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Inclusive relational & mental health care for “Everyone Else in Utah” ❤️‍🩹
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It’s more of a surprise than a secret! 🤫
But I am so excited to share it nonetheless! 🎉

Therapy for LGBTQ+ people is deeply important, especially as the world continues to be unfriendly, unkind, and unsafe for many of us. And yet, there seems to be a gap in healing frameworks. We are left to adapt models, piece together theories that weren’t made for us, and do our best with what we have.

But I am not satisfied with that. I believe that queer people deserve better than “good enough.” And I believe therapists deserve tools to help them provide true healing. ❤️‍🩹

So, I decided to fill in the gap. I created Queer Identity Reattunement Therapy©️(QIRT)! At its core, QIRT is about the lifelong process of reattuning to ourselves and reclaiming our wisdom, intuition, and inner knowing as we liberate ourselves from shame.

I am so proud of this! And so excited to share it with the world! Stay tuned as I share more about this framework! Queer people deserve healing. And I am honored to help us learn how to.

The next cohort starts February 2027, so apply today! Link in bio! 💫

#therapy #lgbtq #queer #queertherapy #gay

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These are moments I used to dream about (and at one point wouldn’t allow my self to dream it.)

Sometimes I take for granted how healing everyday gender-congruence can be. The quiet moments when I feel aligned and at home in my self.

So, I am trying to savor the small glimmers. As queer people, we need that in this painful world.

I wish gender euphoria on everyone—it is beautiful. I hope you get to feel that today! 💖

#trans #nonbinary #lgbtq #queer #gendereuphoria

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We deserve better than “at least I didn’t discriminate against you”.

Therapy has not been a safe place for queer people. Our history is steeped in “therapy” being used as a weapon against us, with people in positions of power trying to “cure us”. So it makes sense that the bar is low for what we expect out of therapy and therapists. But, we can expect more because we deserve more.

One of my biggest frustrations with my profession is how we conflate affirming someone’s identity with clinical competence. While affirming LGBTQ+ people is foundational, it is just the beginning of building clinically attuned therapy for queer people. Good enough therapy is not good enough. We need affirming and deeply skilled therapists to help us heal from the wounds of society and shame.

I’m on a mission to fill the gap. Stay tuned. 👀

#therapy #lgbtq #queer #queertherapy #gay

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It is so freeing to be nonbinary. Rather than having to choose between being masculine and being feminine, I get to be both. They are compliments, not contradictions! I get to explore, experiment, and express myself using all the colors, aesthetics, and beauty that exist, without feeling like I need to sacrifice who I am. What a gift. 💝

Gender exploration can feel scary at first, but the more we get comfortable with our selves, the more fun it can be. We hear a lot about the difficulties of being trans, nonbinary, queer… but there is also so much beauty and joy. We deserve to honor the part of lives as well.

I love being me. And I hope you love being you, too! 💋

#lgbtq #queer #trans #nonbinary #beauty

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Our society needs healing, and it won’t come from scapegoating trans people.

Increasingly we are seeing the wounds of toxic rigidity to gender expectations bleed out all around us. The manosphere is spreading its illness and we have a charge to stop it. This isn’t new, but it is spiking. What we are seeing is not normal, organic, or healthy. It is pathological, and it is on us to name it so that we can address it.

This isn’t to say that masculinity is bad. But if your masculinity requires you to disconnect from yourself, others, and humanity, it is.

Healthy gender is about authenticity, not adherence.

#trans #queer #masculinity #gender #lgbtq

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I almost changed my outfit because of my belly outline. I loved the look, but then I noticed the curves of my body. I could feel my familiar insecurities creep in, and my confidence dampen. The familiar voices felt so loud— “shrink, restrict, starve, hide.”

But, then I remembered that I have worked too hard to heal my relationship with my body. The belly, in many ways, is a badge of self love.

Our bodies are our homes for our souls, not a house for our shame. They are not meant to be hidden.

So, this is your reminder to wear the cute look. Let your body show. Because, it truly is beautiful.

#therapy #body #bodypositivity #fallvibes #outfits

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A vulnerable peek behind the curtain.🫶🏽

#lgbtq #queer #trans #nonbinary #therapy

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My podcast is back lovers & I brought back one of my favorites to talk about freedom in the in between. When we don’t have everything figured out, when we aren’t sure where we stand but we know where we don’t stand. It’s a beautiful & messy spot & I’m currently living in one. Thank you @alabrown22 from @simplemoderntherapy for taking the time to share your thoughts with us. If you’d like the direct link comment LINK & I will send it over!

Otherwise you can find the @this.isashlynn podcast on every platform you listen to podcasts.

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My loves, I want to remind us that we do not owe anyone conformity. We are not required to be a version of ourself that makes sense to other people—especially if their framework is limiting and restrictive. We don’t need to dim our light because someone is scared of brightness.

One of the biggest lies we have to heal from is that we are only lovable when we “fit” in. We have been taught that belonging is conditional on us being an acceptable version of our self. So, we feel the need to adjust to external expectations. But we don’t. We can break free from that cage of conformity.

So, this is your gentle and loving reminder to reconnect with your intuition and shine from your authenticity! Be bold. Be weird. Be “confusing”. Be you! ✨ Who you are is worthy of love, and worthy of being seen. The world is better because you exist. I am proud of you!

#lgbtq #queer #trans #nonbinary #gay

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Blaming the “others” will not make your pain go away. It is not by accident that they are able to manipulate our pain and turn us against each other. But we can’t keep falling for it.

At this point there is no excuse for it. We know better than to fall for the lie of the scapegoat. Stop it.

Trans people, immigrants, people of color, people with disabilities, empowered and body autonomous women, queer people, etc. deserve life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness. And our happiness does not take away from yours.

#lgbtq #queer #trans #poc #immigration

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Sometimes understanding our gender can seem confusing when we feel compelled to have it fit into societal boxes. Who we are doesn’t have to make sense to others. We do not owe people legibility. ✨

My gender cannot be reduced to a point on a line. It isn’t situated between idealized “fully man” or “fully woman.” (I don’t believe that those even exist). My masculinity is not the opposite of my femininity, they are not contradictions, they are compliments. I do not have to choose between, because I am both.

I know often time people talk about gender or sexuality being a spectrum, but I prefer to think about it like a constellation. A composite of how we interact in the universe of gender. Not stagnant or singular, but expansive and dynamic. 🏳️‍⚧️

#lgbtq #queer #trans #nonbinary #gender

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Our identities are inherently political in a society that values conformity. Our existence is resistance, but also our resistance doesn’t mean we automatically are liberated. That takes work. That is what queer healing is about. It is the process by which we embody our difference as a philosophy of liberation. We break free from upholding the limits in society by allowing ourselves to be. Authenticity is the medicine.

#lgbtq #queer #trans #queertherapy #lgbtqtherapist

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