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Rachel Rebecca Petrillo

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• Emmy Award winner & loser 🏆
• Director / Creative Director 🎬
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You can’t unring that bell.

Leave, baby girl—your entire life will get better.

For me?
Immediate health:
• Improved sleep
• Improved career
• Weight loss
• Elevated friendships
• Massive skin improvement
• Higher frequency

Easiest physical & spiritual GLOW UP.

I will never say “just leave.” Leaving an abusive man will never be easy. But you have to. The closer my energy got to his, the more life became limited. The further I got away, the more it opened up—and I believe that for you, too.

Man or woman, you might need to ask yourself some uncomfortable questions and get honest about why you’ve accepted what you never deserved. It’s heavy. But the truth is, you were likely primed by other predators long before you ever started dating abusers. That wasn’t your fault. And the good news is these people don’t get to stay in your life forever. You make the rules now. Healing, power, and real love, the kind that honors you, are all waiting for you, my love. taken in Los Angeles, California by @unstuckproject

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a year ago

I bought a little radio at a yard sale, yeah, a radio. I lived in the smallest town, Englewood, TN, and wasn’t allowed to go to school or listen to “secular” music. It felt like I’d never survive in the world if I didn’t try to know what other people knew, so I tuned that baby to the only station I could get a signal on, Sunny 92.3. And as a tiny 12-year-old weirdo, I pressed my ear to the speaker and wrote down lists, names of songs and artists I liked, and I hoped they’d matter, hoped I could assimilate.

So funny how that works. I wanted to fit in out of survival instincts, and then I quickly didn’t give a fuck. I no longer wanted to “fit in,” and I didn’t even want to “belong.” I wanted something worth belonging to.

In a beautiful turn of events, I wrote my own music. This one is called “Good Girl,” and I hope you like it. If you don’t, please tell me why in extreme detail. Would love to get my feelings hurt, if that’s even possible. : ) But truly, I bet if you’re a person, it might just resonate with you. I truly hope it does, that’s why we write, to feel, to help others feel.

What song makes you feel the most?

Produced by: @naebird.wav
Photo by: @churchill.morris
Hair by: @hairbyjazmeen taken in Los Angeles, California by @unstuckproject

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a year ago

As they say in the South, “I’ll be damned.” Just look at how much better life gets when you stop trying to make the wrong person the right person—or, in my case, literally move from LA to Denver so the wrong person no longer had access to trying to convince me they’re the right person. Cease and desist, baby. That’s all I’ll say on that matter : )

Just came here to talk to you. Misery, abuse, violence, chaos—that’s not your birthright. If life has those components right now, I’m not ever going to say something ridiculous like “just leave.” My heart is with you, knowing very well that there is no just. But you also aren’t stuck—at least not forever.

Whenever one path isn’t serving us, it’s a little wild to expect we’ll simply leave it, whether it’s a person, a job, a toxic mindset, or addiction, when we don’t even know where else to walk. It’s not magic. It’s certainly not easy. Leaving anything requires confidence. So what do you need to do to build that confidence and let it push you over the finish line?

Don’t stay out of fear. God / Spirit has better for you. You think you don’t have options? You have options.

It’s not even about replacing what was with something new. You can create something entirely new. Try new things. Change your routine. Make new friends. Level up in an area that comes more easily to you, sometimes that gives you the confidence to tackle what’s harder.

Pay attention to how a place, a person, your choices make you feel. Pay attention to what lights you up and brings you joy.

LISTEN TO YOURSELF. TRUST YOURSELF.

What’s a word you can think of right now that gives you strength? What’s one way you can envision yourself being that helps you dream of better? What do you see?

Would love to hear your thoughts in the comments. ✨ taken in Los Angeles, California by @unstuckproject

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a year ago

I wrote a song, I wrote a bunch of songs. I just wanted to feel alive again. I’ve never actually publicly posted my music here (aside from stories, those don’t stress me) I was too scared and I over thought it so hard.

Side note:
I stopped posting and writing anything for over a year because my film work was so public, and I suddenly didn’t know how to write like I use to. I was afraid of being judged.

I stopped posting and writing because the man I was dating controlled everything I did, to the point I knew if I wrote it would be a problem, if people commented it would be a problem. I was afraid he’d hurt me again if my post gave another reason to…so that’s fun.

Fuck fear. : ) if you’ve been around for a while I just wanted thank you. If you’re my friend in real life or online, I just want to thank you! Vulnerability isn’t for everyone, and I’m no longer sure of how I want to use this platform, but I’m silencing fear as much as I can and I hope you see my imperfect rollercoaster and know that everyone’s life is a little messy at times, a little awesome at times.

Is anything holding you back?
Is anyone holding you back?

When you feel fear, what do you think will happen?

I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments and if there’s one word that kicks your fear in the face, what is that for you?

For me it’s “worthy” even if you don’t like me I’m worthy to myself. Even if no one likes what I create, I’m still worthy.

“GOOD GIRL”

Produced by: @naebird.wav
Written by: Me and @mikeschiavomusic taken in Brooklyn, New York by @unstuckproject

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2 years ago

What do you do with your anger, your harsh words, your reaction rather than what could be your response?

Here’s the weird thing, anger is the emotion that sits on top of hurt / past trauma. Beneath your fierce anger is hurt. You think you’re so hard, but you’re wounded. (I make exception for spaces that require Justice)

We choose that emotion because it makes us feel protected…

We see anger as big and threatening but just barely, barely under that “strong” societally acceptable emotion is pain, is hurt. Not weakness, but hurt.
It is good to remember this when YOU are in your feelings, and it is good to remember this when others are in their feelings towards you.

Anger can feel empowering even when it’s not and it can feel very scary on the receiving end.

In each case there is a personal choice to soften, because anger even when justified often lacks self control.

How do you feel about your anger? Do you like it? Does it serve you in some spaces and not others? Do you sense the way it can hide what you’re really feeling at times? taken in Brooklyn, New York by @unstuckproject

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2 years ago

What cards were you dealt?

Status, beauty, wealth, education, all its opposites, somewhere between and our history; these are some of the cards we are dealt, the cards we obtain and those that give us a perceived value in which to trade goods and services. A three of hearts for my queen of diamonds? No thanks. That’s how we play, not even knowing the rest of the hand might be aces.

I’m not biggest fan of the Bible but somewhere in there it says “man looks at outward appearance, but god looks at the heart” and that has always made the glossy and shiny feel like they should be met with more discernment, and meanwhile the rough around the edges might be hiding so much real beauty and value just below the surface. Wade deeper than the shallow waters.

The cards you’re dealt vs the person you create yourself to be are often wildly different.
One is default, the other is choice and the second one is all that really matters because, you in your infinite power decide.

What are we racing to? 6 ft under is 6 ft under no matter how you get there, why not focus on how to give, how to love, how to truly connect?
Have your “success,” according to external standards, my work often lives there too, and yet the achievement can lead to greater things, more meaningful things, but don’t forget that integrity, and purpose must be the neck that guides you, otherwise all the success will be chasing the wind. You in your infinite power decide.

📸 @madofmoons
📸 @cult.class taken in Los Angeles, California by @unstuckproject

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3 years ago

In the spirit of shaking things up, indulge me here, because even if you feel a touch off your game, or just tired, because doing everything can be pretty tiring, you can still take a bit of time to inspire yourself in ways that don’t ask the world of you and maybe just maybe you’ll feel happier in the moment and remember what makes you, you, what makes you feel alive.

I suppose I’d say don’t be afraid to play. What does play look like to you?

& IF YOU FEEL HELPLESS, HELP SOMEONE.

- Is there something, just one thing that when you do it, you just wouldn’t want to be anywhere else? -

Image by: @pixie_jamie_ann @remembermephotos taken in Skid Row, Los Angeles by @unstuckproject

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3 years ago

It’s Barbie’s moment right now, so here I am with my Barbie jeep : ) but I’m curious about how this little doll impacted you if at all? I look at it now and see a somewhat archaic concept of “ultimate femininity,” and ultimately given that childhood often impacts the rest of our lives and playing pretend with toys and dolls were some of the FIRST STORIES WE EVER WROTE as kids, I would imagine many of the first ideas of who we’d like to be or “should”be were formed in these moments.
Kinda wild when I think about it like that.

I think Barbie was meant to be aspirational in a lot of ways, giving girls, a body, hair, face and a career to aspire to, which likely subconsciously shaped what we thought would make us “good enough.” Maybe it’s not that deep for everyone, but it is for a lot of us. ✨I’m curious about how playing pretend shaped you, what toys and characters brought out the most imagination in you? ✨

Side note: a personal hero of mine is the woman who helped to facilitate bringing about a more healthy shape to Barbie, and she’s a literal pioneer in so many ways!!
@imjessweiner taken in Los Angeles, California by @unstuckproject

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3 years ago

I cheer for the freedom of all not just the United States of America.
May everyone be treated with dignity, may everyone be treated fairly.

Liberty and Justice for ALL. taken in Marina del Rey Beach by @unstuckproject

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3 years ago

It’s 1974 and your mom’s going out for a night on the town -

Do you know about the Ho’oponopono Prayer for Forgiveness, Healing and Making Things Right?

The Ho’oponopono Prayer

There are four forces at work in this prayer: repentance, forgiveness, gratitude, and love. These are reflected in the four phrases that make up the prayer.

The phrases, which you can repeat in any order, silently to yourself or out loud, are:

I am sorry.
(Please) Forgive me.
Thank you.
I love you.

In this prayer be patient and accepting of yourself, let it take its time, say it several times and feel it become easier and settle into your body in a way that feels safe and soft. taken in Fresno, California by @unstuckproject

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3 years ago

MAKE YOUR OWN “NORMAL”

I don’t care what you do as long as you don’t intentionally cause harm to people, I don’t care if you’re like me, not like me, I just think it’s nice when you can unapologetically be yourself.

It’s ok if not everyone likes you, in fact it’s better. The boldness required to learn who you are and which parts of you are so valuable that you will not part with them is likely one of, if not the most important foundation you can create for yourself.

What parts of you do you absolutely love and refuse to part with or compromise ? taken in Denver, Colorado by @unstuckproject

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3 years ago

Sometimes they let me play with the cool kids. #airmovie #mbusa

HOW DO YOU WANT TO BE REMEMBERED? taken in Regency Village Theater by @unstuckproject

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3 years ago