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Eli Vazquez

@itselivazquez

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⚡️Former Avoidant Helping You Save Time & Tears
Filmmaker, Life/Breakup Coach ❤️‍🩹
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This has been the single and direct focus in coaching human beings in the last 5-years. Facing fear. The reality is what healed me wasn’t a woman, but understanding my adult patterns. Then diving deep into my childhood that created those patterns and finally designs a life in facing those fears to literally re-parent my nervous system through setting big, scary goals. That’s how I changed my life and so many others around the world. If you’re ready to take on the challenge and do the inner work I would to talk to you to see how I can help. DM me “Inner Work” and let’s chat. ❤️ #dating #heartbreak #avoidant #healing #breakup by @itselivazquez

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@bwtrfilm is out NOW!!! Link in bio! A comedy, horror short film is available for ALL to see this spooky season!!! “When a dysfunctional cheer squad comes to a cabin to sort out their issues, their coach goes missing and they must become a a team to save her from killers in the woods.” — so excited for you all to watch a project! 🙌🏽🔥💅🏽🪓 #bwtr
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#shortfilm #spooky #horror #cine by @itselivazquez

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I’ve worn a lot of hats over the years—filmmaker, comedian, public speaker, coach—but what I’m most proud of is the work I get to do helping people heal and grow. So I decided to a little re-introduction with people following for the first time.

For years, I carried my own wounds, thinking I had to figure it all out alone. Growing up in a rough environment. Being the first to go to therapy. Not knowing that I struggled with depression, anxiety and hyper avoidance. That dealing with it alone was just a byproduct of child wounds and it manifested in destructive ways where I couldn’t be the man I was mean to be. The man my mother saw I could be. But the truth is: when we slow down, face the pain we’ve been avoiding, and actually learn how to reparent ourselves, that’s when everything changes—our relationships, our confidence, and the way we love. That’s how I changed my life and how I’ve been able to help so many others.

That’s why I created a free masterclass on inner child healing for dating. Because so much of what blocks us in love isn’t about who we’re dating—it’s about the parts of us that still need care, attention, and healing.

You don’t have to do this alone. 🖤

👉 Comment “link” below and I’ll send you free access to the masterclass today. #selfhype #selflove #healing by @itselivazquez

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Be honest, which on of ya’ll threw hands at a Taco Bell parking lot? 👀 #breakup #toxicmen #avoidant #datingadvice #women by @itselivazquez

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He did it because he loves your ass, wild right? Wanna get your healing on— dm me “inner work” and let’s chat ❤️‍🩹 #breakup #rebound #avoidant #healing #toxicex by @itselivazquez

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Ghosting, discard, cheating - the biggest misconception is that these are actions that is our fault but in reality it was our partners fear but you can heal that pain of attaching your worth to his actions and if you want to learn how to rebuild, get your spark back and never fall for toxic love again. DM me “Inner Work” and let’s chat. ✨❤️ #ghosting #breakup #healing #dating #avoidant by @itselivazquez

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You don’t know a man until you see him face adversity. So stop blaming yourself over his inability to face it because if being mean to yourself worked, it would of by now. My 8-week healing bootcamp covers all this and more. How to rebuild, heal and never fall for toxic love again. Final 24-hours to join! DM me “INNER WORK” and let’s chat ❤️🙂 #avoidant #breakup #cheating #healing #women by @itselivazquez

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Don’t just check-in. Stay for a while. #rjmitte #mensmentalhealth by @itselivazquez

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Rather than facing his fears with you, he decided to run away. Could the relationship be a better fit? Sure. But it doesn’t take away the fear of having hard conversations. That will stay with him forever and the more important fear to call out is yours. The fear of loss. The fear of not being chosen. The fear that kept you in something you outgrown a long time ago. This healing era is about how we heal, not just getting over him. But to use him as data and research on what to love about you again. If you’re ready to step into a transformational healing journey I’m looking for 3 women who coming out a avoidant breakup that wants to rebuild their lives and never fall for these traps again. Final 2 days to join. Comment “Inner Work” and I’ll dm more info ❤️✨ #healing #breakup #women #avoidant #rebound by @itselivazquez

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Sunday thoughts// I’ve been thinking a lot on purpose and how love is the singular aspect of life that can destroy or transform that purpose. Our culture constantly feeds us this 3 act structure of the hero’s journey that we see on our tvs and cinemas. Thinking we will have a full arc of growth. The happy ending. But life isn’t a movie and purpose is the only personal and crucial decision to create structure to our life. Because the hard reality is there are some things we will grieve, always wonder and feel unresolved in this life but if it’s in a deep aligned sense of purpose we can look back and leave this earth with some sense of peace. And the person we decide to love is very much the reflection of how we process all of it. I was walking down the street when I saw a beautiful woman thinking back to when I was a younger helpless lover boy thinking younger me would have imagine a whole world where that was my wife. Anxious. Wanting her to want me. Where my purpose was just to be a famous filmmaker. I wasn’t thinking of my generational trauma. Healthy partnership. My fearful avoidant attachment wounds. I was just falling in love with a total stranger which in turn lead to relationships that didn’t workout. Now, after many ego deaths I have come to the realization of a deeper sense of purpose. To heal my generational trauma and internal wounds. To create a home where my pain is a thing of the past. Now although I see a beautiful woman, I have no idea who she is. If she can partner me through my purpose. Be a healthy support system or be a love I always needed to challenge me. My deep sense of purpose is the very thing that guides you, protects, holds you accountable of the person you choose to be your partner. Rather than just a relationship that is exciting and full of passion. Now, don’t get me wrong, fall in love, hard. Makeout in the rain. Be dumb. but with intention. That is non-negotiable. This isn’t a love story. This a self-discovery experience and the person you choose is the reflection of that. Find your deep sense of purpose outside of love, and that purpose will hold your hand to find the love that you deserve. #love by @itselivazquez

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I am saying this with my chest and for the people in the back: The future we want should NOT feel financially out of reach!

Personally for me, rising costs have made me question what building a family could realistically look like. And I know I’m not the only one feeling it.

Whether it’s groceries, health care, gas, or simply trying to build a life you’re proud of — we are ALL going through it.

🔗 Click the link in my bio to share your story. By sharing our stories, we can unite to create change. by @itselivazquez

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A Man Will Cheat On Your No Matter Who You Are

When someone cheats, that decision belongs to them. It doesn’t automatically mean you weren’t attractive enough, successful enough, or good enough.

🎧 Listen to the full episode w/ (Add her handle) — link in bio.

#relationshipadvice #cheating #datingadvice #relationships #breakup by @itselivazquez

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