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I constantly see comments online about single moms.

“You should have stayed for the kids”
“You ruined your kids by leaving”
“You’re selfish”

Not to mention the plethora of comments belittling & devaluing single moms in general.

I’m here to tell you mama, that it’s not your fault.
You might have done what you HAD to do for yourself & for your children, as much as it hurts.
As painful as it is.
And nobody can imagine the amount of grief you are enduring unless they themselves, have walked through it.

But I see you. 👀🙏🥹

And as a woman who knew she had no choice…as someone who prayed and begged and prayed and begged for the sake of my children, I want to tell you that had there just been a lack of love in my marriage, I would have stayed.

I could have endured that.
I could have lived without seasons of romanticism or passion in my marriage, to have more stability for my children.

But my marriage was not just lacking love.
It was lacking respect,
healthy communication,
loyalty,
growth,
and most importantly, SAFETY.

I miss my kids so much when they’re at their dads.
I look back & its easy to wish it had just been a lack of love.
It sounds nice to think I could have stayed for my kids. 

And as much grief and pain as I feel on a regular basis for the “two home” life my children have, (and we as their parents have, because we know it ain’t easy), some of us had NO CHOICE but to leave and find safety.

I’m so sorry you had to go through that.
I’m so sorry you had to make that decision.
And I’m sorry that I did, too. 💗

Keep reminding yourself that everything is as it should be.🙏

Give it to God over & over & over again. As many times as it takes.
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