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We found our inner Picasso & Michelangelo at the Vision Board Paint Party.

We took a tour of @ceracerni_arthub

We put our vision board together

And we set the tone for the year by painting our ‘word for the year’

These words on canvas will remind us of our goals and plans especially on days when we don’t feel like it.

This was a really great experience!

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By @molokwu_peter:

There is a lot of talk about the importance of self-care, that is, taking time to do things that nourish our bodies and our souls. Although self-care is a vital part of a healthy lifestyle, it’s not the only type of care a person needs or people should focus on.

Giving your time and energy to others can be just as nourishing to your soul as taking care of yourself. When people are going through challenging times or struggling with mental health issues, like depression, it’s much more difficult for them to practice self-care. The best way to give our time and energy to our loved ones is to be there for them.

Often, when someone is down, they just don’t have the energy to do the things for themselves, and simple things – like picking up prescriptions, cleaning up around the house, or making a meal – can feel both overwhelming and exhausting. It’s important to make sure you are intentional about being there for the people you care about. It could be by helping them clean, cooking them a meal, taking a stroll with them, and so on. In fact, research shows that when someone is depressed, having positive, supportive people in their lives can have a positive impact on their recovery.

Of course, you shouldn’t sacrifice self-care in the process, but instead, strive to find a balance between doing for yourself and doing for others. Here are some ways you can show up for the people you care about:

Create a Safe Environment

When someone is going through a tough time, it’s a natural response to turn inward and shut out other people. They may struggle with loneliness and often aren’t sure of what to say or who to trust. One of the best ways you can show up for your loved one during times like these is to create an environment where they feel safe opening up and sharing their thoughts and feelings.

Demonstrate That you Care

Telling someone you are there for them is a good step in showing up for people, but sometimes your actions will speak louder than your words.

Link in bio to continue or visit https://www.bellanaija.com/2021/03/peter-molokwu-how-to-care-for-people/

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By @molokwu_peter:

Ispeak so fast when I’m nervous to the point where it can become difficult for people to understand me. I was very nervous the first time I had to give an important presentation at the workplace. After the presentation, I knew my colleagues were planning to give me feedback, and this made me more nervous. Once the presentation was over, I received overwhelmingly positive feedback. The only negative feedback: I spoke too fast.

It was at that moment that I realized that being nervous about doing a good job led to my nerves getting in my way. I also realized that a lack of confidence and imposter syndrome did nothing but hurt me. Being excited about an opportunity, feeling nervous, and lacking confidence can all lead to falling headfirst into the abyss of imposter syndrome.

Imposter syndrome won’t make you productive. There’s a dangerous perception that you have to shut imposter syndrome out completely and never let those feelings of doubt or insecurity cross your mind. That’s a rather unfair and unrealistic standard to set – one that can leave you feeling worse when you are struggling with imposter syndrome. It’s okay to doubt yourself sometimes, but it becomes harmful when you let that doubt consume and harm you. For instance, if you’re scrolling through LinkedIn and see your dream job pop up, it’s totally understandable to worry about not being qualified for it, but it’s not okay to choose to not apply because you don’t feel like you deserve your dream job. Don’t let your fear stop you from trying.

Learn to acknowledge your feelings, remind yourself of where these feelings stem from and why you’re ready to move past them. Also, learn to skip the self-fulfilling prophecy. I learned that my fears about doing a bad job in public speaking actually made me do a bad job on many occasions.

Link in bio to continue reading.

https://www.bellanaija.com/2020/12/peter-molokwu-the-thing-about-imposter-syndrome-what-it-does-to-us/

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By @molokwu_peter:

We all have them – those hurtful, frustrating, offensive, manipulative people in our lives. No matter how hard you try to surround yourself with positive and kind people, there will always be those who will disrespect, insult, and berate you if you allow them to. We may, for a variety of reasons, not be able to avoid them. But we can determine how we interact with them, and how we allow them to interact with us.

How can you take control of your life and stop being pushed around?

Set Clear Boundaries

Learning to set clear firm boundaries with the people in our professional and personal lives is the best way to protect ourselves from people throwing trash at us. But first, you have to understand what boundaries are and are not:

They are firm lines
They are determined by you and should not be crossed by those around you, even your family and friends. They are guidelines for how you will allow others to treat you and what kind of behaviour you permit. Personal boundaries help protect you from physical or emotional pain. Professional boundaries (especially at work) ensure that you and your time are not disrespected. Don’t allow others to take advantage of your kindness and generosity.

They communicate
Boundaries let others know that you demand respect, you are willing to stand up for yourself and that you will not be a doormat for anyone. They are a ‘no trespassing’ sign that make it very clear when a line has been crossed. They are not threats, ultimatums, or punishments. Boundaries are meant to inform or teach.

They do not change other people
Boundaries may change how people interact with you, but they are more about enforcing your needs than attempting to change the general behavior and attitude of others.
Now that you know what boundaries are not, how can you establish them and take control of your life?

Self-Awareness Comes First

Before you can establish boundaries with others, you first need to understand what your needs are, and what healthy behaviours and relationships should look like.

Link in bio to continue.

https://www.bellanaija.com/2020/09/peter-molokwu-setting-boundaries/

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By @molokwu_peter:

If you’re not working hard to protect your mental health right now, you’re either struggling with it or you’re a superhero. Even before the pandemic threw a wrench in things, there was plenty to stress about.

Concerns about work to the plenty wahala going on in Nigeria can affect your mental health. However, you need to remember that you control your mental state. You may not be able to solve all of life’s challenges, but you can keep them from getting to you.

Safeguarding your mental health isn’t just about keeping your stress levels in check for yourself and others, it’s about living a healthy, productive life.

Protecting your mental health starts with a simple commitment: to separate what’s going on within you from what’s going on around you.

Here’s how to do it:

Talk it Out

The first and most important step to protecting your mental health is to always speak up.
Opening up to friends and family about your mental health challenges isn’t a sign of weakness. In fact, it proves you’re strong enough to show others the not-so-perfect parts of your life.

Need an easy way to start the conversation? You could say:

I want to share something with you.
I’ve been thinking about…
Can we talk about it?
I’ve been struggling with…
Anyone of these will enable an easy flow into a conversation you need to have.

Reduce Your Screen Time

Tempting as it is right now, spending hours each day on social media isn’t good for your mental health. At best, you’ll distract yourself from what matters. At worst, you’ll internalize all the bad news and anger online.

Exercise

Your physical and mental health are more connected than you might realize, regular exercises can reduce depression and anxiety almost as effectively as medication.

Give Yourself a Break

Although perseverance is admirable, you have to cut yourself some slack when times get tough. Taking breaks is critical if you want to keep going for a long time.

You can do something that rejuvenates you, such as:

Reading a book
Calling up a friend
Taking a bath or shower
Taking a nap
Going for a walk
Catching up on your favorite series on Netflix

Link in bio!

#BellaNaijaFeatures #MentalHealth

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By @molokwu_peter:

With so many things grasping for our attention and time, it’s easy to get overwhelmed and overburdened. But what would happen if we learned to simply say ‘no’?

Saying no is a radical form of self-care because it helps you prioritize your well-being over your obligations and relationships. Of course, there are deadlines to meet, conversations to have, and things to check off your to-do list. Everything can seem pressing and urgent, but boundaries help us prioritize what we need to do right now versus what we can do later when we’re less stressed, more energetic, and generally well.

If you’re overwhelmed from a long day of work, it may not be a good time to listen to other people talk about their problems. When you’re in the mood to relax, it’s okay to decline an invite for a night out in town. Boundaries help keep us connected without becoming enmeshed. Here’s what I’ve learned about the word ‘no’, and what saying it more often than not has done for me.

“No is a complete sentence” – Oprah

When I first heard this simple statement, I wrestled with it for quite some time. I thought my ‘no’ needed an explanation or at least a counteroffer. I thought negotiating my ‘no’ would make me seem nice and selfless, but I’ve come to realize that ‘no’ doesn’t need to be nice or selfless, it just needs to be said.

You saying ‘no’ is not really about being hard or cold, it’s more about being assertive enough to stand up for yourself despite the pressure coming your way. You don’t owe anyone an explanation. I realized that pretty early and I’m glad I did. I realized that I wasted a lot of time going back and forth with people about why I said no. Whenever my ‘no’ was met with a rebuttal, I’d find myself in negotiation over my own boundaries. When I refused to engage beyond necessary, people learned to accept my answer as final. Now, once I state the boundary, I lovingly enforce it.

Continue reading via link in bio!

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I took a break on the #CareerQuestions series I started, mainly because I was a bit overwhelmed with life and wedding planning and work and everything else.
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But we move! .
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I've decided to get back on track, so here's my response to Q4. in the #CareerQuestions series.

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By @molokwu_peter: "The friends that are temporary in your life are just as important as your ‘permanent’ friends. They teach you to value those who will stay so much more. And every happy memory, whether or not you lose the person you shared it with, is as valuable as diamonds are." Read the full piece on bellanaija.com/features

https://www.bellanaija.com/2020/03/peter-molokwu-outgrowing-friendships-is-a-part-of-life-embrace-it/

#BellaNaijaFeatures #BellaNaija

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All shades of swag in one body💥💖👑

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