Portia Cerese

Stop checking on people who only check on you when they need something.”PLEASE recognize when a friendship has become one-sided instead of genuine.You know that homegirl/homeboy who can go three weeks without asking how you’re doing, but suddenly remembers your phone number when they need a ride, a favor, money, advice, or somebody to vent to? That’s the kind of pattern we calling out! What it really means is friendship should be mutual. You shouldn’t always be the one initiating conversations,checking in, or making plans.Pay attention to patterns. Everybody gets busy, and a late reply doesn’t automatically mean someone is using you. But if they consistently appear only when they need something, that’s worth noticing. Stop overextending yourself. You can love people without making yourself permanently available to solve their problems. Give relationships room to be reciprocal. Let people have opportunities to reach out, make plans, and show that they value you, too.
Group Chat Translation
“Girl, I ain’t your emergency contact with benefits! 😂 If the only time you remember I exist is when you need something, we need to revisit this friendship.” Be a good friend, but don’t confuse being dependable with being somebody’s personal convenience store. You deserve friendships where people are interested in you, not just what you can do for them. 💫🖤🖤💫 #pettywithpurpose #groupchatchronicles