gift to focus on my future needs and not building hers.

I believe my future will be blessed because I gave my current self to her needs.

#autism #adhd #deaf #hardofhearing by @brightymae

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Moments like this use to break my heart but she'll eventually remove the tape and then we will talk about why she felt bad and what she could have done different. We'll hug it out and then grab something sweet and move on.

Kids with autism and/or adhd are often so hard on themselves and no matter what you say they feel bad because they acted before thinking and did something they shouldn't have. When feelings are regulated we will talk about it. In the mean time, the tape no longer makes me feel bad.

If she's not hurting herself or others, I let her feel all the feelings and then we reflect and move on. One day she'll think before she acts. by @brightymae

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