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An invitation & gathering space for genuine connection, community experiences, & faith-led conversations.
🥼Child-loss Giving Lab @themourningmoms

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Never knew I was just like the old blazer hanging in the men’s back section at the @Goodwill 😲

Thrifted item tells a redemption story and I relate well!

My son’s life didn’t end his impact, it literally changed how I see everything.

As the days, months, and years go by-that impact evolves.

And today, I don’t have the perfect words to explain that. However, I’m living in a way that reflects the love I still carry because

…I’m forever his mama 🤎

In loving memory of my son, Tylan Neil 3/25🕊️
#saytheirnameday

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Whew 😢
Let’s talk about this…

؜ ؜How many times have we planned our lives down to the last “T” only to later have to surrender to an alternative plan we couldn’t have even imagined

Remember saying something like this?

•I’ll marry before 28. ؜
•Have kids before 38. ؜
•Buy a house before 30. ؜
•Finish school by 27. ؜
•Advanced in my career by 25.
•Live in five states by 32.
•Retired by 50.

His will can be a completely different plan.

Did we even consult our Maker before finalizing these goals❔

From now on, call me GraAuntieMama because I’ll become a mom to earth-side kids if and when he says I will.

Although, I might cry through the lost plans I had for myself, I’m invested in HIS version of me.

Surrendering is a sacrifice 🙏🏾

Can you related to this? My soul felt this…

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Good morning, my dear sister!

This isn’t just fashion, it’s a faith flex 💪🏾.

The pairing you didn’t know you needed!

#bambooearrings #goldhoop #goldhoops #chunkyearrings #faithandstyle #graced #christianinfluencers #discoveryunder10k

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Some things don’t have to be said loudly to be felt deeply.

Like the way a ribbon ties softly but holds firmly.

Like the way a bow adorns a gift without needing to explain the worth inside.

Every color, every curve, every corner of the room told a story…
of softness,
of strength,
of women who are learning to carry them both with grace.

We didn’t just sit in chairs.
We sat in comfort.
In sisterhood.
In style.

And when we left,
we didn’t just take gift boxes
we took reminders:

• that healing can be gentle 🤎
• that life has to be embraced
• and that presence is its own kind of power

This wasn’t just a moment.
It was a ribbon tied around a memory
and this room…
this room made it sacred 🫶🏾

This is Our Room 💐

#asafeplace #intentionalfriendships #sisterhood #childloss #communitysupport #blackwomen #creatingmemories❤️ #blackchildloss #ourroom #griefsupport #angelmom #christianinfluencer #bereavedmother #blackmoms
#discoveryunder10k #griefsupport #themourningmoms

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A special thank you to our dear friend @katinanish , founder of @themourningmoms .

After the loss of my son, Katina became a shoulder I could lean on—a steady source of comfort, understanding, and faith-filled encouragement. Though our connection began over six years ago through shared grief and online conversations, we finally met in person for the very first time at the @womanevolve conference.

That moment was a full-circle blessing.

Katina has been someone I could pray with, cry with, and simply be with. Faith has always been the center of our sisterhood, and I’m deeply grateful for the way she’s walked with me, prayed with me, and reminded me that I’m not alone.

Thank you, Katina, for your heart, your obedience, and the space you’ve created for grieving mothers to feel seen, heard, and held. I love you, sis.

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Grief is more than sadness. ⤵️

It touches every part of who we are—physically, mentally, emotionally, socially, and spiritually.
And many grieving moms are shocked by the symptoms no one talks about.

💔 Here are lesser-known symptoms of grief you might not expect:

🧠 Mental:
• Forgetfulness or “grief brain” (struggling to focus)
• Trouble making even small decisions
• Sudden fear of something happening to others
• Vivid dreams or nightmares
• Feeling like you’re in a fog or outside your body

💔 Emotional:
• Irritability over small things
• Guilt for smiling or laughing
• Emotional numbness
• Sudden waves of anger or jealousy
• Loss of joy in things you used to love

🫀 Physical:
• Heaviness in your chest or body
• Fatigue that no amount of sleep helps
• Aches, stomach pain, or headaches with no clear cause
• Changes in appetite or digestion
• Cold sensitivity or feeling shaky

🤍 Spiritual:
• Feeling disconnected from God or your beliefs
• Questioning everything you once knew
• Intense yearning for signs or dreams
• Anger at a higher power
• Searching for meaning in everything

👥 Social:
• Avoiding social events or conversations
• Feeling misunderstood or out of place
• Being overwhelmed by small talk
• Anxiety in group settings
• Pulling away from friends and family who “don’t get it”

💌 If this resonates, join my weekly Comfort Connection email for grieving moms. Gentle support, tips, and reminders that make the hard days just a little lighter.

✨ Comment “LIST” and I’ll send it to you.

#GrievingMoms #ChildLossSupport #StillTheirMom #GriefJourney #LifeAfterLoss

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June 17, 2018.
Seven years ago today, you died in my arms. I had to tell you goodbye before I ever really got to know you.

June 2025, I’ve published a book in your honor.

I wish I took more pictures, recorded more videos, had more memories, had more time. I miss the woman I was before that moment because it changed me forever.

For a long time, I felt cheated. Robbed of memories. Of firsts. Of a future. But I’m no longer mad at God. Her death gave me purpose. It gave me a voice. It called me to serve in a space nobody wants to talk about… but one too many of us are living in.

Everyday, a new mom joins this community. Black child loss needs to be seen. Needs to be spoken. Needs me.

And I’m showing up. Unapologetically.

I miss you so much, my sweet Bella. 💕

#blackchildloss #grievingmother #grief #angelversary #blackmomsgrieving #childloss #motherhoodunplugged #griefandlove

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To our friend, our sister, and the soul behind so much beauty
@katinanish ,

Your presence is a gentle force, a healing balm, and a sacred reminder that grief can coexist with grace. You’ve turned mourning into ministry, and heartache into a home — not just for yourself, but for so many mothers walking the tender road of loss.

Through your gift of storytelling, your love for thrifting and beautifying, and your eye for all things fashion, art, and home, you’ve given grieving mamas permission to still see beauty. You’ve nurtured broken hearts not by changing who you are, but by pouring out all the things you already love — and in doing so, you’ve transformed them into vessels of healing.

It’s because of you that we even exist.
Your courage built the table. Your faith set it. And your love continues to hold space for us all.

We are forever grateful for you, Katina.
You carry legacy with style, strength, and soul.

And to see @themourningmoms honored with the 2022 PAIL Award for Best Instagram Page — well, it’s only a reflection of the light you’ve always carried.

We honor you. We celebrate you.
You are the flavor, the fragrance, and the faith that keeps our table full.

With love always,
@jadacyengram @atasteofhealing_

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I will never forget the day I had a super deep conversation with God, when He said something incredibly powerful..

I’ll be honest, I have to often come back to this conversation to keep myself grounded.

Listen, he had me sobbing and I feel compelled to share this.

“You do not need validation

because you were validated the moment I

carefully crafted you, woman,

and called you my daughter.

From that moment, you were already enough.” 🙌🏾

Did you feel that??

If you ever get the urge to seek validation again…from anything or anyone, remember you have already been told you’re the one, not the two 🫶🏾

#validationnotneeded #godvalidated #godseesme #christianbelike #christianinfluencer #positivequotes #validation #daughterofaking
#discoveryunder10k

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Hey, y’all 👋🏾.

It’s Katina—founder of TMM—and I recently celebrated a birthday 🎂

The love and support you’ve shown over the years has meant the world to me. This year feels different… maybe because I’m no longer afraid of my own gift.

As a loss mom, it’s easy to forget life can still be full, whole, and complete.

Lately, I’ve felt a “PUSH” to show up more boldly and authentically.

So I have two birthday wishes:

1. Follow me on my personal page @katinanish turns out I’m actually pretty cool outside of child loss.

2. Drop your birthday below so I can celebrate you when your day comes.

Acts of service is my love language, so I just might send you something cute 🎀

All these years later, this community has been such a blessing to my soul. Thank you for being the family that I needed.

Here’s to healing, wholeness, and showing up fully—on purpose and in style 🤎

Tylan Neil, my baby boy, I hope I’m still making you proud 👼🏾

#ThisYearHitsDifferent

P.S It’s time to get the photoshoots back in session. If you’re interested in being apart of our art. Email me: katinanish@gmail.com

#birthdaywish #style #fashionable #blackmama #maybaby #birthdaymonth #pregnancyandinfantloss #infantloss #pregnancyandinfantlossawareness #pregnancyloss #stillbirth #preemieloss #grief #loss #ihadamiscarriage #angelmom #babyloss #styleandgrace #miscarriage #maybabies #discoveryunder10k #blackchildloss #bereavedparent #discoveryunder5k

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A quiet celebration of growth -late birthday post but right timing 🎂

Nine days later and I’m still sitting in gratitude.

This year feels different -in the best way.
My heart is in the right place 🤎

#maybabies #maybaby #birthdaymonth #taurusseason #birthday #birthdayphoto #birthday #tauruswoman #tauruslove #taurus #maybaby #birthdayphotoshoot #discoveryunder10k #maybirthday #birthdaydress #blazerdress #whitedress

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Today is Bereaved Mother’s Day 💐

To the mother who loves beyond what the world can see — we see you.

Your motherhood is real.

Your grief is sacred.

And even in the silence, your love speaks loud.

This day is for you — not for what you’ve lost, but for all you continue to carry with grace, with strength, and with so much heart 🫶🏾

We’ve prepared a special gift for you — a bouquet, from us to you — to honor the beauty, the ache, and the unbreakable bond that still remains.

You are not alone. You are always, and forever, a mother 🤎

Don’t forget to add your baby’s angelversary below. We honor you 🫶🏾💐

#bereavedmother #bereavedmothersday #pregnancyandinfantlossawareness #pregnancyandinfantloss #childloss #blackchildloss #pregnancyloss #infertilityawareness #preemieloss #grief #angelmom #angelmommy #angelmomssticktogther #christianinfluencer #babyloss #infantloss #bereavedmother #neonataloss #pregnancyandinfantlossmonth #blackmoms #discoveryunder5k #stillbirth
#ihadamiscarriage #discoveryunder10k #griefsupport #sisterhood #community #themourningmoms

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