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44. Widow & Mom of 3
Thriving single, celibate & healing
Soft adventures & luxury solo dates
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The single most liberating shift a woman can make in her 40s is moving from an anxious mindset to an unbothered lifestyle.

We spend the first half of our lives chasing validation, waiting on responses, and molding ourselves to fit into dating environments that do not serve our peace.

The second half is for reclaiming that energy.

When a situation ceases to bring alignment, clarity, or mutual respect, we do not argue.

We do not demand explanations.

We simply refocus on our own personal growth, our wellness, and our itineraries.

Thriving alone is not a waiting period for a relationship.

It is an intentional standard of living.

When you design a life that feels genuinely fulfilling on your own terms, your peace becomes completely non negotiable.

If you are ready to stop letting temporary dating distractions disrupt your permanent mindset shift, you belong here.

This page is a dedicated space for women who are actively upgrading their self improvement routines, protecting their boundaries, and romanticizing their independent journey.

Hit the follow button to join a community of women who are booked, busy, and entirely at peace.

Drop a comment below if you are officially choosing reservations over explanations.

#ThrivingSolo #MindsetShift #LifeAfter40 #SelfImprovement #DatingOver40 by @lisabadchild

While they are exhausting themselves trying to prove their worth to someone who isn’t paying attention.

we are trying to decide if we should order another espresso martini or check out the local art gallery.
Choose your own peace.

If you found your way to this corner of the internet because you’re tired of compromising your peace just to keep someone company, welcome.

You belong here.

Hi, I’m Lisa. I am a 44 year old widow, a mom to my amazing kids, a content creator, and a woman who has intentionally chosen a single, celibate lifestyle to protect her energy and focus on radical healing.

After losing my husband, the empty seat across from me felt unbearable.

I used to think it was the saddest thing in the world.

But along the way, I learned a vital lesson, having someone sitting at your table does not automatically mean you are being loved, valued, or appreciated.

Today, I’m not just surviving, I am genuinely thriving.

I choose the table for one.

I protect my close circle fiercely.

And I make it a priority to date myself fully.

If you hit follow, here is what you can expect from this space,
Aspirational Solo Dating
Real inspiration for taking yourself out, enjoying solo lunch dates, and romance reclaiming your life.

Honest Healing & Growth
Pulling back the curtain on life after loss, midlife singlehood, celibacy, and stepping into your absolute power.

Ottawa and Gatineau Hidden Gems
Come along with me as a local content creator exploring the most beautiful cafes, food spots, art galleries, and scenic views around Ottawa and Gatineau.

Choosing yourself looks exactly like this.

You don’t need to settle for breadcrumbs or force connections that exhaust you. Your own company is a beautiful place to be.

Drop a heart or leave a comment if you are actively choosing your peace this year.

Where is the first place you’d take yourself on a solo date?

#singleover40 #solo #widowlife #ottawagatineau #selfworth by @lisabadchild

Before you look at this “unbothered” lifestyle and think it was handed to me, I need to tell you how I actually got to this first place.

My peace was hard earned.

After my husband passed away, loneliness led me to dating apps just four months later.

I found someone toxic who took the deep insecurities I shared with him, about aging naturally in my 40s and my body changing, and used them as weapons to make me feel small.

I mistakenly thought that shrinking myself and keeping the peace would make him treat me better.

It didn’t. It only taught him how much disrespect I would tolerate.

I had to grieve all over again, rebuild my self confidence from scratch, and do the heavy internal work.

Healing didn’t teach me how to play the dating game better; it taught me to walk off the board entirely.

Whether your kids are grown, you don’t have kids, or you are navigating a massive life transition alone, your season doesn’t have to be lonely.

It can be peaceful, luxurious, and entirely on your own terms.

If you are ready to stop settling and learn to live beautifully and unbothered, hit follow.

Let’s build this community and take up space together.

#WomenOver40 #DatingAfter40 #chooseyourself #HealingJourney #unbothered by @lisabadchild

Stepping directly into a Parisian autumn dream, right on the Quebec side.

If you are looking for an absolute visual masterpiece of a café, Première Moisson in Gatineau is a complete must visit.

The space is absolutely stunning, featuring a grand, high industrial ceiling, gorgeous dark wood tables, and classic black iron chairs that scream effortless European luxury.

It feels like you’ve been completely transported to a boutique bakery in Paris.

The sensory layout over here is elite.

They have rows of spectacular house made artisanal breads, a pristine dessert counter filled with in house pastries, and a gorgeous café section serving fresh, vibrant salads and gourmet sandwiches.

Even better? They are already starting to decorate for Christmas, putting out their signature festive holiday cakes and traditional holiday breads.

It is the perfect setting to slow down, romanticize your morning, and enjoy a beautiful solo date.

#coffeeshop #gatineau #ParisianAesthetic #CozyVibes #christmascake by @lisabadchild

When you finally shift from grieving the noise to protecting your peace, everything changes.

Starting over, navigating life after a major loss, or choosing the single era can feel incredibly heavy at first.

An empty room or a quiet bed used to feel like loneliness.

But then you heal. You do the hard work, you pour all that energy back into your own life, your kids, and your goals, and suddenly your perspective shifts.

If you are currently on a personal growth journey and ready to romanticize your own life unapologetically, hit follow and let’s keep elevating together.

#PersonalGrowth #SelfWorth #ProtectYourPeace #ChoosingYourself #SoloQueen by @lisabadchild

My early dinner is done, I’m tucked into my room watching TV, my dog is curled up right next to me, and I am officially just chillaxing.

#EveningRoutine #UnwindWithMe #CozyVibes #ProtectYourPeace #SoloQueen by @lisabadchild

Today, I made a rich butternut squash soup served right inside a rustic country loaf, loaded with cool sour cream, fresh green onions, and plenty of shredded cheese.

I absolutely devoured it. It is all about balance, taking things slow, and filling your home with good energy and complete peace.

If you love discovering the art of everyday luxury, intentional motherhood, and creating a peaceful sanctuary at home, hit follow and let’s grow together.

#fallaesthetic #cozyhome #butternutsquashsoup #motherhoodunplugged #romanticizeyourlife by @lisabadchild

Behind the scenes of that aesthetic creator life, it is officially double the work.

It is so funny how people assume social media is all fake or effortless.

The truth is, when you see a 7 second aesthetic cleaning Reel, the real work is still fully being done.

In fact, filming it means you have to clean for real, pause to set up the camera, film the clip, move the tripod, clean the parts that are already clean just to get the perfect lighting, and then spend hours editing it all together!

It is definitely not fake, if you ask me, it is double the labor.

But at the end of the day, it’s not always luxury restaurants, supper clubs, and dressing up.

Sometimes the highest vibe thing you can do is just stay home, fold the laundry, mop the floors, sweep the space, and completely protect your peace.

#SundayReset #AuntiesOutside #BehindTheScenes #CleanTok #MindingMyBusiness by @lisabadchild

The lifestyle is officially wellness, boundaries, and matching sets.

Stepping into my creator era means showing up for the spaces that increase my energy and help me lock in my goals.

I spent yesterday at @studioelevenottawa for a gorgeous, content creator collaboration event, fueling the body, catching that infrared glow, and keeping the focus entirely on self growth.

No stress, no low effort environments, just Auntie out here grinding, thriving, and snatching her waist.

If you are ready to upgrade your health, prioritize your peace, and join a circle of boss ladies, hit follow and let’s elevate together.

#blackgirlpilates #ottawaevents #contentcreator #OttawaFitness #ChoosingYourself by @lisabadchild

We are completely out here, living our absolute best life and minding our business.

The focus is entirely different this season.

I am deeply anchored in my health, locking in my personal goals, enjoying my favorite hobbies, showing up fully for my kids, and keeping my tight circle completely locked in.

When you finally learn to pour all that energy entirely back into yourself, you look better, feel better, and live completely unbothered.

The standards have officially been upgraded.

If you are ready to stop shrinking and start thriving in your own lane, hit follow and let’s keep elevating together.

#AuntiesOutside #FocusOnYou #ProtectYourPeace #HighVibeLiving #ChoosingYourself by @lisabadchild

Your energy is far too expensive to be spent waiting around on low effort situations.

When you are fully anchored in your own self worth, you stop waking up and seeking validation from your phone screen.

True personal growth and healing happen the moment you realize that overextending, people pleasing, and self abandoning will never buy you the genuine connection you deserve.

It only teaches people that your boundaries are negotiable.

If you are navigating the modern dating world, healing after divorce, or learning to love your single era, remember that your peace is your absolute priority.

Stop shrinking to fit into spaces you’ve outgrown.

Pour that beautiful energy entirely back into yourself, romanticize your life, and upgrade the standard of how you allow yourself to be treated.

You are the prize.

If you’re ready to reclaim your power, master your self worth, and step into an empowered lifestyle, hit follow and let’s grow together.

#PersonalGrowth #SelfWorth #DatingAdviceForWomen #ChoosingYourself #ProtectYourPeace by @lisabadchild

The ultimate plot twist is realizing that breaking your own back to keep others comfortable never actually buys you love.

For a long time, I thought overextending, overgiving, and constantly people pleasing was the secret to building deep connections.

I would completely self abandon, show up for people who never showed up for me, and accommodate everyone else’s needs while ignoring my own.

But let’s be all the way real about what that actually gets you.

It doesn’t give you genuine connection.

It just sets you up to be taken advantage of, overlooked, and completely undervalued.

When you make yourself overly available and give without boundaries, people don’t respect you more,they just get entitled.

They get used to your magic, stop viewing your energy as a premium resource, and start assuming you’re just too naive to notice the lack of reciprocity.

Your presence loses its value because you aren’t treating it like it’s scarce.

I had to learn the hard way that it is vastly better to have a much smaller, tighter circle where you are treated as an equal, where there is real reciprocity, and where you are genuinely valued for exactly who you are.

All that expensive, heavy energy I used to spend pouring outward into one sided relationships? I officially took it all back, packed my bags, and now I pour it entirely into me.

Romanticizing my life, nourishing my body, and building my own peace is the greatest investment I’ve ever made.

If you are ready to stop abandoning yourself for people who only know how to take, hit follow and let’s keep upgrading the standards together.

#choosingyourself #peoplepleasing #KnowYourWorth #SelfLoveJourney by @lisabadchild