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Author - psychotherapist - human
It’s Ok that You’re Not OK
Private sessions / groups / consultations

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Yas; kaçılması ya da “hemen atlatılması” gereken bir kriz değil, gidenin ardından kalan boşlukla yeniden var olma sürecidir. Toplumun “güçlü ol, çabuk toparlan” baskısına karşı; Yalom’un varoluşsal bakışından Devine’in cesur sesine, Gospodinov ile Hablemitoğlu’nun şefkatli yaklaşımlarından Kübler-Ross’un dönüştürücü bilgeliğine kadar yasa rehberlik eden 5 muazzam eseri derledim. Yas, iyileştirilmesi gereken bir hastalık değil; sevginin form değiştirmiş halidir.
Sizi bu yolculukta en çok besleyen kitap hangisiydi? 🌿
#irvinyalom #şengülhablemitoğlu #yasrehberi #bahçıvanveölüm #kitaptavsiyesi

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Things I would tell you about if we were catching up over coffee ☕️
(Grab your drink. We have a lot to cover.)

Pickleball brings me more joy than I can explain. Who knew hitting a wiffleball around could be so life-giving? I played collegiate tennis a lifetime ago, and now I’m trading in my racket for a paddle.

It’s OK That You’re Not OK by Megan Devine changed how I think about grief. Our culture loves to say “move on,” but grief doesn’t work that way. Highly recommend this read!

Parenting is the best and hardest thing. My daughter has been a real pill lately and somehow she is still the cutest person I know.

My parents came to visit, and I loved every minute. I may be a mom now, but sometimes I just want to be their kid.

My husband just turned 40. Fun fact: I married a younger man. Isn’t he cute? ❤️

Starting a business is hard. Some days I feel wildly unqualified. Other days I feel like a superhero boss lady. There is no in-between.

Big news: The Pearl Project is officially a gift company! In our latest newsletter, I share why we’re repositioning—and how I went from Jennifer to Jen (see photo here of 3 year old “Jennifer” circa 1986). Sign up through the link in bio.

Why do school photos cost an arm and a leg? I have a growing collection of watermarked photos because I refuse to buy them. Tell me I’m not alone.

Okay, that’s all for now. Tell me something you’d update me about if we were catching up over coffee. 👇

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تو روزای نحس زمستونِ پارسال،حال همه ی ما خیلی بد بود،مخصوصا ما خونواده های عزادار،دوستای خارج از کشورم انقدررر هوای منو داشتند که تو اون روزا کور سوی اميد بود برام و برای من خیلی ارزشمند بود همراهیشون و این کتاب یکی از اون همراهی های دور از وطن بود🥺 روزی که این کتاب به دستم رسید حتی توان بلند شدن از روی تخت رو هم نداشتم ولی کم کم شروع کردم به ورق زدنش،اوایل با هر خطش گریه میکردم و بعد از یه پاراگراف کتاب رو پرتش میکرد اونور،بعد یهو هرچی که خوندم اشتیاقم بهش به خوندنش بیشتر شد،خوندم و گریه کردم،خوندم و ادامه دادم،خوندم و نوشتم و نوشتم و نوشتم،از دردم،از فقدانم،از سوگ عظیمِ برادرم،آخ برادرم،برادرم،برادرم....
یهو به خودم اومدم و دیدم،این کتاب شده مرهم و رفیق و همراهم تو این سوگ بزرگ.
جوری که این کتاب آرومم کرد،جوری که کنارم بود و جوری که درکم میکرد،انگار از روح و پوست و استخوان خودم نوشته شده بود
امیدوارم که هیچکس تجربه تلخ و دردناکی رو که من داشتم هیچوقت تجربه نکنه،اگر تو دوران سوگ و عزاداری هستید و یا هنوز با گذشت روزها و ماه‌ ها و سالها دوران سوگتون تموم نشده،شاید خوندن اين کتاب بتونه کمکتون کنه📚🥲🫂
پ.ن: اسلاید ها از جملات داخل کتاب انتخاب شده📚
#مگان_دیواین #عیبی_ندارد_اگر_حالت_خوش_نیست #کتاب #کتاب_باز #کتاب_بخوانیم

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TW Sterben / Tod / Trauer

Seit Sams Tod vor jetzt schon zwei Jahren beschäftige ich mich mit dem Thema Verlust, Tod, Trauer, Sterben - mal mehr, mal weniger. Diese Bücher hab ich dazu gelesen:

📚 It‘s ok that you‘re not ok - Megan Devine
Ja, ja, ja!! Muss man gar nicht mehr dazu sagen. Hilft in akuter Trauer, ist auch was für Personen, die nicht wissen, wie sie mit jemandem umgehen soll, der gerade trauert!

📚 how to carry what can‘t be fixed - Megan Devine
Selbe Autorin, hat mir mal mehr, mal weniger geholfen. Ich würde sagen ich würde es zu 50/50 empfehlen, je nach Typ Mensch, und ob man sich darauf einlassen kann!

📚 the last lecture - Randy Pausch
Ein berührendes Buch über die Auseinandersetzung mit der eigenen Sterblichkeit - was lassen wir unseren Angehörigen und liebenden Menschen zurück?

📚 tuesdays with morrie - Mitch Albom
Ja, einfach ja. Unbedingt lesen! Der Bestseller „the five people you meet in heaven“ von ihm ist auch schon ewig auf meiner Liste..

📚 when breath becomes air - Paul Kalanithi
Vielleicht hab ich mir zu viel erwartet oder ich war nicht in der richtigen Stimmung, aber irgendwie hat mich das leider nicht so abgeholt.

📚 25 letzte Sommer - Stephan Schäfer
Ja eh… war ein Buch zum Thema eigene Sterblichkeit, aber mir war es ab einem Punkt zu sehr „zwei weiße sehr privilegierte alte Männer reden über das Leben“ 😬 Grundidee fand ich gut aber, joah… 🙈

📚 bearing the unbearable - Joanne Cacciatore
Ich kann mich bei diesem Buch nur noch an die generelle Stimmung und an das „gesehen werden“ erinnern. Und das ich dachte: „das muss ich zu einem anderen Zeitpunkt noch mal lesen“

🎧 Falls du dich mit dem Thema beschäftigen möchtest und lieber hörst als liest dann hör mal in den Podcast von @maria_easydogs und mir rein (wir müssen reden - die weißen Folgen).

Hast du eins von den Büchern gelesen oder noch andere zu dem Thema, welche du (nicht) empfehlen kannst? Schreibs in die Kommentare, ich freu mich über Empfehlungen 🙏

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Grief affects our daily lives in so many ways that we created this tongue-in-cheek grief bingo card.

How many of these things have happened in your life? What would you put on your own Grief Bingo card? Let us know in the comments.

#GriefSupportGroup #LivingWithGrief #TherapyTools

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📚 Some books stay with us long after we’ve turned the final page.

Today is Bookshop Day in the UK, a day to celebrate books, the people who write them, and the wonderful bookshops that bring them into our lives.

I thought I’d share a few of my favourite books on grief. ❤️

Since losing my mum, I’ve read a lot about grief.

Some books have helped me understand what’s happening in my brain and body.

Others have challenged the way I think and talk about grief, or put words to feelings and experiences that can be so difficult to explain.

What I love about these books is that they don’t all approach grief in the same way.

Because grief isn’t one-size-fits-all.

We each experience it differently, and what resonates with one person may not resonate with another.

Some of these books have helped me personally.
Others have deepened my understanding of grief and influenced the work I do supporting others.

And tucked into the pile is my own book, Carrying Her Forward.

After reading so many books that have helped me understand and navigate my own grief, it feels rather special to have added my own voice to the conversation.

Written from my experience of losing my mum, it’s my contribution to helping others feel a little less alone in their grief.

So today, I’m celebrating the writers who are helping to change the conversation around grief, sharing their knowledge, experiences and sometimes their most vulnerable moments so others might feel a little less alone.

And, of course, our independent bookshops, which deserve our support all year round.

I’d love to hear from you.

Have you read any of these?
Or is there a book about grief, loss or life that has really stayed with you?

Please share your recommendations in the comments.

You never know who might need those words right now. ❤️

#griefbooks #griefsupport #griefandloss #booksaremybag #griefcommunity

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#WorldMentalHealthDay 
Whether you’re dealing with cancer yourself, or going on that journey with someone you love, it’s important to look after your mental health. Cancer may happen in the body, but its effect on the mind is something we all need support with.  
On Cancer Care Map there are over 6,000 support services that can help with the impact of cancer. Here are just a few examples of what you can find:
 @mentalhealthmates – Peer support walking groups for people living with mental health issues. Walks are volunteer led and take place regularly across the UK. There is also a monthly online meet up via Zoom.
 @stopbreathethinkcharity – Youth charity offering online counselling to those aged 8 to 21, in funded areas. It uses Solution-Focused Brief Therapy (SFBT) which is brief, goal-oriented and focused on present and future goals, rather than past problems.

@alike.uk – Mobile app providing support to young adults living with cancer. Users can share and connect with others with shared experiences which helps to combat feelings of loneliness and isolation
 @parent_village – Charity supporting parents with their mental health, wellbeing and confidence, including those affected by cancer. It offers tools and resources including parenting workshops, a private Facebook group for chat and mutual support, in person and online meet ups, parent groups and one to one parenting coaching. Its Parenting with Cancer online coaching programme is run in partnership with The Fruitfly Collective.
 It’s OK That You’re Not OK – Podcast series providing bereavement support to people who have lost someone close. It is hosted by psychotherapist Megan Devine @refugeingrief and shares people’s personal experiences of loss and grief and provides advice for those in difficult times.
 For more – including hundreds of cancer specific support groups across the country – head to the Cancer Care Map homepage and type your postcode or keywords in to search our directory.

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The Moritz Center was so fortunate to welcome @sarabareilles for a meaningful conversation @cactuscafeatx about grief, loss, creativity, & music ahead of her sold-out show❤️.
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This reel captures one of the most important messages shared: There is NO hierarchy in grief, loss, or pain. Every experience matters, & each
story deserves compassion and understanding.
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Sara, thank you for sharing your time, energy, insights with us and UT Social Work students. And most importantly, thank you for being YOU and like (one of) your hit songs so BRAVE.
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A heartfelt thank-you to the UT School of Social Work for helping make this possible and the amazing Cactus Cafe for Hosting!
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Follow @moritzcenter for more innovative programming, opportunities, & more!
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#MoritzCenter #SaraBareilles #BeBrave #GriefAndLoss #HealingThroughMusic

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📚 Books for sitting with death, grief & loss

There are some things we can’t fully understand until we’re willing to sit with them.

These books offer different perspectives on death, dying, grief, loss, remembrance, and what it means to make a life alongside mortality. Some may bring comfort. Some may challenge you. Some may simply give language to something you’ve been carrying.

You don’t have to read them all at once. Choose the one that meets you where you are. 🤍

What book has helped you understand grief, death, or loss differently?

The Alchemy of Ashes
From ashes, we make meaning.

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Nourish your mind with this mental health focused non-fiction #SundayStack 🧘 and support our One Foot Forward fundraiser via the link in our bio to help raise money for essential Australian mental health research and treatment. #OneFootForward #MentalHealthAwareness

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It’s #bookmail day!!!!

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Use our handy "care & feeding" guide to help people you love when they're in pain. ❤️‍🩹

Caring for each other is hard. Words often fail us at times like these, leaving us stammering for the right thing to say.

Some people are so afraid to say or do the wrong thing, they choose to do nothing at all.

Doing nothing at all is certainly an option, but it’s not often a good one. These tips are useful for supporting people in all sorts of difficult situations.⁣⁣⁣

Based on your own experiences, what's one thing you'd add to this list of #GriefSupport tips? Let us know in the comments.

#HowToHelp #BeExcellentToEachOther #CommunicationSkillsTraining #MedEducation

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