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Dr. Ciri | MD & Conscious Parent Coach

@dr.ciri_

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🩺 Board Certified Internal Medicine Physician
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🎖️Certified Conscious Parent Coach
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🏡 Chicago
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📍Atlanta

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Gentle parenting is less about immediate results and more about meeting and nurturing your child where they are.

Acknowledging their humanity

Believing in their inherent goodness

Staying curious and learning who they are

Becoming self aware

Becoming informed about child development

That’s what conscious parenting is about 🫶🏽

#gentleparenting #consciousparenting #consciousmotherhood #consciousdiscipline #consciousparentcoach #parentcoach #possessivekids by @dr.ciri_

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I’m convinced our kids say “no” so much because we do 😆

It’s either learned behavior or just the resistance ✊🏾 ✊🏽✊🏻that lives in our DNA.

Either way, I do my best to minimize how often my children hear it (from me). When I say it, they know I mean it lol

I’ve heard other moms reserve another code word when their “no” has lost its power. Some examples include: danger, stop, bananas, etc.

Does your “no” still have power? If not, what’s your alternative?

PS: there’s a more slightly more detailed version of this video on my YT channel. Check it out!

#consciousparenting #consciousdiscipline #parenting #theyesbrainchild #parentcoach #consciousparentcoach #gentleparenting #conditioning taken in Atlanta, Georgia by @dr.ciri_

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#ReRun

No one likes being policed when they’ve lost emotional control.

No one likes being policed when they’re sad or disappointed

No one likes being told how to emote in the moment that they are emoting

And by no one, I mean no one, including the kiddos. Policing isn’t helpful.

Empathy and compassion are major keys. Control, coercion and emotional unintelligence are not your friends in this parenting game.

PS: Here are some of my favorite ways to regulate and release anger without harming people or property.

✅ Wall pushes

✅ Squeezing hands together (solo or with your child)

✅ Dinosaur roars (also helps to relieve jaw tension - and the jaw is a place we carry anger)

✅ Screaming into a pillow or into someone’s tummy/shoulder (sound production is a major regulator)

What are some of your go to methods for releasing your anger from your body?

#consciousparentcoach #parentcoach #angermanagement #nervousystemregulation #nervoussystemscience #consciousmotherhood #consciousdiscipline #releaseangerandfrustration by @dr.ciri_

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Unless you decided to hit a sperm bank to become a mother, co parenting is a fact of life.

Single, married, in a complicated relationship - whatever the context is - co parenting has its challenges.

Do you enjoy co parenting?

PS: Shout out to @pagingdr.love for the pro tip at the end of the video 😘

#consciousparenting #coparenting #parentcoach #consciouspartnership #attachmenttheory #abandoment #singleparent #singlemomlife #married #marriedsinglemom #gentleparenting #consciousmotherhood #radicalacceptance #consciousparentcoach by @dr.ciri_

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On this parenting journey, I’ve learned to minimize stress and maximize my sense of internal safety.

1) I honor my boundaries (things I’m willing to do or unwilling to do)

2) I accept and respect where my children are developmentally

3) I don’t connect the sound of my environment or my children’s behavior to my value as a parent.

This means that I can make sure my kids have the best childhood I can possibly give them.

#parentcoach #consciousparenting #consciousparentcoach #positivediscipline #consciousparentingtools #gentleparenting #consciousmotherhood #finances #financialboundaries #boundaries #moneymindset taken in Atlanta, Georgia by @dr.ciri_

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Discipline (teaching) is happening in those every day interactions 🫶🏽

So be very mindful, very responsible, very empowered

#consciousparenting #gentleparenting #consciousdiscipline #consciousmotherhood #parentcoach #discipline #gentleparenting #consciousparentingtools taken in Atlanta, Georgia by @dr.ciri_

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You don’t have to have narcissistic personality disorder to demonstrate narcissistic traits in your approach to parenting.

In my humble opinion, traditional parenting methods are very narcy in nature.

Anyway, happy parenting folks!

PS: Are y’all guilty of this?!

PPS: The example #script I shared is from @destini.ann ‘s book Very Intentional Parenting 🫶🏽

#consciousdiscipline #consciousparenting #parentcoach #consciousparentcoach #consciousparentingtools #parentalnarcissism #veryintentionalparenting taken in Atlanta, Georgia by @dr.ciri_

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#ReRun

Your children aren’t responsible for your emotional state/behaviors any more than you were responsible for your parents’ emotional state/behaviors.

Say this out loud as many times as you need to ❤️‍🩹

#consciousparenting #gentleparenting #goodkids #badkids #consciousdiscipline #consciousparentcoach #parentcoach #parentinginsights #parentingreflections #parenting #attachmenttheory #attachmentstyles #secureattachment by @dr.ciri_

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#ReRun

Situational appropriateness >>>>>

#gentleparenting #nodramadiscipline #disciplinewithoutharm #consicousparentcoaching #parentcoach #consciousmotherhood #situationalappropriateness #parentigtools by @dr.ciri_

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One thing that would help us all in parenting and dealing with children in general is understanding what is actually appropriate (albeit inconvenient) behavior.

Having realistic expectations will set us and our children up for success.

Happy problem solving!

Stay empowered 🫶🏽

#gentleparenting #consciousparenting #consciousdiscipline #disciplinewithoutdamage #emotionalregulation #selfregulation #coregulation #nervoussystemregulation #parentcoach #consciousmotherhood #toddlertantrums #parentingtips #parentingtools #socialstorytelling taken in Atlanta, Georgia by @dr.ciri_

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Self regulation - the ability to regulate your emotions.

Co-regulation - regulating your emotions with the help of another.

Children require co regulation for at *least* the first decade of their life, and honestly, you should prepare for it to be longer than that.

Knowing this, what I do is …

Focus on the emotion.

Lead with empathy.

Show love unconditionally.

PS: Pardon my edges 🥴 my edge control clearly didn’t win the battle it fought against this ATL summer heat on this recording day.

#consciousdiscipline #positivediscipline #love #consciousparenting #consciousparentcoach #consciousmom #emotionallyfocusedtherapy #empathy #attachmentwoundhealing #anxiousattachment #avoidantattachment #parentingtools #coregulation #selfregulation taken in Atlanta, Georgia by @dr.ciri_

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As a first generation conscious parent, I think back on things I heard as a child, growing up with a single parent and other adults who lived in survival mode. My conclusion is always the same when I reflect on the past: I was a child, and I didn’t deserve that.

While our parents’ behavior was indeed UNDERSTANDABLE, it was NOT in fact ACCEPTABLE. …Even if it was the best they could do with the tools that they had.

Regardless of your situation, you can and should do better when it comes to connecting to and relating to your children like the human beings they are 🫶🏽

And thank y’all for 10K 🥳

#gentleparenting #consciousmotherhood #consciousparent #consciousparentcoach #consciousdiscipline #parentingonabudget #consciousparentingtools #empathy #attachmentparenting #attachmentwoundhealing #attachmentwound #parentcoach by @dr.ciri_

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