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We celebrated our 7th anniversary over the weekend 

And to be honest it wasn’t a great weekend. There was a lot of conflict that came up

I put so much pressure on myself that I couldn’t enjoy it or be as present I’d like to be. And I projected my stuff onto my wife 

But here’s the thing, yes there were hurt feelings, yes it was not what either of us wanted, it’s the way we were able to meet it that I’m really proud of. 

I had to really sit and own a few things, she was able to give me grace

It was really painful to drop the ball in the way I did, but it really did give me a gift, to be able to clearly see a pattern that doesn’t work for me that I get to commit to meeting and showing up differently around

We ended up having a beautiful evening the following night, no agenda other than to just be with each other, as is, imperfections and all

It can be humbling to continually discover ways that I block myself from closeness but then I remember that closeness, love , intimacy aren’t places of arrival but a practice of deepening 

And that’s the thing that I love most about being married to my wife, she is down for that process, within herself and within our union. 

Sometimes it”s really fucking hard, it’s often not a fairytale but I’m so grateful for the gift that it is, a mirror that constantly reflects me back to presence and God. I truly don’t know any other way I’d rather do it
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4 years married this week

Around the world and back 

This year has taught me on the deepest level that the strength of a relationship lies in its ability to repair 

The process of repair will often mean breakdowns in communication, arguing, fear of abandonment and misunderstanding 

It’s in the repair that intimacy grows and relationships that avoid conflict are ultimately avoiding the opportunities to repair and thus keeping their relationship fragile

I’ve all the things I want to hide, all the things I don’t want to be judged for, the things I think she won’t understand 

Those are the place I must go, further and further let her see the depths of me and open the space that I may do the same for her

I don’t own my wife. She doesn’t own me. Ultimately this marriage is a vessel that allows each of us to push the boundaries of who we are individually which in turn brings as together as a force collectively 

How much risk are we each willing to take to experience deeper levels of love
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A little bit about the incredible adventure at the truly outstanding wedding of @emily.ann.abbott and @robmaden19 this weekend at the ranch in Calgary, Canada❤️ It was wild and magical at the same time💥 The bride arrived riding a horse, the groom was a primal medieval warrior, the first newlyweds dance was a strip dance,  and also we were shooting Bologna sausage and other stuff out of hand made air pressure cannon🤪 So much fun!! Thank you guys for so much love!! Wishing you all the happiness in world💗 #wedding #canada #adventure #calgary #brideonahorse #medieval #cannon #fun #newlyweds
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