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Rae Baxter

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Therapy shaped around you
Hi I'm Rae, a counsellor for young people, adults and parents
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It's so good to take a moment and look back at how far you've come. If you are doing the work hats off to you. It takes courage, strength and patience. Leaning into the discomfort isn't easy. Be proud of yourself for rewiring your brain, nervous system, repsonses, relationships and also for breaking the generational trauma/ attachment chain. Well done you 🥰

#personalgrowth #familytime #trauma #healing #therapy

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This image initially specified children but I feel this is applicable to all of us humans, regardless of our age/ stage.

Our modern day culture can be a competitive one. It can be focussed on results, achievements, performance 🎓📝

What would happen if we started a new activity or hobby or class "just because"? If we started to paint or swim or dance simply "for the love" of it.

How about that?

What would YOU like to explore and experience just for fun?

Let me know in the comments, I'd love to hear from you, we can inspire each other! 😊

#hobbies #enrichment #fun #wellnessjourney #mentalhealth

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I LOVE this! It is so true.
It's definitely uncomfortable in the moment and this feels like a great way to view the situation. Acknowledging something that is stretching your window of tolerance. Recognising your growing edges.
Perhaps encouraging self-compassion and patience within these growth moments that feel taxing/ messy/ challenging/ painful.
Acceptance is such a huge part of this. Sitting with what IS rather than what we wish. Being in the now instead of desperately trying to wrap it up and leave it behind.
Here’s to growing...always

#growthmindset #healingjourney #bekind #therapy #acceptance

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Yes, yes and yes.

✅ ️I currrently have availability for new clients (aged 4yo to adults)

✅️ An important element of the healing relationship is feeling seen, heard and validated - sharing your story in a safe space with a qualified and experienced professional.

✅️ I offer therapy shaped around you (client-led, integrative approach) which means each session is unique and tailored to your individual needs.

For more information/ to book in an initial session online or face-to-face:

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Be kind to your mind and take care of your whole health. It's the best investment 🧡

#therapy #counselling #mentalhealth #ʜᴇᴀʟɪɴɢᴊᴏᴜʀɴᴇʏ #healthiswealth🌳💰💯 by @raeb_therapy

I love this as a reminder/ step-by-step follow along to help get you out of a stuck loop and into your parasympathetic nervous system.

We all need a little help sometimes when our brains get hijacked/ we start to spiral.

This visual journey takes you by the hand one step at a time.

Save it, share it, use whenever you need it!

#reset #parasympathetic #grounding #mentalhealth #therapy by @raeb_therapy

As Brené Brown says "Shame dies when stories are told in safe spaces".

Therapy provides this safe, confidentiel space to share your dreams, hope, aspirations, as well as your fears, memories and hurts.

In sessions with me this can be done through talk therapy, or some people prefer to explore paint or pastels as a channel of expression.

It tumbles out in the metaphor as the right-brain is where our deep-seated emotional memories are. Using the arts engages the right brain.

Whether it's clay, sand-tray, songs/ poetry or talk-therapy, healing happens when you feel safe to share what's important to you.

Finding an attuned, empathic counsellor to provide this holding relationship is the first and perhaps most important step.

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MBACP registered therapist

#arttherapy #healingjourney #counselling
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8 rules of Love - Jay Shetty
What a beautiful read.

This is my biggest take-away:

❤️ "When we expand our radius of love, we have the opportunity to experience love every day, at every moment."

❤️ "Instead of expecting love, we have to find ways of expressing love. We've been taught to believe that the only way you can experience love is when you reveive it, but the Vedas say you can feel love anytime you want simply by connecting with the love that is always within you. We are wired to love and be loving."

#love #personalwork #therapy

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The Nature fix! 💚

When we hear birdsong it signals to our nervous system that we are safe. We can relax and shift into parasympathetic (rest and digest) mode. It's no surprise the research results above agree with this.

Did you known that even looking at images of nature provide 50% of the benefits?

If you don't have direct access to a green or blue space here are some little things you can do:

🌳 Choose a landscape for your phone wallpaper/ lock-screen/ laptop
🌴 Listen to nature tracks on Spotify
🌲 Watch documentaries set in the wilderness
🌳 Install some nature art (or paint your own)

If you CAN get outdoors then go for it! As proven in the study just 10 minutes has benefits.

📖 Recommended read: "The Nature Fix"
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#nature #healthylifestyle #wellbeing #therapy #holistichealth by @raeb_therapy

New window sticker! 🤩

Welcome to our beautiful communal space.

Whether it's your head/heart or hair that needs some love, care and attention we've got you covered 🧡

Book in with Rae for mental/ emotional/ relational support: hello@rachaelbaxter.com

Book in with George to have your hair dreams realised: @studio.gsc

#communityfirst #collab #sharedspace #therapy
#wellbeing by @raeb_therapy

Just a little check in with yourself this mid-week morning.

🐾 Can you take a moment to ask yourself how you are faring?

🐾 Can you listen to and observe what arises within - words, physical sensations, emotions, images?

🐾 I wonder what you might NEED today based on what comes up? Perhaps a little more or a little less of something?

Even if we can't change the situation it still helps to acknowledge and validate our feelings. I imagine lots of our seasonal workers might relate to this example:

💭 I need a little less work and a little more forest time right now. Haute-saison is intense and even though it's temporary it can feel relentless when in the thick of it. Seasonal work is a real see-saw and it can become overwhelming or jarring when the see-saw tips.

If you'd like to think together about anything that's niggling you my door is always open: hello@rachaelbaxter.com

#therapy #mentalhealth #selflove #needs #worklifebalance by @raeb_therapy

Let's talk about our lens through which we experience the world 👓

I will use something that happened recently as an example.

Someone asked for a review of their service.
Even though it is a very busy time atm (being haute-saison in our lovely tourist resort) I took the time to provide specific, positive feedback and left them a great review.

That same evening they came back to me to ask "What would make it 5 star?"

Here’s what I heard - "your review isn't good enough".
Here’s how I felt - crappy.

Now I know that you can see that wasn't what was asked.
I know myself logically that they were not coming from a critical position and YET. And yet...

Our old attachment stuff shapes and colours the lens through which we experience the world.

We will still have times when even a small/ simple interaction triggers an old life script/ relational position within us.

As we travel along the therapy road we will find it easier to navigate these moments.

Today I can imagine in to the other person's perspective, talk about it with them and express what happened for me when asked that question.

Actively reaching out to the person that unintentionally poked a very old wound.

Could I have responded this way years ago? No.
Could I have created space from my narrative in order to imagine theirs? No.

Most likely it would have triggered a shame spiral/ prevented me from contacting them again.

Re-parenting with a counsellor helps to create counter-scripts to the ones so well trodden in your brain and body.

Therapy steadily sows the seeds of secure attachment. Of being safely held, validated and accepted exactly as you are.

THIS is where enormous amounts of healing can happen.

This is where create a clearer lens through which to see the world...It's like scraping off the old dirt that's warping your view.

If this resonates with you/ you feel ready to explore your 'lens' together, book in for an initial session:
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#attachment
#psychotherapy
#healingjourney
#triggered
#counselling by @raeb_therapy

Depending on your background and how you grew up conflict can trigger many responses.

For some the reaction is people-pleasing, some have to be right, some withdraw completely, others get angry and blame...these strategies were developed to keep you safe and protected when you were young.

They worked - you are still here, but perhaps they aren't the most conducive to authentic intimacy and trust? 🤔

Perhaps they are creating obstacles in your life.

Learning healthier ways to approach and navigate inevitable conflict is such a great buffer and strengthener for all of your relationships - platonic, romantic, work, family...they can all benefit from reflection, exploration and learning to reframe what conflict looks like and how to repair it.

🖋 Two free exercises to try:

I invite you to take a moment to think about your own conflict cycles and responses without judgement.

1. Be curious and see if you can notice a pattern/ spiral/ story wrapped up in the word conflict - what surfaces in your body, your minds eye, emotional responses, thoughts, memories?

2. "Conflict is..." fill in the blank with as many words that arise. Try to let the words flow. There will be contradictions but don't edit, just express for now in all it's raw form.

You can bring the information gathered from these exercises to therapy to safely explore, unpack and process with the support of a trained professional.

Conflict is an inevitable part of the human experience, it makes sense to give it the time and space it deserves, to help you in your relationships with yourself and others.

Your past adaptions don't have to drive your future - if it's not helping you then perhaps it's time to put the old shield down and learn another way.

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#conflict #relationships #healthylifestyle #attachment #therapy by @raeb_therapy