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💋 4 The Wh*res + Romantics 💕
✨Award-Winning S*x Educator | @brownu
✍🏾 Ghostwriter + Poly + K!nk(y) ⛓️‍💥

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headed to the highlands ♥️🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿

@boredofdatingapps partnered with @starz for an extra special bookshop meet-cute - and what a treat to surprise everyone with the @outlander_starz cast & EP ahead of their season two premiere!!

I had the pleasure of moderating the cast’s appearance, and chatted with them about all things meet-cutes and more. 💌very proud of this gorgeous night and everyone who made it happen. ⭐️

so many beautiful shots from the night thanks to @gabidesphoto 📷

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“In sorrow thou shalt bring forth children.” With these words, women fell into a world that saw them as cursed. They are still falling. Today, we define women by suffering: menstrual cramps, mood swings, excruciating childbirth, painful first-time sex. This modern reality is not our destiny.

These myths are misreadings not just of ancient texts but of women’s bodies. Once we recover who we were before the fall, we can revel in the blessings of our bodies. Through inspiring stories from the author, Suzannah Weiss, and a diverse group of blessed people, 𝙀𝙫𝙚’𝙨 𝘽𝙡𝙚𝙨𝙨𝙞𝙣𝙜 charts many paths from pain to pleasure so that you can walk your own.

One week from today, we welcome alumna author Suzannah Weiss (@suzannahwise) to the Brown Bookstore for a discussion on 𝙀𝙫𝙚’𝙨 𝘽𝙡𝙚𝙨𝙨𝙞𝙣𝙜. She will be joined in conversation by fellow alum, Connie Collins (@thefirstdatediaries.)

🗓️ Wednesday, September 23rd at 4:00 PM

#brownalumni #brownalumna #alumnaauthor #booktalk #brownuniversity #providence #providenceri #brownu #shopbrownu

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summers come and go but yall always stay

Pics obviously from @safe.slvt 💗

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What happens when you stop looking away? 🪞

Mirror work isn’t about forcing yourself to love everything you see. It’s about learning to look at your body with less judgement and more curiosity.

From body neutrality to building confidence and connection, our beginner’s guide explores how mirror work can help you see yourself differently.

Ready to give it a try? 🪞✨

Read the full guide on Sensuali comment ‘MIRROR’ to get the article dropped in your inbox

#MirrorWork #BodyConfidence #SelfExploration #Sensuality

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Have you ever wondered why you don’t always feel desire out of nowhere? Well a coach on Sensuali could help you understand your why.

For so many people, we’ve been taught that desire should be spontaneous; that if you don’t instantly feel “in the mood”, something must be wrong. But that’s only one way desire can show up.

Understanding the different ways desire works, including spontaneous, responsive and contextual desire, can completely change the way you view your seggs life and your relationship. It can help replace pressure with curiosity and make space for intimacy that actually works with your body, not against it.

If you’ve ever questioned your libido or wondered why desire feels different now than it used to, this article is for you and so is Sensuali.

✨ Comment “Desire” below and I’ll send the full article straight to your inbox.

#Desire #Intimacy #Coach #Body #Relationship

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Meet the love of your life this World Cup 👀

The best match of the night might not be on the pitch ⚽️ Join hundreds of NYC singles as we watch Argentina take on Switzerland in the quarter-finals together.

Come for the football. Stay for the conversations. Leave with a date.

📍 @smithandmills
🗓 Saturday 11 July - 7pm

As always, 95% of our guests come solo. Tickets in our bio…

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sorry mom

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NYC, your next meet-cute is waiting 💜

This summer, we’re taking over bookshops, bars, rooftops and World Cup watch parties with hundreds of singles who are just as tired of dating apps as you are.

No swiping. No algorithms. No ghosting after matching with someone you’ve never actually met.

Just good people, great venues, and the kind of chance encounters that never happen when you’re dating through a screen.

📍 Rockefeller Center – June 26 @smithandmills
📚 Book Club Bar – July 20 @bookclubbar
🍸 Friends & Lovers – August 13 @friendsandloversbk
📚 Book Club Bar – August 17 @bookclubbar

Come solo. (95% of people do.)

Because the best relationships rarely begin with a swipe. They begin with a conversation.

#NYCSingles #NYCDating #MeetCute #BoredOfDatingApps #DatingApps

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We’re calling it, Valentine’s this year is for the singles 👯‍♀️👯

Our Singles Meet-Cute at @unlisted.nyc @untitledfreemanalley is officially down to JUST MEN’S TICKETS LEFT. This is an opportunity to meet 150 incredible single people in one night - beats swiping any day.

The women are booked. The vibes are booked. Cupid’s already clocked in.

This isn’t speed dating. It’s not awkward name tags or forced flirting. It’s a room full of people who actually want to be there - cutely nicely, slightly nervous, open to something real.

If you’re a man who:
• is bored of apps
• misses organic connection
• wants a Valentine’s that feels like a story, not a swipe
• is ready to show up IRL (brave, hot behaviour)

— this is your sign.

🍸 Thoughtfully hosted @thegraceclarkdelgado @jksaxer @the_jenny_allison @thefirstdatediaries @annathesun @samanthajrutter @matt_roda - catch our hosts at our Valentine’s week
💬 Designed so you can come on your own
💘 Meet-Cute cards to make chatting easy
✨ A night that feels romantic without trying too hard

12 Feb. Unlisted.
Just men’s tickets left and once they’re gone, they’re gone.

Come be someone’s “how did you two meet?” story.

Tickets in our bio ❤️‍🔥

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Living in a big city, the dating pool can feel endless—filled with infinite possibilities, and infinite complexities. And while we’ve opened ourselves up to the beauty and freedom of polyamory, ethical non-monogamy, and fluid relationship styles, it’s OK to find navigating that a little overwhelming. Put those two things together, and exploring polyamory in a metropolis might feel like you need your own personal guide to answer all of your questions.

Jard Lerebours sat down and spoke with award-winning sex educator and writer Connie Collins ( @thefirstdatediaries) about just that. Swipe through and read more at the #linkinbio.

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✨POV: You meet the love of your life under a disco ball in Brooklyn.✨

We’re bringing the rom-com energy back to New York, this time with a night made for those who want to dance, laugh, flirt, and maybe lock eyes across the dance floor.

📍 Friends and Lovers, Brooklyn
🪩 Dance Party Meet-Cute
💃🏽 Because sometimes love looks like meeting under the disco ball.

Expect:
🪩 Sweaty dance-floor magic
🥂 Easy chats over drinks
💌 A room full of single people who are just as over dating apps as you are
❤️ That spark you can’t swipe for

We’ve always believed that the best stories don’t start with “we matched on Hinge.” They start with “we met at a party,” “he asked me to dance,” “we couldn’t stop laughing.” This is your chance to write one of those stories.

Tickets are live now - come solo (most people do!) or grab a wing-woman/wing-man and step into the night. Who knows? Your next meet-cute might just be waiting under the disco ball. 🪩✨

#BODANYC #MeetCuteInRealLife #OfflineDating

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We are so excited to announce our latest New York wingwoman ❤️💞 @thefirstdatediaries

Connie will be there on hand, with our other hosts, to make sure you feel welcomed, safe and seen - aaand make sure of course you’re intro-d to THAT person you wanna chat to in the room…

Our next NY social will be in @bookclubbar tomorrow night (ONLY MEN’S TIX AVAILABLE) and if you can’t make that, we’re heading back to @friendsandloversbk for some serious dancing 💃
(Tickets for ALL still available for this, but it’s always a sell-out, so run, don’t walk!)

Q&A with our gal 🫶
Best first date rec: Picnic in the park & a walk along the water! I find that moving around makes me less anxious on a first date, it helps me open up more and be articulate. Plus, a picnic is so cozy and often cheaper than going for drinks. You get to bring your favorite snacks, and I like to throw in a speaker too so you and trade music recs!

Best thing about being single: Being single means I’m dating myself and pouring into other meaningful relationships in my life like my best friends and my family! I get to focus on things that make me feel happiest like reading, making playlists, writing, and even running (just started)! The self knowledge gained while you’re single and enjoying hanging out with YOU makes you better prepared to share your world, and even create a new one, with someone else.

Best offline dating tip: Compliment EVERYONE! Any time you see someone with a cute outfit, a stunning hairstyle, or smell an incredible perfume or cologne, say it! Tell them!

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