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Hi, I’m Katie, the person behind Divorce Doula. If you’re new here, this one’s for you.

When I was going through my own divorce, I kept sensing something was missing. I had a lawyer, a therapist, and supportive friends. What I didn’t have was someone to hold the whole human experience of it. The decisions, the identity shift, the logistics, the “what do I even want now?” I realized the thing I needed didn’t exist. So I built it.

Swipe to catch up. Link in bio or DM to connect. First 30 minutes are always on me. by @divorcedoulaco

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5 months ago

This is the story I was afraid to write. But I did it anyway. by @divorcedoulaco

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6 months ago

Well excuse me while I compose myself over here after reading Fanny’s introduction to my contribution to her What’s In My Bag series. My Substack Doula and real life bestie, @fannyadams is also a wardrobe stylist and writer of the popular Susbtack, Always Overdressed. What an honor and a pleasure to be featured. Link in bio ❤️ by @divorcedoulaco

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a month ago

Kinda chic, no? What’s on your list of chic divorcee things? by @divorcedoulaco

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2 months ago

Here’s a little coaching for ya, on the house.

I put together this carousel on the exact four questions I use to get clients from stuck to clear. Steal them, save them, use them the next time you’re spiraling in the shower or overthinking a decision at 2am.

This is the DIY version where it’s just you, your journal, and four good questions.

But if you want the version where someone’s actually in the (virtual) room with you — listening, pushing back, catching the thing you didn’t say — that’s a different experience. And the first 30 minutes of that one are free too.

Let’s chat! by @divorcedoulaco

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3 months ago

I used to make decisions on autopilot and for other people. I’d often choose what was easiest to explain, easiest to defend, easiest to keep the peace with everyone except myself.

Somewhere along the way I started asking a different question: what will actually get me closer to peace? And then doing just that.

I know, it sounds too simple. But it’s the only filter that’s ever actually worked for me, and it’s the same filter I use with clients when they’re stuck on a decision and can’t see past the noise. That’s the work - helping you get quiet enough to hear what you actually want, then building a plan around THAT.

If you’re at a crossroads right now, try asking yourself that question: what will get you closer to peace?

First 30 minutes are always free if you want to talk it through. Link in bio. by @divorcedoulaco

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3 months ago

New Substack post on the script we’re handed about single women and expiration dates. And why I’m not buying it. Link in bio.
If any of this sounds familiar, please reach out! First 30 minutes are always free. by @divorcedoulaco

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3 months ago

Yesterday I chose pleasure. A full day bopping around with two of my best friends doing absolutely nothing productive. The kind of hedonism that has zero ROI and is exactly what I needed after months of grinding on Divorce Doula and at my day job.

Turns out it’s not indulgent, it’s science, and is one third of what a human needs to flourish. Positive psychologist Dr. Kate Hefferon says well-being comes down to three things in equal measure: achievement, contentment, and pleasure. Most of us in divorce and rebuilding mode are running on achievement alone and wondering why we’re exhausted. Swipe through to assess what might be missing for you.

Shoutout to @lumiacoaching for introducing me to the positive psychology frameworks that shape how I work with clients. by @divorcedoulaco

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5 months ago

Turns out the chaos had a solution that wasn’t “do more.”

This is what one session can do. Not fix everything, but cut through the noise enough that you can actually think again. Sharp questions, a mindset shift, fog lifted.

If you’ve been spinning your wheels more than moving forward, that’s what I’m here for. Let’s talk. by @divorcedoulaco

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6 months ago

Here’s what I know about myself: the moment I’m on the verge of a menty b, every coping mechanism I’ve developed over the years just disappears. Vanishes. What coping mechanisms?

For this Self-Care Sunday, I’m giving you my cheat sheet for exactly that moment. Save it for the hard days, send it to a friend who’s in it right now, and when you’re ready to stop navigating this alone, let’s talk. Link in bio. by @divorcedoulaco

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6 months ago

No tips, reflective questions, or five-step frameworks this Self-Care Sunday.

Sometimes the most powerful thing I can offer is a reminder that what you’re going through, while painful and hard, is also an opening.

So Rumi can have the floor. by @divorcedoulaco

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5 months ago

Hi! I’m Katie, the person behind Divorce Doula.

Seattle is home, but part of me still belongs to the high desert of New Mexico, where I grew up and where my family has deep roots. My chile order is “Christmas”, IYKYK.

I’m a certified professional coach and strategic leader. Most of my career has focused on advancing solutions to homelessness and housing insecurity, work grounded in a deep care for people and a commitment to equity. Those values carry into what I’m creating here.

When I’m not working, you can find me in a bookstore, at an art exhibit, or on a dancefloor.

That’s me. I’d love to meet you! Say hi in the comments.

Photo credit: Natalie Krick by @divorcedoulaco

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