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Women’s Voice Advocate •Community Curator
The Internet’s Big Sis ♡ @betterfriendsociety
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📍Dallas/SATX/Austin
Jesus Lover

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Becoming Her Series Pt. 1: Get in the gym. ✨
Ladies, so many confidence issues disappear when you commit to your fitness and your health.

When you pour into your body, something shifts. Your energy changes, your mindset changes, and your confidence rises.
It’s uncomfortable at first, but the reward is a stronger, healthier, happier you and she is worth the discipline.💪🏾

#becoming #becomingher #fitness #fitnesslife #encouragement #motivational #motivation #encouragement #girltalk #blackwomen #advice #motivational #selfimprovement #womensupportingwomen #selfconfidence by @thetoexperience

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Friendship Series Pt. 28: Territorial Friends
I appreciate the love that the give, I really do… but why are you mad I have other friends? 😭
It’s funny. Then it’s not funny.
Territorial friends, please seek help so we can have healthy friendships in 2026 and not crash out over new friends you introduced me to.

#friend #friends #friendship #friendshipgoals #encouragement by @thetoexperience

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Friendship Series Pt. 13: “I Appreciate You”
To every woman who shows up, checks in, listens, and loves wholeheartedly, I see you. Your presence matters more than you know. This post is simply to say… I appreciate you.

#friend #friends #friendship #friendships #friendshipgoals #friendshipgoal #friendsforever❤️ #girltalk #motivation #blackwomen #encouragement #advice #motivational #womensupportingwomen #bestfriend by @thetoexperience

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10 months ago

I love being spoiled, but I love spoiling my husband too. 🥹🤎

Marriage isn’t just about what he can do for me—I want that man to feel loved, appreciated, and celebrated too.

Happy anniversary to my mannnn!

-Signed, Big Sis 🫶🏾💕

#marriage #anniversary #encouragement #blacklove #myman by @thetoexperience

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Everybody wants a good friend… but everybody doesn’t want to do the work required to BE one. 👀

You want healthy friendships, but you can’t accept accountability.

You want honesty, but you’re not transparent.

You want vulnerability, but you keep everyone at arm’s length.

You want friends who can tell you the truth, but the minute someone gives you constructive feedback, you get defensive.

Sis… how does that work? 😭

Good friendship requires more than finding the “right” people. It requires becoming the kind of person who can sustain a healthy friendship.

That means doing the inner work. Healing. Growing. Learning how to communicate. Taking accountability. Having uncomfortable conversations. Being honest about your own patterns and recognizing when YOU might be the one who needs to do better.

Because sometimes the friendship isn’t the problem.

Sometimes there’s work we need to do within ourselves.

And THAT is why I created the Better Friend Society. 💕

This community isn’t just about finding better friends—it’s about becoming better women so we can show up better in every relationship we’re in.

💌 Comment “BFS” below and I’ll send you the link to officially join the Better Friend Society.

And if you’re currently in a tough spot with a friend and need help navigating the conversation, comment “BETTER” and I’ll send you the information for the FREE Better Friend Check-In downloadable.

Better friendships start with better versions of us.

-Signed, Big Sis 🫶🏾💕

#friend #friendship #friendshipgoals #friends #encouragement by @thetoexperience

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I’m building it scared. And I think more women need to talk about this part.

The part where you’ve prayed about it.
You’ve planned for it.
You’ve invested your own money into it.
You’ve spent countless hours working behind the scenes.

And then comes the scary part…

Putting it out there and seeing if people actually support it. 😭

For those of you who are new here, I created the Better Friend Society because I wanted to build a space where women could come together, form genuine connections, become better friends, and ultimately become better women.

And what started as an idea has slowly been becoming something REAL.

The community.
The conversations.
The events.
The resources.

And now we’re entering another phase.

Soon, I’m going to start rolling out some of the products, experiences, and services we’ve been working on—and I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t nervous.

Because this is the part where I have to trust that the community I’ve been pouring into will see the vision too.

But THIS is what building in real time looks like.

You don’t always get confirmation before you take the step.

Sometimes you have to walk by faith and not by sight.

You keep moving.
You keep listening to those little whispers God keeps sending you.
You keep investing in the vision.
You keep believing—even when you have no idea how it’s all going to turn out.

So to every woman building something right now: keep going.

Do it nervous.
Do it scared.
Do it before you feel completely ready.

Just don’t let fear make you abandon something God keeps giving you the courage to build.

And whew… I hope y’all are down for your girl because we are officially entering the NEXT phase of the Better Friend Society. 🥹😭

I’ve been working, investing, praying, planning and BUILDING.

Now it’s almost time for y’all to see it.

Big news coming soon. 👀

-Signed, Big Sis 🫶🏾💕

#encouragement #faith #founder #motivational #advice by @thetoexperience

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Normalize having friends who love you enough to correct you.

Real friendship isn’t just celebrating each other, hyping each other up, and being there for the good moments. Sometimes friendship sounds like, “Sis, I love you…but that wasn’t okay.”

And I NEED that kind of friendship.

This weekend reminded me how beautiful it is to have friendships where we can address something in the moment, apologize when necessary, and MOVE ON.

No letting offense marinate.
No calling everybody else before calling your friend.
No creating negative intentions that may have never existed.
No ending an entire friendship over something a conversation could’ve fixed.

If your friend crosses a boundary, say something—with love.

And if your friend lovingly brings something to your attention, be mature enough to listen.

Accountability is part of friendship. We cannot say we want deep, healthy, long-lasting friendships but only want friends who agree with everything we do.

Sometimes being a better friend means being willing to have the uncomfortable conversation.

And sometimes you don’t need to cut her off…

Y’all just need to TALK. 🫶🏾

If you’re committed to becoming a better woman AND a better friend, comment “BFS” and I’ll send you information about joining the Better Friend Society.

And if you have a difficult conversation you’ve been avoiding, comment “Better” and I’ll send you the Better Friend Check-In to help you work through it before you check out of the friendship.

-Signed, Big Sis 🫶🏾💕

#friend #friends #friendshipgoals #friendship #encouragement by @thetoexperience

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Everybody says they want community. Everybody says they want to meet new women. Everybody says they want genuine connections.

Okay sis… here’s your opportunity.

The FINAL Step & Sip of the year is happening in Dallas, and I want y’all to PULL UP!

Come walk with us, get your steps in, meet new women, make new connections, and challenge yourself to actually step into the community you keep saying you want.

And did I mention? IT’S COMPLETELY FREE.

BUT LISTEN. 👀 Free does NOT mean RSVP just because you can. 😂 If you reserve a spot, please plan to show up. And if something comes up and you can’t make it, CANCEL your ticket so we can have an accurate headcount.

📍 Katy Trail | Dallas, TX
📅 October 10th
⏰ 9:15 AM
🖤 Attire: BLACK
🎟️ FREE — RSVP required

Come alone. Bring a friend. Either way, COME.

And please SHARE this with a Dallas girlie who keeps saying she wants to meet new women. This might be exactly what she needs. 🫶🏾

Comment “STEP” and I’ll send you the RSVP link!

-Signed, Big Sis 🫶🏾💕

#dallas #thingstodoindallas #community #dallasinfluencer #dallastexas by @thetoexperience

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Sis, we spend a lot of time talking about the kind of friendships we want… but are we MIRRORING that same standard?

You want a friend who is loving? Be loving.
You want a friend who checks in? Check in.
You want a friend who celebrates you? Celebrate her.
You want honesty? Be honest.
You want accountability? Be accountable.
You want someone willing to have the hard conversations? Stop avoiding yours.

Because healthy friendships require WORK.

They require love, empathy, kindness, sacrifice, honesty, grace, constructive feedback, accountability and sometimes some really uncomfortable conversations.

We can’t keep requiring things from other women that we’re unwilling to demonstrate ourselves.

Be the standard of the friendship you desire. 💕

And if you’re committed to becoming a better woman AND a better friend, come join us inside the Better Friend Society. Comment “BFS” below, and I’ll send you the link to officially join.

And if there’s a conversation you KNOW you need to have with a friend but you’ve been avoiding it because you don’t know where to start, I created the BETTER Friend Check-In to help you check in with yourself first and feel more equipped for the conversation.

Comment “Better” below and I’ll send you the guide directly.

-Signed, Big Sis 🫶🏾💕

#friend #friends #friendship #friendshipgoals #encouragement by @thetoexperience

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Friendship doesn’t thrive on convenience. It thrives on intentionality.

Being a good friend means choosing to show up, check in, communicate, make time, and nurture the relationships that matter to you.

@thetoexperience was dropping gems!
🎥 New video OUT NOW on YouTube!

Watch, share, and tell us: What does being intentional in friendship look like to you?

Follow @BetterFriendSociety on Instagram for more conversations about building deeper, healthier friendships and regular meet ups!

https://youtu.be/8_iczMs5GpA?is=6XDXBlyItsZ_bTB1 by @thetoexperience

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🚨 DALLAS GIRLIES, WE’RE TWO WEEKS AWAY! 🚨

Our FINAL Step & Sip of the year is happening October 10th, and I need the Dallas girlies to PULL UP! 🖤

We pushed the start time back to 9:15 AM because Big Sis loves y’all enough to let you sleep in a little 😂👏🏾 — but after that, it’s time to GET UP, GET CUTE, and GET THOSE STEPS IN AND PLUS THE WEATHER IS COOLER.

🖤 STEP & SIP 3
📅 October 10th
⏰ 9:15 AM
👚 Attire: BLACK
📍 Location: Katy trails

Come walk with us, meet some new women, get your body moving, laugh, connect, and enjoy a beautiful morning with the Better Friend Society. Whether you come with your girls or pull up by yourself, YOU ARE WELCOME. 🫶🏾

This is our last Step & Sip of 2026, so if you’ve been saying, “I’m coming to the next one…” SIS, THIS IS THE NEXT ONE! 😂

RSVP is required, and if something changes and you can’t make it, please cancel your reservation so another woman can take your spot.

Comment “STEP” below and I’ll send you the RSVP link directly. 🖤

Dallas, we’ll see y’all October 10th! 👟✨

-Signed, Big Sis 🫶🏾💕

#thingstodoindallas #dallasevents #thingstodoindallas #dallasinfluencer #community taken in Dallas, Texas by @thetoexperience

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Is it me or does maintaining friendships in your 30’s seem complicated?! This episode we are talking all things friendships, the good, the bad, the necessary! Popping off season 2 of Open Hart Conversations with @thetoexperience @betterfriendsociety ♥️ Full episode dropping this Sunday! YouTube: Open Hart Conversations by @thetoexperience

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