Rae Baxter

Let's talk about our lens through which we experience the world 👓

I will use something that happened recently as an example.

Someone asked for a review of their service.
Even though it is a very busy time atm (being haute-saison in our lovely tourist resort) I took the time to provide specific, positive feedback and left them a great review.

That same evening they came back to me to ask "What would make it 5 star?"

Here’s what I heard - "your review isn't good enough".
Here’s how I felt - crappy.

Now I know that you can see that wasn't what was asked.
I know myself logically that they were not coming from a critical position and YET. And yet...

Our old attachment stuff shapes and colours the lens through which we experience the world.

We will still have times when even a small/ simple interaction triggers an old life script/ relational position within us.

As we travel along the therapy road we will find it easier to navigate these moments.

Today I can imagine in to the other person's perspective, talk about it with them and express what happened for me when asked that question.

Actively reaching out to the person that unintentionally poked a very old wound.

Could I have responded this way years ago? No.
Could I have created space from my narrative in order to imagine theirs? No.

Most likely it would have triggered a shame spiral/ prevented me from contacting them again.

Re-parenting with a counsellor helps to create counter-scripts to the ones so well trodden in your brain and body.

Therapy steadily sows the seeds of secure attachment. Of being safely held, validated and accepted exactly as you are.

THIS is where enormous amounts of healing can happen.

This is where create a clearer lens through which to see the world...It's like scraping off the old dirt that's warping your view.

If this resonates with you/ you feel ready to explore your 'lens' together, book in for an initial session:
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#attachment
#psychotherapy
#healingjourney
#triggered
#counselling