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August Dump:

I’ve been thinking alot about the concept of grieving friendships. I think it’s a relatively underexplored topic, despite the fact that it’s a universal, ubiquitous experience.

The different kinds of grieving there are:

1- Grieving the genuine loss of a friendship.

2- Grieving the loss of closeness with a friend that you thought would be more enduring, but was more temporary in nature.

3- Grieving the loss of the person that existed relationally to this friend- the version of you who you liked being when you are/were with them.

4- Grieving the loss/transformation or disintegration of friendship groups/structures.

5- Grieving the narrative of the friendship that you constructed and what it meant for your identity.

6- Grieving the rituals that gave breath to the friendship(s) as much as it did your life.

If you want to be in a relationship with anyone ever, this is inevitable. It is the cost of being a relationally rich human. It doesn’t necessarily mean that something went wrong- which is a type of thinking that can strain the grieving process.

The gymrat/muscle-head fitness coach in me wants to think that the grieving could be a skill…it being a skill implies that it is an experience/sensation that could be less uncomfortable, maybe more easy. But probably not. Maybe more so just less unfamiliar and more capacity to sit with the loss and to metabolize it gracefully.

Another noteworthy relevant skill is friendship building- an equal, but different skill that requires another kind of vulnerability.

“You have indeed felt a great loss, but love is a form of energy and it swirls all around us. The Air Nomads' love for you has not left this world, it is still inside of your heart, and is reborn as new love.” - Guru Pathik

Perhaps the skill entails receiving and accepting new forms of love in new friendships.

Because “what is grief, if not love persevering?” -Vision

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Annual trip to the Hiouchi River! Thank you Thea & Niko! Thank you otherworldly redwoods! Thank you gorgeous friends! And thank you big booty!

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May & June Dump:

These past couple of months, I've been thinking a lot about self-esteem.

How it and confidence leads to a greater sense of agency, which is ultimately beneficial to oneself, the people in one's life, and society at large. Self esteem makes you more reliable to others.

Then there is trust and worthiness- Self-esteem is the believing that your perceptions, judgments, intuition and actions are worth trusting. This is earned trust.

It reduces the potential for resentment and passivity. Resentment flourishes when people perceive themselves as unable to make meaningful choices.

People can achieve greater interpersonal depth with one another when there is a foundation of healthy self-esteem. Where there is more self-esteem, there is greater alignment with one's values and greater truthfulness to oneself and others. Where there is more agency, there is more empowerment. More empowerment means more responsibility, and strong self-esteem makes that responsibility feel attractive instead of threatening.

Then there is physical agency in addition to psychological agency, both profound, powerful, and interconnected in such a way that they become almost indistinguishable.

I could not have anticipated that it would take me until 31 years of age to feel this kind of self-esteem.

One quote that has stayed with me is:

"Self-esteem is the reputation you have with yourself."

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Frolicking, laughing, singing, and dancing with the Shimmerback land and my hands-down favorite people. Four years into this ritual, I keep coming back to it as a way of understanding time and change. Three engagements. Friends returning and departing. Creative practices deepening. New ideas just beginning to take shape. The familiar joy of people committing wholeheartedly to the bit. What a lucky thing to steep ourselves each year, like forgotten tea bags, in the love of life together.

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Epic FireCircle gathering last night 🔥 Grateful for the men in the room.

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@tylerrobertclark giving us life 🔺

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April Dump:

“I fall in love with myself, and I want someone to share it with. I want someone to share me with me.”

—Eartha Kitt

!!!!!

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That Beltane Breeze

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March dump!
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Goals for next month:

actually adhere to diet plan,
reduce fomo,
build long head of tricep
make more monies,
go to bed on time!

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Hard to believe it’s been 10 years of calling California home. To all the beautiful people and places—so long for now, and see you soon

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