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Solveig | Love & Courage Coach

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For smart, sensitive women ready
to say “yes” to love + adventure
one brave, well-planned step at a time
↓ Begin your little love affair with life

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The vibe I’m on lately:

Sunshine whenever possible, good wine, & better conversation. 🍷

A love of adventure that hasn’t dimmed one bit since my 20s. Where shall I go next??? ✨✨🌎
And what should I eat there??

Coffee dates that turn into three-hour conversations because we both had more to say about alllll the things.

Family dinners with delicious food that get silly and completely full of love.

Gardens, and more coffee, and loving style, and Stella kitty sitting on my book… because I love a good cuddle and reading 10 books at once.

Believing, still, after everything, that love is worth staying open for ~ mine, my friends’, my clients’.

A life that’s already full, and still has room to be delighted by more.

This is the energy I bring into coaching too.

Not “fix yourself first.”

Just: come as you are, let’s have some fun finding out what’s possible. ✨

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25 days ago

If there’s one thing practicing A Little Love Affair with Life has taught me, it’s that the adventure doesn’t have to be big.

It just has to be yours, this week, on your own terms. ✨

Swipe through for a few ways to practice it, no matter how full or quiet your week already is.

Save this for the week ahead ~ and drop a 🌕 in the comments if one of these is calling your name.

And if you want more inspo, comment DELIGHT below and I’ll invite you to my 2-week free email guide to your own Little Love Affair with Life. by @solandheart

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Who handed you your timeline? 👀

Was it your parents, your church, the movies, your friend group’s wedding season?

Naming where the script came from is the first step to rewriting it. There are a lot of reasons why we got handed a timeline, but it’s time to start questioning it.

If this landed, comment DELIGHT & I’ll send you an invitation to Field Notes on Delight, my weekly letter for smart single babes over 40 who still believe in love. ✨ by @solandheart

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14 days ago

Urgency dating sounds like:
Is he the one?
Does he tick the boxes?
Is this going somewhere?

And suddenly you're not on a date. You're conducting a performance review ~ of him, of yourself, of the whole evening.

Curiosity dating sounds like:
I wonder what he's passionate about.
I wonder what made him who he is.
I wonder if I even like him. 😁

That second version changes the whole experience.

When I'm curious, I'm present. I'm IN the conversation instead of hovering above it, running the math.

I notice things ~ how he talks about his work, whether he asks follow-up questions, whether he makes me laugh without trying.

I'm not auditioning him or myself. We're two humans at coffee, and I'm actually paying attention.

Curiosity isn’t a trick or a technique. It’s what being open to delight feels like before you know where something is going.

The dates that felt most alive were the ones where I wasn’t holding the outcome so tightly.

You can still want love. You can still hope this one is different. The wanting just doesn’t need to sit at the table like a third guest. 😉

You are *already* beloved. You don’t have to chase it down over appetizers. 🤍

Next date, see if you can take a deep breath and be curious about the other person without attaching to an outcome.

Ask curious questions (instead of interview questions) and see what opens.

If this landed, comment DELIGHT & I’ll send you an invitation to Field Notes on Delight, my weekly letter for smart single babes over 40 who still believe in love. ✨ by @solandheart

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16 days ago

A little truth-tell before you swipe 🤍

The waiting room is real. I’ve sat in it. You pick up a magazine, tell yourself it won’t be long now, and keep glancing at the door.

Meanwhile, your actual life is happening out in the lobby. The good dinners, the trips, the Thursday nights that could be gorgeous if you let them count.

This carousel is about walking out of the waiting room and into the main event, without giving up on love for one second.

So tell me: what’s one thing you’ve been saving “for when they show up”? 👇

The bed frame? The trip? The kitchen remodel?
Let’s stop saving it. ✨

If this one landed, comment DELIGHT & I’ll send you an invitation to Field Notes on Delight, my weekly letter for smart single babes over 40 who still believe in love. by @solandheart

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18 days ago

Someone asked me how to deal with a scarcity mindset about dating, and I couldn’t stop thinking about it. 🤍

Swipe through for what my years as a love coach have taught me about the difference between “fewer” and “none.”

Come find me in Field Notes on Delight ~ a thoughtful space for smart single babes over 40. 🤍✨ Comment DELIGHT & I’ll send you an invite. by @solandheart

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22 days ago

I know the fear underneath this ~ what if I rest, and time passes, and I run out of time to find love?

But there’s no version of forcing yourself onto Hinge exhausted that gets you there “faster.”

Depleted dating doesn’t save time ~ it just makes the whole process take longer, because you’re not actually present for any of it.

You’re tired. Pause. Take some space for you. And then let’s see how you feel. 🤍

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24 days ago

Somewhere along the way, longing got treated like a problem to solve. A sign you’re not okay…

But longing for partnership isn’t weak.

The wanting is not weakness.

Your desires are wisdom for you.

It’s your own aliveness, pointing at something.

Not proof you’re incomplete ~ proof you’re still open and listening to your heart.

So instead of trying to talk yourself out of wanting love, or numbing it, or deciding you’ll deal with it later ~ what if you just held it?

Just held it in your heart. The way you’d hold friend who told you something tender and true.

Your longing is a compass.

And you get to want what you want, fully, while still being, right now, exactly as you are. ✨

Here’s to honoring our longing, my friend. 🤍

Come find me in Field Notes on Delight ~ a thoughtful space for smart single babes over 40 who still believe in love.

DM me DELIGHT and I’ll send you an invitation. 🤍 by @solandheart

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a month ago

You may think delight is only something that happens when you’re ON a date...

But it’s actually something you bring WITH you. 🤍

Swipe through for the practice ~ and no, it’s not about faking excitement you don’t feel.

Come find me in Field Notes on Delight ~ my newsletter for strong, single women over 40 who still believe in love. DM me DELIGHT and I’ll send you an invitation. 🤍 by @solandheart

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You keep thinking you need to do more inner work before you’re ‘allowed’ to date again.

I want to gently push back on that. 🤍

Follow for more real talk on dating after everything you’ve been through. by @solandheart

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a month ago

I deleted the dating apps (allll of them!) SO many times because they felt like such a bummer.

Turns out, the apps were never *really* the problem. I have more to say about this… but one thing that really didn’t help was the mindset I developed towards them.

Swipe through for what actually shifted things for me ~ pulling from my time as a matchmaker (yes, that’s a real thing I did). 🤍

Follow for more real talk on dating & being open to love in your 40s & beyond. by @solandheart

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