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Natalie Kollar

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Somatic Holistic Counsellor For the overwhelmed & cycle-breakers. Nervous system healing + trauma recovery 🌏-wide Online

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There are people who have learned to function so well that most of the world assumes they’re fine.

They show up.
They hold responsibility.
They keep things moving.
They don’t fall apart where others can see.

But internally…
there is a different experience happening.

Overwhelm that never fully switches off.

A mind that is always scanning, always thinking ahead.

A nervous system that struggles to fully settle.

Not because something is wrong with them.
But because they’ve been carrying more than most people realise.

This space is for those people.

The ones who are tired of holding everything alone internally, while still being expected to cope externally.

For the ones who don’t need to be fixed…
but need to be understood.

If this feels familiar, you’re welcome here.

I share trauma-informed reflections and offer 1:1 holistic therapy for people carrying too much internally ❤️

#holistictherapy #yoursafespace #traumarecovery #freetobeyou taken in Australia by @empoweredbynat

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5 months ago

Most people don’t struggle because they lack awareness.

They struggle because they’ve never had a space where they could actually slow down enough to feel what’s happening inside them without judgment.

So they stay in their head.

They stay in survival mode.

They stay in “coping” rather than processing.

In our work together, we move differently.

We slow things down.

Not to overanalyse — but to create safety.

We pay attention to what your nervous system has been holding.

The patterns.
The protection strategies.
The ways you’ve learned to stay “together.”

There is no pressure to perform here.

No expectation to have the right language for your experience.

Just space to notice.

Space to feel.

Space to begin understanding yourself in a way that isn’t critical or rushed.

This isn’t about becoming someone new.

It’s about meeting yourself differently.

If you feel drawn to this kind of support, you’re welcome to reach out when it feels right for you ❤️ by @empoweredbynat

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5 months ago

A lot of people think healing is about insight.

Understanding patterns.
Naming behaviours.
Figuring yourself out.

But insight alone doesn’t create safety in the body.

Many people already know why they feel the way they feel.

What they haven’t experienced is what it feels like
to be with another person while those feelings are present
without judgment, pressure, or overwhelm.

That is where something shifts.

Because the nervous system learns through experience, not explanation.

Relational safety is what allows deeper change to happen.

Not because someone tells you what to do differently…
but because you finally feel safe enough to notice yourself without bracing.

This is the foundation of the work I offer.

Not fixing.
Not rushing.
Not analysing from a distance.

But creating space where you don’t have to hold it all alone internally anymore.
❤️

#saferelationships #holisticliving #holisticcounselling #nojudgement #aspacetobe by @empoweredbynat

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4 months ago

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4 days ago

Navigating hard times can be tough!

Today, I would like to remind you that you don’t have to be your strongest self every day.

You can be a human being having a hard time and still be worthy of love, care, and compassion.

A gentle reminder: You deserve the same compassion you so freely give to others.

With that in mind, what would it look like to be a little kinder to yourself today?

#SelfCompassion #HolisticWellbeing #EmotionalWellbeing #MindBodyConnection #InnerHealing by @empoweredbynat

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6 days ago

𝗛𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿 𝗻𝗼𝘁𝗶𝗰𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘄𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴𝘀 𝗳𝗶𝗻𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘆 𝗯𝗲𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝗰𝗮𝗹𝗺, 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗱 𝗱𝗼𝗲𝘀𝗻’𝘁 𝗮𝗹𝘄𝗮𝘆𝘀 𝗳𝗼𝗹𝗹𝗼𝘄?

Everything is okay…
but you find yourself looking for the problem.

Replaying something someone said.

Thinking about what could go wrong.

Waiting for the next difficult thing.

Sometimes we can become so accustomed to being alert that calm feels unfamiliar.

And if you’ve spent a long time navigating stress, uncertainty or difficult experiences, it makes sense that your mind might have learned to stay one step ahead.

It doesn’t mean you’re choosing anxiety.

It doesn’t mean you’re incapable of being happy.

And it certainly doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong.

It may simply mean that your system has become very familiar with protecting you.

So rather than telling yourself:
“Why can’t I just relax?”

Perhaps try something gentler:
“I notice I’m waiting for something to go wrong.”
And then:
“Right now, in this moment, I am okay.”

You don’t need to promise yourself that everything will always be okay.

You don’t need certainty.

You can simply practise staying with what is true right now.

Sometimes learning to allow happiness begins with learning that we don’t have to leave a good moment just because we don’t know how long it will last.

What happens for you when life becomes quiet?
Do you settle into it…
or do you find yourself waiting for the next thing?

There is no judgement here.
Just a moment of noticing ❤️

#AnxietyAwareness
#NervousSystemRegulation
#SelfCompassion
#EmotionalHealing
#HealingJourney by @empoweredbynat

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a month ago

“𝗜’𝗹𝗹 𝗯𝗲 𝗵𝗮𝗽𝗽𝘆 𝘄𝗵𝗲𝗻…”
𝗛𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿 𝗰𝗮𝘂𝗴𝗵𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳 𝘀𝗮𝘆𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀?

I’ll be happy when I lose the weight.
When I have more money.
When the house is sorted.
When my relationship feels better.
When I’ve healed.
When I feel more confident.
When life finally settles down.

There’s nothing wrong with wanting things to change.
But sometimes, without realising it, we make happiness conditional.

I’ll allow myself to feel good once I’ve earned it.

And the finish line keeps moving.

There is always another thing to fix, achieve, improve or overcome.

What if you could want change without making your current happiness dependent on it?

You can be healing and still laugh.
You can be uncertain and still feel grateful.
You can be working towards something and still enjoy where you are.

You can have parts of your life that aren’t okay…
and still have moments that are.

This isn’t about forced positivity.
It’s about making space for the whole of your experience.

The difficult.
The hopeful.
The unfinished.
And the beautiful.

You don’t have to wait until you’re a perfectly healed version of yourself before you’re allowed to enjoy being alive.

There is no judgement here.
Just noticing. 🌿

And perhaps a gentle question to sit with today:

What have I been telling myself I need to achieve before I’m allowed to be happy?
❤️

#holisticliving #happiness #selfdiscoveryjourney by @empoweredbynat

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a month ago

There can be a strange kind of grief in healing.

We often talk about healing as though we’ll simply become happier, stronger, more confident versions of ourselves.

But sometimes healing asks us to loosen our grip on identities we’ve carried for a very long time.

The strong one.
The good one.
The easy one.
The independent one.
The one who never needed much.
The one who could handle anything.

And even when those identities have exhausted us, they can still feel familiar.

They may have helped us belong.
They may have helped us feel safe.
They may have helped us move through things we didn’t yet have the words for.

So perhaps we don’t need to shame those parts of ourselves.

We can thank them.

And gently tell them:
“You don’t have to do this for me anymore.”

Maybe you can rest now.
Maybe you can speak now.
Maybe you can need things now.
Maybe you can disappoint someone and still be okay.
Maybe you can build a life that isn’t organised around being who everyone else needs you to be.

And perhaps that’s one of the quieter forms of healing:

coming home to the parts of yourself you had to leave behind. 🤍

If you feel comfortable sharing, tell me what part of yourself are you learning to make more room for?

Drop a ❤️ if this resonates

#selfdiscovery #holistic #wholeself by @empoweredbynat

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2 months ago

“What do you want?” …Such a simple question right?!
And yet, for some, it can bring an uncomfortable silence.

Because years have been spent knowing what everyone else wants.

What will keep the peace.

What will make someone happy.

What you’re supposed to do.

What a “good” person would choose.

What makes sense.

What looks right from the outside.

And eventually, you can become so practiced at adapting that you stop checking in with yourself.

Not because you’re weak.

Not because you don’t have a personality.

Not because you’ve somehow “lost yourself.”

It simply could be you learned, somewhere along the way, that belonging meant becoming very good at noticing what other people needed.

And perhaps that was once a very useful way of moving through the world.

But you are allowed to change.

You’re allowed to discover that something you once wanted isn’t what you want anymore.

You’re allowed to have an opinion that someone else doesn’t agree with.

You’re allowed to disappoint someone.

You’re allowed to say no without a ten-minute explanation.

You’re allowed to want something simply because you want it.

And perhaps returning to yourself doesn’t happen in one dramatic moment.

Perhaps it happens in tiny moments of honesty.

I don’t like this.
I actually want that.
I’m tired.
I need space.
This matters to me.
This doesn’t feel right anymore.

Little by little, you begin hearing yourself again.

And maybe that’s the beautiful thing:

You haven’t disappeared.
You’ve just spent a long time listening to everyone else.

Perhaps now...
it’s your turn. 🤍

When someone asks “What do you want?” — do you know? Might be time to sit with it & see what arises for you ❤️

Drop a ❤️ if this resonates

#holisticliving #returntoself #whatdoyouwant #selfcompassion #selfdiscovery by @empoweredbynat

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2 months ago

Many people live as though every thought deserves their attention.

A thought appears...
and the body responds.

The worry becomes tension.

The fear becomes urgency.

The story becomes reality.

But part of healing is creating a little space between you and what your mind says.

Not every thought is a message.

Not every fear is a warning.

Not every inner critic is telling the truth.

A gentle practice:
“I am noticing I am having the thought that...”

That small shift can create a little more choice.

I wonder what came up for you as you read this.

Drop a ❤️ below if this resonates 🙏🏻

#holisticcounselling #emotionalwellbeing #mindbodyspirit #selfcompassion #personalgrowth by @empoweredbynat

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2 months ago

There can be so much pressure to know exactly who we are.

But people are not meant to be static.

The experiences we have, the relationships we form, and the things we learn all shape us.

Sometimes we hold onto old versions of ourselves because we’re afraid that changing means we were wrong before.

But becoming someone new doesn’t erase who you were.

Every version of you has carried something valuable.

Every version has helped you get here.

Growth is not a betrayal of yourself.

It is part of being alive.

You’re allowed to change your mind.

To outgrow old versions of yourself.

To keep discovering who you are.

I wonder what came up for you as you read this ❤️
Drop a ❤️ below if this resonates

#HolisticTherapy
#PersonalGrowth
#SelfDiscovery
#EmotionalHealing
#SelfAcceptance by @empoweredbynat

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2 months ago

Guilt can be confusing…

Especially for people who have spent a long time being considerate, helpful, and emotionally aware.

Because when you begin honouring yourself, it can feel like you are taking something away from others.

But your needs do not make you selfish.

Your boundaries do not make you unkind.

Your choices do not need to be justified endlessly to be valid.

Sometimes guilt is simply the feeling of stepping outside an old pattern.

It doesn’t always mean you are doing the wrong thing.

I wonder what came up for you as you read this? Drop a ❤️ if this resonates

#shame #guilt #holistictherapy #holisticwellness #honoringyourself by @empoweredbynat

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2 months ago