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Some wounds are clear. You know what you lost. You know why it hurts.

The more damaging wound is the confusion. The relationship bends your map of reality until you start doubting your own perception, your own judgment, and your own capacity to love safely again.

That is why recovery cannot be reduced to “moving on.” You may also have to grieve the fantasy, the performance, the old self-story, and the culture that trained you to keep dancing while you were in pain.

The work is to stop fighting your way back into the same room that made you vulnerable. Choose a future that makes you less dependent, less performative, and more real.

Follow @richard.grannon for more on recovery from narcissistic abuse.

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If I had to recover from a narcissist again in 2026, I’d do it very differently. I wouldn’t rush strength or pretend I was “over it.” I wouldn’t intellectualise my pain. I’d admit the truth early: I was heartbroken, betrayed, and I didn’t feel safe to love or connect again.

Most people try to skip this part. That’s why they stay stuck. There’s real freedom in admitting defeat. And honesty speeds recovery up more than any technique ever will.

Grief first. Rebuilding later.

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Spandex Ballet performing "Separate Ways" by Journey at Goodner Mountain July 4th Celebration 2022

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What’s ya soul sayin to ya is something I’ve asked myself many times in this life and although it’s always provided the right answer, in hindsight it seemed like the most challenging answer possible at the time, but thankfully I always listened. Thanks for letting me speak from within @richard.grannon and thanks for the difference your light makes in the world ✨💛✨

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You crack me up @richard.grannon 😂

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The inimitable Grannon @richard.grannon and the sui generis Vaknin banter, howl, and generally have a good time as they upset everything you think you know about yourselves - and about the pseudoscience of psychology.

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#samvaknin #questions #answers #narcissism #clusterb #personality #life #abuse #family #relationships

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On leaving home when I turned 15 & starting a diary which now informs my film scripts… a lil clip from the lovely time I had talking to @richard.grannon on his show recently ❤️🎥
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The erroneous foundations of contemporary psychology: self, personality, individual should be replaced with seamlessly fluid self-states. Man is a river, not a lake. I discuss my new concept of covert borderline and the bridge between overt and covert cluster B states via collapse and narcissistic mortification.

The concept of the unitary self is being replaced with the idea that an internal operating system determines which of several self-states emerges, given internally and externally (environmentally) generated information.

Self-efficacy is the overriding constraint which the system seeks to optimize when hailing forth these sub-personalities or pseudoidentities.

When all relevant or available self-states at the disposal of the system are equally self-efficacious, the system may opt to keep two or more of them in operation (I call it a “state of residuals” or "binary system"). This ineluctably leads to dissonance and internalized aggression.

Each state is narrative which provides a pseudo-identity. Pseudoidentities are ego functions (resources) and simulations (probes). In the absence of a unitary, stable core (identity disturbance and identity diffusion), the patient shape-shifts between self-states, replete with their own unique traits, affect, cognitions, and behaviors. In extremis, these self-states are utterly dissociated (most forms of DID - Dissociative Identity Disorder).

Psychopathy is a self-state, protective of ego resource in DID, BPD (secondary), NPD, HPD, PPD.

But protect from what?

NPD: injury, mortification (hypervigilance) leads to contact with trauma traces, repressed emotions - NPD becomes BPD (Grotstein: BPD failed narcissist).

PPD: threat (paranoid ideation, persecutory delusions)

BPD: abandonment, rejection

HPD: rejection, injury

When the protective self is overactive or is the only self-state/resource, we get hybrids types (comorbidity) like the malignant narcissist (Fromm, Herbert Rosenfeld, Kernberg).

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#samvaknin #self #ego #psychopath #borderline #protect #narrative #identity

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Films and series you won't find elsewhere

Ickonic original documentaries from the true nature of reality to heart-warming personal stories.

Practical solutions to kickstart your personal development journey. Lift your spirits with some much-needed humour.

You'll feel encouraged, inspired and uplifted. With your sanity intact.

Start your 7 day free trial today - www.ickonic.com

#ickonic #media #newmedia #ickonicoriginals #weareickonic #thefutureisickonic #documentary #education #tv

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