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Tim Dajan | Emotional Release Facilitator

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Stop making your pain the enemy
🔸Co-founder @emotionalrelease.academy
🔸 7 Years Experience | 250+ clients helped
👇🏼 1:1 Sessions, Training, YouTube

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part I ~ my sabbatical is coming to an end... i didn't know i had begun a sabbatical until i was about 3/4 into it but sometimes that's just the way these things go. if i know one thing on the other side of it; saturn return makes you return to that which has not been uncovered & so the last months have been an intensified version of my already deeply ritualistic eclipsing with my Selves, iykyk ifs saves lives & so do friends. bless them. also blue lotus cigarettes & outfit compositions.

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Who let me have fun 🙄

Chaos Gremlin Part Three: Summer Vacation Mode 🌴

Here to be a container for my silly goose inner girl to express and be free. Healing is super intense and serious at times.

Yes you see anger retreats and catharsis here on my page - but emotional release also includes laughter, joy and connection.

Hard to navigate that conflict of working and presenting with the knowledge and experience I have - whilst also being a simple human being at the other side.

🤷🏼‍♀️😚

With love,
Ashley
(Drunk Mom Archetype)

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You may already know how to regulate your nervous system, name your patterns, understand where they came from, and create more safety in your body. 
And that work matters. 
But there are moments where healing asks for something more than becoming calmer. 
It asks you to feel the anger that knows where the boundary was crossed, what was unfair, what you swallowed to stay connected, and what you are no longer willing to tolerate. 
That is what happened for one woman in our workshop. 
She came in believing she needed more regulation, and through the emotional release process she reached the anger underneath years of bullying, shame and self-silencing. 
That anger gave her access to something very concrete: the ability to stand up for herself. 
She left the workshop, confronted the person who had been bullying her, and stopped organising herself around their behaviour. 
This is exactly why practitioners need more range with anger. 
You already know how to create trust, track the body, and recognise when a client is close to something important.   The next step is knowing how to work with the emotional charge when anger becomes the doorway to truth, boundaries, grief, or unfinished relationship. 
That is what we train inside the Emotional Release Academy. 
Comment TRAINING and we’ll send you the details.

Ashley & Tim
  _______________________________ Saturday, 12th of September - 3 Items:  1/3 REEL SCRIPT  HOOK Six months from today, your practice can look completely different.
SCRIPT A client says one sentence and you already feel where the emotional process is opening.
The anger becomes grief, the grief reveals the relationship underneath it, and suddenly they are saying words they have carried for twenty years.
And you are not surprised the session went there.
You know how you got there.
When that level of work becomes repeatable, the practice around it starts changing too.
Clients remember what happened in your room.
They come back.
They send their friends.
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🦪 It’s a Wrap Summer 2026 🌞

In no particular order Ibiza, Portugal, Amsterdam, Hamburg, Bristol, Hastings, Medicine Festival…

First level 2 Bodywork Training in Portugal 💪🏻
Pregnant besties growing life whilst I’m on a
Cheeky 9am return from @solomun set
Belly aches of laughter
I see food I eat it
Crashed out tired Retreat leader.

Ready for autumn season 🍂🥹

- new online cohort of ERA begins @emotionalrelease.academy
- angry daughter retreat
- joined 2 self study courses for the winter months
- reading lots
- more stability // less travel

With love,
Ashley

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From the ground you will grow … ✨

POV: mid @emotionalrelease.academy training when the songs come from a raw, alive place in the process of transformation.

— and big up to blaise spitting bars in the moment always coming in hot ❤️‍🔥

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Yeah… Stay with me on this one.

A narcissist feeds on your sense of self.
On your center, your yes and your no.

They keep feeding until there’s a hollow where your life force used to live.

And you start to quietly wonder if you were ever really in there at all.

Here’s what so many of us miss 👇🏼

Even after the therapy, the books, the beautiful breathwork, your anger is what fills that hollow back in.

Healthy aggression, is your body remembering where you end and where they began.

It’s your boundaries coming back online.

It’s your life force flowing back into you.

So many of us were raised to be nice.
To be easy. To never make a fuss.

So even after years of deep work, we still live in a quiet, taboo relationship with our own rage.

We keep it locked in the basement like a houseguest we’re a little scared of.

And all the while, the loops of rage are still open.

They opened in the moments you were deeply hurt.
The moments nobody held you.

And they’re still sitting there. In your chest, your jaw, your belly.

Waiting for permission to finally complete.

That permission is the whole work.

🗓️We’re doing it together on the 2nd of July.

➡️A FREE EMOTIONAL RELEASE WORKSHOP where you’ll learn the emotional release method.

If you want in, comment WORKSHOP below and I’ll send you all the details.

Come close the loop with us.

With love, Ashley

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Most of what we’ve been taught about “regulating” our nervous system is actually just sophisticated emotional avoidance.

What we’re actually doing when we “calm down”:

* Activating a manager part that believes emotions need to be controlled
* Training our system to distrust its own natural intelligence
* Perpetuating childhood survival patterns of emotional shutdown

🔥 When you breathe away your anger, meditate down your grief, or reframe your terror into something more manageable, you’re treating your emotions like dangerous intruders rather than autonomous messengers with their own intelligence.

Real nervous system work isn’t about calming down—it’s about developing the capacity to stay present with whatever is moving through you without immediately reaching for a tool to make it different.

💡 The path to real nervous system work:
1. Notice when you’re trying to change what you’re feeling
2. Get curious about what’s actually present instead of managing it
3. Let the emotion move through you at its own pace and wisdom

Your emotions are released in the moment you understood their message.

Comment WORKSHOP to join our next free emotional release workshop, July 2nd.

With love,
 Ashley

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The second episode of the Kim Talks Podcast tomorrow where I interview the incredible @thijmenclaessens

Thijmen is a coach for sensitive high-achieving entrepreneurs who’ve hit the financial goals but still feel oddly stuck. I help them move from a racing mind and proving energy into a relaxed nervous system, clear pattern awareness, and gut-led decisions by breaking their deep rooted trauma.

We talk about how he came back to trusting his intuition and psychic abilities and we explore the worlds between business, spirituality and what happens when we work with the life force that is the universe.

DM ‘Podcast’ and I’ll drop you the link when it’s live.

Photos in the reel thanks to @timdajan during my training with @emotionalreleases in Mexico

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Healing is not just about regulating your nervous system.

👉🏼It’s about expanding the capacity for accepting & witnessing whatever state you‘re in.

Your nervous system is not a computer that needs to reprogrammed. The emotional dimension & human-ness your nervous system needs to be acknowledged.

👉🏼Your emotions are not a thing to be regulated, but a reality to be experienced.

What if you don’t need to „Reprogram“ your subconscious or constantly regulate your nervous system - but build a relationship with it?

For 99% of people, unconscious blame, shame and guilt about their internal state is the biggest problem they don’t know about.

🔥Anger is not a malfunction.
💧Sadness is not a flaw.
🖤Guilt is not a problem.

👇🏼Quite the opposite👇🏼

Your emotions turn into solutions once you stop seeing them as a problem.

You need to create the safe container for your emotions that you lacked when your system got overwhelmed.

On May 28th, we’re opening a space where you can feel and release your emotions without feeling overwhelmed or ashamed.

The workshop is complete free.

Comment WORKSHOP to save a spot.

With love, Ashley

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And here‘s one more thing ⬇️

It’s one thing to talk about your story.

👉🏼But another to talk from the EMOTION of your story.

I invite you to feel your pain and let it resonate with those who are trustworthy enough to listen.

🙏🏼Birth life out of your story.
🙏🏼Create connection.

It’s not just a sequence of events - it’s a part of your soul expressing itself, and with you sharing yourself vulnerable, you give yourself a chance to share it.

And then, once you share it, you may feel that it was a gift for those who listened.

🫴🏼They feel closer to you, and you closer to them.

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👇🏼 Healing your trauma means feeling your anger 👇🏼

After helping over 500 people transform their anger into power, I know that one thing is for sure.

Like no discussion:

You need to integrate your anger if you want to heal.

Let me explain why anger is so transformative.

First of all:

1️⃣ Trauma is created in relationship
2️⃣ Is sustained in relationship
2️⃣ And heals in relationship

And this is the exact reason you need to feel your anger in order to heal:

Anger is showing you when:

👉🏼 Boundaries are crossed
👉🏼 Relationships get toxic
👉🏼 You‘re being hurt

In short: It shows you when it‘s enough.

And then something sacred can happen:

Anger helps you staying connected with yourself when injustice happens.

This is why we teach it all of our emotional release trainings.

Anger is an uprising of healthy defenses that preserve:

🔥 Your self-worth
🔥 Your innocence
🔥 Your inner children

Comment ANGRY AF for a practice that helps you learn to alchemise your anger into raw power.

With love, Ashley

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I speak about the harm being done - the impact on women, the children, the planet - and we should.

But I also think about what has been left unmet.

So many men are shaped inside a system that values power over tenderness. Performance over vulnerability. Control over feeling. 🤍

Patriarchy harms women.
And it leaves men behind too.

When grief has no language… when anger has no conscious place to move… pain can distort.

I don’t believe men need less anger.
I believe many need spaces to feel the grief beneath it.
To reclaim anger as boundary, truth, life force, not as domination.

This is part of why I hold spaces for men too. In our ERA weekend workshops, inside the @emotionalrelease.academy trainings and part of @humanwork.life

In these retreats I’ve watched men soften armour, touch heartbreak, express healthy rage, and find a power that isn’t rooted in force.

I think more spaces like this matter.

Because masculinity does not have to be built through numbness, and power does not have to come at the cost of heart. 🫀

A culture that teaches men to suppress feeling should not be shocked when pain distorts.

We need the good men in this fight for the essence of a kind, empathetic humanity.

If you’re a man looking for such spaces as these I will tag some below:

@timdajan - IFS/ Coaching/ Shadowwork (Hamburg)

@jack.villiers_ Mentoring/ Humanwork (Ibiza)

@cheveeyo Dance & Mens Retreats (🌍)

@arunthompsoncoaching Men’s Coach (Lisbon)

@andreas.teichrib Bodywork (Berlin)

@derekglennlarson Somatics (California)

@davidpatrickfarrell Men’s Work (Ireland)

@psychosomatic_mathias breath & emotional release (Portugal)

@iam13e Men’s Work/ Music (Bristol)

@the.chris.geisler Men’s Work (London)

@thorntontheory Somatic Integration School (UK)

@samuelbecht Plant medicine (Netherlands)

ERA students: @michel.embodied @somaticsokol @joshua.hasselblatt (see more on our website)

With love,
Ashley

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