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Dakota 🍒

@getrealwithdakota

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❣️ retired crash out. certified lover girl.
✨ relationships. anxiety. PMDD.
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bear used a magic wish instead of his words and somehow nikki is the crazy one 😭

as a relationship coach AND a retired crash out, this movie had me in a chokehold.

linking my three takeaways that i feel like nobody’s really talking about yet.

have you seen it? what hit you hardest? 🎬👇 by @getrealwithdakota

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4 months ago

it’s just as important to know how to support your anxious partner in healing their anxiousness ✨

we have this idea that it’s solely on the anxious person to get rid of their anxiousness.

but that’s not helpful when you’re in a relationship.

healing happens in relation to others which means the others should be a part of that healing, not making it worse. by @getrealwithdakota

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4 months ago

welcome to @kotiskloset ✨

a space for my creativity to live.

I’ve been trying to force my other passions on my main page for a while now and I’ve realized that I don’t have to make them fit.

the different parts of me can exist in different ways (in this case different accounts)

so here will live my inspiration, my creativity and my fun weeeeeeeeeew 💋 by @getrealwithdakota

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3 months ago

the words we use hold so much powerrrrrr ✨

“i feel” statements can be useful. they just don’t have to do all the work. try naming what happened, how it affected you, and what you need moving forward:

“when plans change and you don’t let me know, i’m left rearranging my time without the information i need. if something changes, please communicate that.”

you can express your feelings AND be specific about the issue. and yes, leave room to check your assumptions and hear their perspective. accountability and self reflection belong in the same conversation.

also, real talk: better wording can help someone understand you. it cannot make someone willing to take responsibility. you don’t have to find the perfect sentence to deserve a thoughtful response.

save this for the next time you know something needs to be addressed but don’t know where to start. by @getrealwithdakota

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3 days ago

taking care of my health 🤝 making a little city day out of it

come with me to my ob/gyn appointment at @vivaeve_ny, with a central park stroll and a very necessary pastry stop afterward 🥐

a little reminder to bring your questions, ask for clarity, and make room for yourself on your own to-do list. 🤍 by @getrealwithdakota

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and that’s on over sharing because you think it’ll resolve every icky feeling ✨

communicating with the hope that every unfavorable feeling will be resolved will leave you and your partner with exhausted.

i am soooo guilty of wanting to talk through and resolve every little thing and it takes energy away from conversations that have real WEIGHT

before you share, ask yourself why you want to share.

to just be heard? to gain clarity? to come up with a solution? by @getrealwithdakota

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3 days ago

retired crash-out lesson: pretending you don’t need reassurance doesn’t make the need disappear ✨

sometimes it just comes out as an attitude, an accusation, or a test.

try: “i’m feeling disconnected and could use a little reassurance. can we have a moment together?”

your part is to ask clearly and practice receiving the answer. their part is to respond with care and behave consistently enough for their reassurance to mean something.

before calling yourself insecure, ask: am i struggling to trust consistent care, or am i trying to feel secure in an inconsistent relationship? by @getrealwithdakota

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6 days ago

imagine that!!! ✨

it’s almost like ppl are purposely missing the point 🫠 by @getrealwithdakota

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12 days ago

i’m not depressed and i’m currently working on some intentional changes around my content on this page so in the meantime, if you have some blues present or approaching as the weather gets colder…here are some of my uncomfy meal favs :) by @getrealwithdakota

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15 days ago

feeling like my body and brain were in different places would send meeeee ✨

that disconnect used to confuse me, but learning how much of desire actually happens in the brain changed the way I looked at it.

Libida from @innerbalancemd has really helped me feel more present, in sync and connected instead of feeling frustrated with myself.

Use code DAKOTA30 for 30% off + free shipping at the 🔗 in my bio.

#womenshealth #teaminnerbalance #bodymatched #empowerment by @getrealwithdakota

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a month ago

so much changes in a year!!! ✨ by @getrealwithdakota

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2 months ago

🔗 in bio by @getrealwithdakota

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2 months ago