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Kate Andrews | Sex & Intimacy Coach

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DAMNED IF YOU DO and DAMNED IF YOU DON’T.

He talks about wanting more sex and she feels pressured.

He stops talking about it and feels completely fucking invisible.

She shouldn’t have sex she doesn’t want.

He shouldn’t have to pretend the rejection and loneliness don’t hurt.

So where the hell do couples go from there?

Maybe mismatched desire isn’t the problem.

Maybe it’s that we have no fucking idea how to talk about it without making someone wrong.

Men, does this feel familiar? by @katepft

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Okay women in perimenopause, we need to talk about SEX. 👀

Because I was prepared for my energy to change.

I’d heard all about women losing interest in sex.

What I wasn’t prepared for?

My sex drive going in the complete opposite direction. 😂

At 47, I’m learning there’s a huge connection between sexual energy and simply feeling ALIVE.

Knowing your body.
Knowing what you want.
Having the space to actually want something for yourself.

And having way less energy for the things that drain you, while wanting a hell of a lot more of the things that light you up.

So I’m very curious…

Perimenopause sex drive: UP, DOWN, or what sex drive? 😂

Tell me. I want the real answers. ❤️ by @katepft

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I get how MEN feel a little more now…

Learning more about how hormones shift throughout the female cycle has made me pay WAY more attention to my sexual energy.

Those days when desire suddenly kicks into high gear?

turned on
craving sex
ready all day

It’s almost confronting for a woman.

But there is some biology behind that.

Especially as us ladies go through perimenopause and hormones are bouncing all over the place.

It’s helped me have compassion for how men feel a lot of the time.

Women, do you notice certain times when your sex drive suddenly goes through the roof?

And men, I’m curious, what do you wish women understood about YOUR sex drive? Tell me below. 👇 by @katepft

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Alright ladies, your turn! 😂

I loved hearing what the men had to say, and now I want to hear from you.

What do you really want in a relationship? And what do you wish men understood about you?

I believe we could all use a little more understanding of each other… so let’s have some fun with this!

Men, pay attention. 😉 by @katepft

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I have a feeling this could get interesting. 😂

Men, I genuinely want to hear from you…

What matters most to you in a relationship?

What do you wish women understood better about you?

I’m asking because I believe we have a lot to learn from each other, and it starts with being willing to listen.

Add your thoughts in the comments…

Spoiler alert… ladies, you’re up next! 😉 by @katepft

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Why we have to choose sides?

I love a strong man who can also be tender. And I love a soft woman who knows how to stand up for herself.

I don’t believe we need to compete with each other or try to be more like each other.

But I do wonder… what would our relationships look like if we spent more time appreciating our differences and actually trying to understand each other?

Because I believe there’s something pretty beautiful about what men and women can bring into each other’s lives.

What do you think? ❤️ by @katepft

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Are you on “the pill”? And has your sex drive changed?

I’m curious how many women have experienced changes in their sexual desire, lubrication or even orgasms and had no idea their birth control could be playing a role.

We hear plenty about preventing pregnancy, but what about the other things these hormones can affect?

Ladies, did your doctor ever talk to you about this when prescribing the pill?

I’d love to hear your experiences! ❤️ by @katepft

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You can tell yourself you’re happier being alone… but… are you actually happier? Or are you just happy you’re not getting hurt anymore?

You’re done with relationships. And honestly, after hearing some of your stories, I can understand why.

But here’s the thing… some men are also telling me how much they miss being touched, feeling wanted and having someone to share their life with.

Sure, you can totally be single.

But I do wonder… how many of us have gotten so good at protecting ourselves from being hurt that we’ve stopped letting anyone in?

So here’s my question. Do you really not want a relationship anymore? Or have you stopped believing you can have a good one?

I’d love to hear your thoughts. ❤️ by @katepft

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This is the key to a better relationship…

Everyone wants their relationships to feel good.

But how many of us are actually willing to do something differently to make them better?

You can’t change your partner so stop trying. Work on yourself and give them the opportunity to do the same.

Because in the end, it has to be both of you if you want it to work.

So here’s my question. Are you both willing to show up and make some changes?

Share this with someone you care about. ❤️ by @katepft

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Yes, that’s snow on the ground… but that’s not the point of this video.

I’m so tired of hearing that people need to go off and heal themselves before they can have a healthy relationship.

We get wounded in relationship… we heal in relationship.

That doesn’t mean we don’t have our own work to do. Of course we do. But imagine what could happen if two people actually decided to work through their shit together.

What do you think? Two cents? 👇 by @katepft

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Are you making someone else pay for what a man or woman did to you?

How do we acknowledge all the shit that’s happened between men and women without making every person we meet answer for it?

I believe we can protect ourselves, have boundaries, and still see the actual human being standing in front of us.

Can you stop seeing every man as bad? Can you stop seeing every woman as bad?

How do we finally move forward?

Give me your two cents. 👇 by @katepft

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Is this killing the intimacy in your relationship?

Has your partner opened up and you’ve used it against them? Or, maybe it’s happened to you…

If we want to repair our relationships, we have to stop weaponizing intimacy.

Comment “poked” if you’ve experienced this. Or, if you’re brave enough, share if you’ve ever done it to someone else. by @katepft

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