12 days agohadassah.am
My first daughter is 6y and is tender headed + has the kinkiest hair. I always manage her hair gently, and she still complains ๐ญ, meanwhile , my 3y daughter has lots of hair, they are kinky soft ( I don't know how else to picture that) and she is completely fine when I manage her hair. I even considered texturizing my oldest ๐ข ( apparently, it's different from relaxing).
15 days ago_racheldonaldson
I'm not Black, I'm not here to comment on y'all's experience because I haven't experienced it. I've worked with children for a long time and children with special needs. A lot of children hate getting their hair done. It's a sensory issue, so obviously I understand that with Black people, a lot is done to protect your natural hair, and there's a lot more pain associated/involved in that process. There are so many children on and off the spectrum that freak out as you said, with no one touching them. It's almost the anticipation of what's to come. Again I'm not Black, as a child I was not easy when it came to hair, my mum was rough, my hair has a slight wave but my mum didn't understand to brush from the bottom first then the top, I am not saying that is comparable to the Black experience and I think the way this mother handled this was perfect. Explain clearly what's about to happen, comfort the emotion. I understand it can take a long time, allow breaks when possible, for you and the child. My son hates getting his hair cut, he has autism, he can only explain it to me as it's actually painful getting his haircut, like the removal of the hair is what's painful if that makes sense. I think it's important as you said there can be many different reasons a child struggles getting their hair done and I think it's important that white people are aware of the differences between Black hair because I don't think it's even a thought for most of them, but I also think it's important that people be aware of other reasons any child may be struggling, I just think it's so important that children who need the extra help and support get it recognized early enough, I understand a lot of people have issues with labels, but I can't tell you how damaging it can be to a human brain when the label would have explained and helped a lot more than not having it. Again just to reiterate, I'm not comparing, our experience in hair is not the same in many cases, but I just wanted to share my knowledge in hopes it helps someone, we can only do the best we can with the knowledge we have โค๏ธ
15 days agorealttaylor
Tender headed still but know how to deal with it. But I never was scared. It was mir I didn't want the pain, but I wanted that long hair lol
15 days agoda_breaks
I have a tender headed baby UNLESS she's locked in on a video ๐๐ all at a sudden she's distracted and brushing doesn't hurt
15 days agoms_indigirl86_from_garyind
My mother understood my tenderheadedness and she used alot of patience when it was time to do my hair. My sister was rough and I hated getting my hair done by her. She eventually sent me to the beauty shop. My stylist was very careful with detangling. I'm still a bit tenderheaded but not as severe as a child. I'm in my late 50s.
15 days agoijust.robbedbatman
I still donโt like to get my hair done I like the results, but I donโt like the process
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