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The wild, the ritual, the play ✨️
Community Care • Doula • Ceremonial Rope • Sisterhood • Steaming
🌸 @womb.and.wildflowers
✨️1/2 of Earth & Ether

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My ratio of hustle to play to rest has been ENTIRELY disproportionate for far too long. Working for yourself is no joke, you are never off the clock.

I always have a ton of admin work to do, and when I am not with clients, have been prioritizing admin work over play and rest.

By the time I do schedule rest + play, I am often too tired to do anything meaningful with that time because I gave my all to work, so the rest + play is only half assed.

Reading, writing, making art, etc. feels like a waste of time when I know I could be using that time for admin, although my whole being knows how I desire it deeply.

But I have hit a point where I CAN NOT keep operating from that mindset. "I will rest + play once I finish xyz..." because I will never be finished! I am always growing and expanding, there will always be admin work.

I LOVE that I give so much to my clients and make sure I show up fully for then! Annnnd I deserve to show up that fully for myself in the same way!

So the excitement I have over this delivery of new to me books satisfies my yearning in a way nothing else can! I can feel it in my blood + bones that more nourishing rest + play will be more fruitful for me than all of the admin work ever could be ❤️

🪢+📷 the lovely @midnight_shibari who I cherish so fully ! Rope is one of my favorite ways to both experience rest and play (depending on the scene). by @touch.of.ivy

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5 days ago

It’s time to die once again!

Like the phoenix, the flames devour me, but this end is one of celebration, not sorrow. I know that on the other side of it, I will be reborn anew.

It’s said that doing the same thing over and over, yet expecting a different outcome, is the definition of insanity. I’m realizing that I’m struggling to get to my next phase in life because I’m not changing many of the things that are keeping me where I’m at.

To move forward in the way that I’m desiring, I must die + be reborn. I must allow the fire to take what can no longer come with me.

I’m realizing that in many of the areas where I feel stuck, I have played a role in keeping myself there because I’ve continued making choices that made sense for the version of me who made them, even when they no longer make sense for the person I’m becoming.

If my choices have helped shape where I am, then my choices can also help shape where I go next. I can continue to feel powerless within circumstances I have the ability to change, or I can choose to become an active participant in creating something different.

Navigating what that looks like is really uncomfortable. It feels more comfortable to suffer in the known than to grow in the unknown, but I’m choosing the latter, not just for myself, but to benefit all around me as well.

This process feels uncomfortable, + I carry a lot of fear around it, but now is the time!

It is not yet clear exactly what this looks. But I know many people will not be thrilled with the changes. Many have benefited from my self-sacrificial nature + that version of me does not survive this fire.

So buckle up or get off the ride, but the only way I’m going is forward.

📷 @thebodygnostic 🌹 by @touch.of.ivy

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14 days ago

Feeling incredibly internal. Yearning deeply for my own attention, my own desire. Cowering from the gaze of another like a vampire avoiding the sun.

Clients + family feel nourishing. Feeling summoned to withdrawal momentarily from most others. Discovering what it means to not only live in service to the other.

🌹⚡️

📷 the incredible @christophermoeller by @touch.of.ivy

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8 days ago

STEAL OUR CHALLENGE!

Aaron decided that we’re gonna do a week-long challenge, and I love the idea while simultaneously feeling VERY uncomfortable by it 😂 And I think many of you would benefit from it too, so I invite you to join!

Although I’ve come a long way, I’m still working through allowing myself to fully receive, whether that’s help, pleasure, etc. Giving is a lot easier + more comfortable for me, so Aaron has centered a challenge around that.

Every day for the next 7 days, I have to ask him to give to me for a minimum of 20 minutes each day. It has to be some form of pleasure or care, whether that’s spicy-related, a massage, him reading me a book, etc.

Another rule I’m not allowed to give in return for the WHOLE WEEK. If I break any of the rules, he said there will be consequences hehe. Part of me wants to break the rules out of curiosity + brattiness 😈 But I will not

The past two days he has solely given to me, so I thought that meant I only had 5 days left. Apparently not 😂 He informed me that the challenge starts TOMORROW, making this a total of 9 days of receiving.

And the reason I specifically have to ASK each day is because that makes it even harder for me.

I’m so nervous about this challenge because asking for care and then not being able to give it back feels incredibly difficult for me.

But what an angel he is for dreaming this up + offering it to me 🥹 And the fact that he is so excited about it is so heart warming!

So if receiving, asking for what you want, or allowing someone to care for you without immediately reciprocating makes you squirm a little too, I invite y’all to steal our challenge 🌹 by @touch.of.ivy

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16 days ago

Been feeling so antisocial, both in real life + on here. It has been a HUGE past few months, both joyful + painful. Feeling called to pour my heart and attention into my clients, home, and close relationships and let all else rest for a bit.

Excited to get back into hosting lots of community events after a short hiatus. But feeling the pull to do lots of internal work right now, and less external. Cocooning 🦋

But here are a few photos that make my heart smile ❤️

1 - @aaronsudo and I had the whimisical wedding of our dreams planned, officiated, and executed by two of the most magical beauties @adri.anahata + @von_hohenheim 📷 @redempressphotography

2 - Been taking lots of Ritual Rope clients out of @iris.aura.sanctuary and LOVING it

3 - Just some people in our home who make it feel even more homey @adri.anahata @von_hohenheim @loganblackacro @paul_opdyke @courtneyashare

4 - Wedding after-party snugs

5 - The cutest lil @thethroatsinger on the summer solstice at @waymeethomestead

6 - Lots of baby snuggles during my postpartum doula shifts

7 - More people that fill my heart @steffanitraskos @adri.anahata @loganblackacro @von_hohenheim @aaronsudo

8 - After teaching one of the classes from the sacred s3xu@lity series

9 - Just like this outfit hehe by @touch.of.ivy

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19 days ago

Ashes in the Open Feild: A Ballad of love and sacred devotion 💓 #marriage #partnership #wedding #foryou by @touch.of.ivy

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a month ago

Everyone, meet our new son, Coogie, the elderly + obese golden retriever ❤️

With Aaron’s dad passing earlier this week, we decided to give his best buddy of 12 years a new home with us. If you ever meet him, please give him all the cuddles + tell him he’s a good boy, because he is the biggest love bug!

This week has been crazy. We really weren’t expecting Aaron’s dad to go hang out in the spirit realm quite yet. Within a week he went from being a witty old man eating whoppers to reconnecting with his own dad on the other side.

Aaron + I got to be with him through so much of that transition, and one of the memories I’ll hold closest is sitting beside him singing him ceremony songs with Aaron as he journeyed out of this life. As heartbreaking as it was, having his last moments be a ceremony warms my heart so much.

The week we spent in + out of the hospital was one of the hardest we’ve had, and it has also made me look at my life differently. I’ve realized how much energy I give to things that really don’t fucking matter + how precious our time with the people we love actually is.

And holy shit, our people have shown up for us! We are TERRIBLE at asking for + receiving help, but you so many of you guys, without us asking, dropped off food, flowers + dog gifts on our porch, cleaned our house when we could only sit + cry, loved on the dogs so we could grieve, + are helping us tackle packing his dad's apartment.

And also all of the messages have been so beautiful, just haven't had capacity to answer (and my IG dms are banned for a month lol) but have been sending big energetic hugs! Thank you so much 🥲

Having this happen two weeks before our wedding is wild. We’re heartbroken he won’t physically be there, but I guess now he gets to stay for the afterparty 😂

And we get to keep loving a little piece of him through his very sweet fur baby! by @touch.of.ivy

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2 months ago

Throw back to our jungle themed ecstatic dance in March - we got a lil primal 🐾

Our next dance is this Sunday, Aug 2nd! The theme is EXPRESS! In honor of Leo season, we are encouraging guests to dress is ways that feel like a true expression of themselves! It is an opportunity to be "too much" and wear that outfit that sits in your closet just asking to be seen!

We are taking a bit of a break from our monthly ecstatic dances, so if you have been wanting to check one out - now is the time!

This one will be outside + family-friendly. Show up in whatever way feels authentic to you! Dance your heart out, just chill on the tree swing, jump on the trampoline, or anything in between!

More details + sign up in the link in my bio!

DJ - @itslaurenneuburger
Facilitator - @m.e.musicc / @wakeyourwaters
Hosts - myself + @aaronsudo by @touch.of.ivy

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3 months ago

One of the best experiences of 2026 so far has been using my vacation time to visit my ex, his wife, + their new baby in Asheville... story time!

I feel called to share because I think it is pretty common in our culture to hate your ex simply because they are your ex. And to hate all of your partner's exes. But there is another way!

Back in April/May, I visited my ex and his wife to come support their new family! I spent years praying for Brad to find his wife + have a child because I knew he would be an incredible husband + father! So being able to come care for his family was SUCH A GIFT to me!

I feel so blessed that Adina is a ridiculously badass, sweet, intelligent, and powerful woman who instantly accepted me as a sister! My time with them was so meaningful.

I got to experience baby wearing Clyde for his first concert + contact improv dancing with him at ecstatic dance. I got to babysit as mom + dad went house hunting - and was there the moment their offer got accepted! I cared for him so they could go on a romantic airbnb getaway!

Cried many times that weekend because what an honor to share my love in such a meaningful way! I can't imagine how much would be missing from my life if I treated Brad like a normal ex because society told me I should.

My heart is still so full from that weekend 🥰 by @touch.of.ivy

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3 months ago

We have decided to temporarily pause hosting community gatherings. We will continue to host the few remaining events scheduled (with exception to the Dixon's Violin party, read on).

We LOVE hosting! It is a passion + fuels us in so many ways. When we host, we pour our all into it. But we have found we have been over giving to the point where we don't have enough to give back to ourselves, and we are really feeling it. So we are going to take some time to do just that!

We haven't had time for self care, play, or keeping up with necessary adulting tasks. We both have been desiring strongly to become students again as well and really wanting time to advance our skills + crafts! We have decided to start pouring into ourselves in the ways we pour into community.

We will absolutely continue hosting once we feel we have capacity to do so! Already planted a seed to host a co-ed winter retreat, stay tuned! But we will not be adding more to our plate until we feel nourished first!

We are really sad to cancel our Dixon's Violin party, but if we are going to host, we want to give it our all and that event takes a lot of energy/time/capacity that we just don't have. There would be 100+ people attending at our home + that is a lot especially 2 weeks before our wedding.

So here is what we have coming up (many being collabs w/ amazing people) if you want to come hang before we hermit for a bit:

- July 22 Womb Reclamation pt. 2
- July 29 Psych3delic Discussion Panel + Potluck
- Aug 2 Express Ecstatic Dance
- Aug 16 Kink for Somatics & Trauma Healing
- Aug 19 Intentional Impact Workshop
- Aug 22 Nude Sisterhood Circle w/ Optional Photoshoot
- Sept 27 S3x Beyond Pleasure Lecture
- Oct 17th Temple Night

More details through the link in my bio!

Thank you for understanding! We are SO excited to see how much more amazing our offerings will be once we return from our hiatus!

Aaron will still be leading medicine ceremonies and I will still be taking one on one clients! Which is one of the reasons we are slowing down elsewhere - to make even more room for our clients! We have found our sessions to be extra potent lately and are excited to have more time to pour into them 🥰 by @touch.of.ivy

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3 months ago

✨ Our next Ecstatic Dance is Sunday, August 2nd! ✨

🌈 EXPRESS YOURSELF

A flavor + flair dance party and fashion show in honor of Leo season. ♌👑

Wear the fit you wanna wear. One that lets you move, breathe, dance, and fully embody your essence.
Wild, colorful, sparkly, fairy, cosmic, silky, soft, fierce, glamorous, playful, full spectrum self is invited.

The dance floor is your runway🤩

We’re so excited to welcome the amazing
DJ Psychedelic Babe (( @itslaurenneuburger )) back behind the decks to guide our sonic journey🎶

🌿 Outdoors at Earth & Ether // Peaceful Mountain Church
🌊 Facilitation @wakeyourwaters
👨‍👩‍👧 Family friendly
🌱 Substance free

💙 Dance, connect, and express yourself exactly as you are. The theme is simply an invitation to play, explore, and add a little extra flair if it lights you up. Most of all, come feeling comfortable, authentic, and fully you.

This will be our last dance for a little while as we take a pause through September, so let’s celebrate this summertime season together. 🌞✨

We can’t wait to move with you. 🌊 by @touch.of.ivy

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3 months ago

I love that one of my jobs is to get paid to help people feel loved, held, seen, important, and nurtured! Literally what I am made for 😭❤️

I feel like I lack of lot of the skills that make me "valuable" in the eyes of capitalism. But I am realizing so many of my skills are found in my heart's ability to love so expansively!

And I am so excited to have ritual rope be one of the ways I can share that! I guide people into platonic intimacy for a living?! Yes please!

Want to learn more? Reach out to see if this is something that would be supportive to you!

* Usually no photographs are involved, today is a special photoshoot collab. Usually my sessions are structured as a ceremony * by @touch.of.ivy

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3 months ago