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Life coach helping South Asian men and more be #BrownButBetter
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"Tbh bro, I'm not actually sorry".

#BrownMen #Cheating #SouthAsianMen #Accountable #Growth by @brownbutbetter

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Clowns will keep on clowning.

Guys, avoid these lot like the plague that they are. It might start of light and you may agree with some o what they say but eventually their mask slips. And from there they'll end up having you hating women or blaming them for all of your issues 🙄

All it takes is to watch a few videos from these guys to find out that there's no depth to the information these people spout.

They'll have you looking at surface level things which then prevents you from having an actually deep connection with what is just another human being, going through life like you.

#punjabiWomen #BrownWomen #BrownMen #LoveNotHate #Connection by @brownbutbetter

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Genuinely, these podcasts have made me a better person!

I feel like I understand women's experiences a lot more and their world view which also means that hopefully I can show up better for the women around me!

And the first podcast is the one that's helping me show up better for myself 😊

@abbymedcalfthriving epic episodes
@triplejthehookup eye opening episodes
Unfortunately Brown Girls Do It To isn't on here but their hosts are I think!

#Podcasts #bettermen #BrownButBetter #SelfImprovement #Perspective by @brownbutbetter

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5 months ago

One of the hardest part of training for an Ironman, is probably how lonely it can get.
You're often spending hours at a time with nothing but you and your thoughts and for some people, that can be a massive challenge in itself!

For me, especially with going through a separation/divorce at the time, it gave me a lot of time to reflect, to make peace with what happened, and to plan forward but it also gave me a lot of time where I could focus on being present. A big part of mental health is probably that spiralling that we have internally, but when you're practising swimming techniques, hitting 50mph on a downhill on your bike, or navigating awkward footing on your forest run, you don't have the time to think about the past or the future.

That doesn't mean it doesn't get lonely at times though, but it does mean you get a chance to work out who you are on a deeper level, I hope.

#ironman #Triathlon #SikhFitness #BrownMen #SouthAsianMen by @brownbutbetter

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I thought I'd start sharing a few stories from my time in the British Army as one of the few Turbaned Sikh Officers!

A time was had, I can tell you that. Whether it was good or bad, I still can't say tbh 😅🤔

This training exercise we went on was by far the hardest I'd done (especially considering I went to a much more chilled out part of the Army after Phase 1 training).

The hallucinations, brain fog, fatigue, and Gld knows what else was wild! I think I slept for like 16 hours straight when they let us take a tactical break for planning.

#BritishArmy #SikhSoldier #TrainingExercise #Military #Tactical by @brownbutbetter

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Episode 52 preview!
In this one I'm talking to Arun to chat about what it means to better yourself as a Brown man!

We talk about the challenges, cultural barriers, and harmful shackles that we need to remove as Brown men to hmake a difference.

Full episode out on Friday!

#BrownMen #BrownButBetter #Vulnerability #SouthAsianMen #Desimen by @brownbutbetter

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Honestly, the things I saw people doing at Glassy N Paint were diabolical, like how could they create an event where people had a laugh, enjoyed great tunes, got to create something artistic, and got a dance at the end. Terrible.

#glassynpaint #Desi #punjabi #women #Men by @brownbutbetter

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This one's deep. We usually inherit a lot of scripts when we're younger. From our parents, friends, family, and especially media!!

But, what we hardly ever do, is reflect back on those scripts especially the ones that are harmful to us!
I have a script that I still struggle with today of overworking most likely as a result of watching my Dad spend evenings and weekends working to provide for the family.
But where is that actually benefiting me, and where could it be pote tilly harming my relationship with myself (burnout/wellbeing) or with those around me (not spending quality time with friends and family).

And this applies to other areas too - how do you handle conflict? (is it just like your parents?), how do you deal with aggression, laziness, how do you treat people from different backgrounds etc etc...

#Reflection #InternalScripts #BrownMen #Workaholic #reframing by @brownbutbetter

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Shoutout to the se kind of guys because they're the real ones putting in the work!
Those type of guys behind the scenes reflecting, showing up, and trying to be better in their own ways!

#SelfImprovement #appreciation #AlphaMan #SouthAsianMen #Life by @brownbutbetter

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But you know what, you can actually change all of that and it doesn't mean changing who you are, it means growing empathy, curiosity, compassion, and TREATING PEOPLE LIKE PEOPLE.

Just remember, holding on to hate is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.

Ps this is mostly just a but of fun but there's a nice research paper about this which does a bit of a review into various papers to better understand the manosphere!

Citation of the image and research below:
Rollano, Cecilia & Pérez-González, Juan-Carlos & Román-González, Marcos. (2026). A Framework for Understanding the Manosphere. Social and Personality Psychology Compass. 20. 10.1111/spc3.70123.

#Men #BrownMen #women #Womensrights #Feminism
Red, bro, pills, manly, self reflection by @brownbutbetter

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6 days ago

It's world mental health day today and if there was any day for you to open up about your challenges and struggles then today could be a good day!

The theme this year is Lived Experiences Heard: Real Voices, Real Change and that's why I'm sharing a few south Asian led places of support for south Asian men and others!

Let me know if I missed any!

#MentalHealth #BrownMentalHealth #MensMebtalHealth #SouthAsianMen #Vulnerability
South Asian, Brown mental health advocates, by @brownbutbetter

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Always blessed and grateful for all the followers!

Here's to almost 2000 of you! 🎉

#Gratitude #FYP #Followers #Follow #PositiveMaleRoleModel by @brownbutbetter

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