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Tamar Hersko ~Photographer & Dating Coach

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17 days ago

I'm not a marriage expert, but I can promise you these few things are absolutely necessary to have in a healthy relationship AND they all start while you're dating.

These kinds of things come up in sneaky ways during the early phases of a relationship and getting good at seeing them makes falling in love so much easier and safer feeling.

Some examples:
How respectful your date talks to you or about an ex

The effort they take to meet up and execute the first, second, third date and beyond

How consistent they are and if their words match their actions

Not getting hooked on liking the same hobbies but having the same vision for life

Taking accountability and disagreeing in a growth oriented way

Feeling safe enough to be yourself and let down your guard

The fact is marriage is complex and challenging (I don't care who you are and how long you've been married) there are core things that could be known in the waaaaaaaaay beginning to help make it majorly enjoyable and fulfilling.

While it all can seem confusing at first, it doesn't have to be with the right support. If you're craving that kind of support you are going to want to set up a free consult call to see if working together would be helpful, click the link in bio or send me a dm to connect .

#marriage #datingtips #datingcoach #marriageadvice #single by @tamar_hersko

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10 months ago

Hi my people!!!!

This is just the beginning. The story runs deep and is forever unfolding, just like for us all. I can’t wait to hear yours while you watch mine.

In it together, never alone.

#nicetomeetyou #starthere #datingcoach #photographer #securedating by @tamar_hersko

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a month ago

Ya girls tired and wants to watch love is blind 😪

#datingcoach #loveisblind #datingover35 #photographer #datingadvice by @tamar_hersko

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11 hours ago

1. Ask the question you’re scared will “ruin the vibe.”
“What are you actually looking for?” is allowed on date one.
2. Send the text you mean.
No pretending to be chill, waiting three hours, or asking five friends to approve it.
3. Cancel the date if you don’t want to go.
You don’t need a courtroom-level case to change your mind.
4. Tell someone you like them while you still like them.
Let them respond. Don’t perform indifference to stay in control.
5. End it when it doesn’t feel right, even if they’re “perfect on paper.”
Your lived experience counts as data.
6. Let someone misunderstand you.
Say what you mean once. Don’t write a five-paragraph explanation to earn their approval.

Self-trust gets loud when you stop auditioning and start acting like your own feelings matter.

Follow and save this for the next time dating makes you want to abandon your own common sense.

#DatingWithConfidence #SelfTrust #DatingOver40 #HealthyDating #DatingAdvice by @tamar_hersko

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4 days ago

2026-27 is asking something different of you. Are you ready to date with the ultimate self trust?

If you need a little muscle building, comment Oasis for the dating app that is the CURE for all the messy moments you start to doubt yourself.

No more should, rather come from a place of clarity and knowing.

Follow and save for more dating strategies

#DatingAdvice #DatingWithConfidence #SelfTrust #IntentionalDating #DatingCoach by @tamar_hersko

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6 days ago

Pick your poison ☠️ 🔥🫶
1. “What kind of attention makes you feel most wanted?”

2. “What do you find incredibly attractive that has nothing to do with looks?”

3. “When you’re really into someone, how does it show?”

4. “What makes you feel comfortable enough to let your guard down?”

5. “What’s your idea of a date that turns into a night you don’t want to end?”

6. “If the chemistry is there, what are you hoping to find with someone?”

Ask them naturally, when the moment fits. You’re not interviewing them. You’re finding out whether the connection feels good and has something real behind it.

Follow for dating advice that helps you stay curious, feel the chemistry, and trust your next move. Save this for your next great date.

#DatingAdvice #DatingQuestions #HealthyDating #DatingWithIntention #SelfTrust by @tamar_hersko

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12 days ago

1. When their communication suddenly changes:
“Hey, I’ve noticed the energy has shifted a little. Are you still interested in exploring this?”

2. When they disappear and come back casually:
“Good to hear from you. I’m open to continuing, but consistency matters to me. What are you looking for here?”

3. When they say they’re interested but don’t make plans:
“I’ve enjoyed getting to know you. If you’d like to see me again, choose a day and let’s make it happen.”

4. When they keep saying they’re busy:
“I completely understand being busy. I’m looking for something with enough space to actually grow. Do you have that space right now?”

5. When you don’t know where you stand:
“I’m enjoying this, and I’m curious how you’re feeling about it. No pressure. I’d just rather ask than fill in the blanks.”

6. When the inconsistency no longer feels good:
“I like you, but this level of inconsistency doesn’t work for me. If you’re able to show up more intentionally, I’d be open to continuing.”

Clarity isn’t anxiety. You’re not asking them to choose you. You’re gathering the information you need to choose wisely.

The $29 Dating Oasis Toolkit gives you the exact scripts and tools for those WTF do I say or do now? dating moments, so you can get clarity without chasing, overexplaining or polling the entire group chat.

Comment OASIS and I’ll send you the link.

#DatingOasis #MixedSignals #DatingAdvice #DatingAnxiety #HealthyCommunication by @tamar_hersko

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12 days ago

After reverse engineering my 20-year marriage, I realized these are the skills I keep coming back to in order to keep a relationship healthy and strong.

They’re also the skills you need to build a healthy relationship with the right partner. Finding your voice, taking your time, setting boundaries, and showing up as yourself are things you can practice now, while you’re dating.

The Dating Oasis app helps you return to yourself, find your own oasis, gain clarity, and understand your next move.

Comment OASIS and I’ll send you the link.

#DatingOasis #DatingAdvice #HealthyRelationships #SelfTrust #DatingWithIntention by @tamar_hersko

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13 days ago

1. If I gave you $100 to make tomorrow unexpectedly fun, what would you do with it?
Why: It shows you what fun, spontaneity, and creativity look like to them.
2. What’s the most “you” thing you’ve done recently?
Why: Instead of asking them to describe themselves, you get a story that actually shows you.
3. Which version of you would I meet at an airport after your flight was delayed six hours?
Why: You’ll learn how they handle stress, disappointment, and situations they can’t control.
4. If your personality came with a warning label, what would it say?
Why: It reveals their quirks and whether they can laugh at themselves.
5. What’s a rule you follow that nobody asked you to follow?
Why: Their answer could reveal a private value, strange habit, strong opinion, or delightfully unhinged side.
6. If your friends hired me to plan your perfect surprise, what would they tell me absolutely not to do?
Why: You’ll learn their preferences, boundaries, and how well the people closest to them actually know them.

You’re not searching for an impressive answer. You’re noticing how they think, what lights them up, how self-aware they are, and whether you enjoy the person who appears when the polished dating answers disappear.

Need help figuring out what to ask, what to text, or what your next move should be?

The Dating Oasis is your $29 dating-readiness app for the moments when dating has you thinking, “Wait…what do I do now?” Try it free for seven days and get clarity before, during, and after the date.

#DatingQuestions #DatingOasis #DatingWithIntention #DatingAdvice #FirstDateTips by @tamar_hersko

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a month ago

Dating after a long-term relationship isn’t one clean journey forward.

You might move through six completely different versions of yourself:

The feral phase, where you need to feel free again.
The attachment phase, where “just having fun” suddenly has feelings attached.
The confusion phase, where you question them, dating and your own judgment.
The grief phase, where you mourn the life you thought you would have.
The surrender phase, where you stop forcing yourself to have it all figured out.
And finally, the self-trust phase, where you realize you can’t control how love unfolds, but you can trust yourself inside of it.

None of these phases means you’re doing dating wrong.

The mess, the attachment, the wrong turns, the grief, even the person you “should have known better” than to date…all of it is helping you meet the woman you are now.

This is what rebuilding looks like.

It’s normal. It’s allowed. And it may be bringing you exactly where you need to be.

But you don’t have to find your way through it alone.

I’m opening three private 1:1 coaching spots for women who are ready to stop questioning every move and start dating with clarity, support and self-trust.

DM me ONE ON ONE to apply. ❤️

#DatingAfterDivorce #DatingAfterHeartbreak #DatingOver40 #SelfTrust #DatingCoachForWomen by @tamar_hersko

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a month ago

I’m usually pretty nice, I gotta say. But sometimes, people need the truth.

The truth might sound harsh, but it can help you stop wasting time, make a clearer choice, and keep moving in a positive direction.

Dating asks you to be clear, honest, real, and authentic with the other person, yes. But also with yourself.

I’m offering three coaching sessions over three weeks, with real-time feedback as you date. If you’re interested, send me a DM to get started.

Follow for more dating honesty, and save this for the next time you need a little truth.

#DatingAdvice #DatingOver35 #HealthyDating #SelfTrust #DatingCoach by @tamar_hersko

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19 days ago