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Dr. Nancy Boksenbaum | Psychologist | Intuitive

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The Girl Gang - an alternative to Accommodation Culture.
People pleasing is a euphemism for what women do to not only belong, but to survive.

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How often do you catch yourself daydreaming about other people…

‘what’s going on with her?’

‘what do they think of me?’

‘I wish I had said….’

I don’t teach mindfulness for the zen. I teach it to help you claim a mind of your own by teaching you to claim your attention with intention.

Stop giving your mental real estate & your energy away.

Welcome to the Girl Gang.

Follow and share.

I’m happy you are here, ♥️

Dr. Nancy

#thegirlgang #claimyourattention #mindfulness #highachievingwomen #therapistsofinstagram by @withdrnancy_

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Copy advice I refuse to take:

Write for a third-grade reading level.
Assume the attention span of a goldfish.
Dumb it down.

Nah. Not here.

Here. Knowledge is power.

Welcome to the Girl Gang.

♥️ Dr. Nancy

#thegirlgang #selftrust #accommodationculture #highachievingwomen #therapistofinstagram by @withdrnancy_

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18 days ago

The first sign a client will notice is her stomach clenches when she is in a state of accommodation. She then will begin to notice her over explaining, over doing, offering an olive branch when she’s done nothing wrong.

It’s not her fault. A woman is socialized to soften rough edges.

If you feel a chronic tightness in your solar plexus, it’s not your fault either.

As a Clinical Psychologist, I am on IG to help women find freedom from the pattern of ‘making nice’.

First step…

take 5 long, slow deep breaths…

allowing your diaphragm to expand on the exhale,

your belly to soften on the exhale,

slowly, gently…

Catch Your Breath - a free 7 day mindfulness program in bio is a gift from me to you.

And, comment below: Free to be ❤️

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#mindfulmama #mindfulmoments #somatichealing #healingfromwithin #healingprocess #sensefulness #highlysensitiveperson #anxietytips #emotionalresilience #emotionalregulation #embodiment #selfmastery #womenempoweringwomen
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#embodiedwoman #emotionalresilience #innerwork #peoplepleaser #peoplepleasing #anxietyproblems
#mindfulbreathing #anxietyrecovery #deepbreaths #swifters by @withdrnancy_

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It was never you. It is the system that taught women to subtly self-erase.

But not us. Not you. Not now.

You’re excited to see what is ahead, knowing what you’re leaving behind.

Which slide stopped you? Tell me why, in your own words.

Welcome to the Girl Gang,

I am happy you are here, ♥️ Dr. Nancy

#SelfTrust #WomensMentalHealth #AccommodationCulture #TherapistsOfInstagram by @withdrnancy_

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7 days ago

you are not alone.

#survivors #survivorspeaks #iamjanedoe #survivorssupportingsurvivors #thegirlgang by @withdrnancy_

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12 days ago

Here’s why.

Roughly one in four undergraduate women say they’ve experienced nonconsensual se*ual contact in college, and most of them never report it.

We know this. So why does every new case feel like a shock?

There’s a name for it: the Vertical Split. It’s the gap between what we know and what we’re not ready to know. It isn’t denial. It’s a wall we build on purpose, because fully knowing would be too much to feel AND it would ask us to do something.

As a society, we live on both sides of that wall. We know how common gra*e is, and we act surprised every time. We rage and then we go back to normal.

This is Accommodation Culture - the system that rewards women for keeping the peace at their own expense.

It teaches a young woman to doubt what happened to her and smooth it over. Then, it treats her smoothing it over as proof that nothing happened.

Liberation starts when we stop being surprised. We name what we already know, and don’t look away.

Dr. Nancy

#AccommodationCulture #CampusSexualAssault #Cornell #posttraumaticgrowth #TheGirlGang by @withdrnancy_

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13 days ago

Full moon is rising. FEEL everything and release into flow - create from there.

Welcome to the Girl Gang,

I’m happy you’re here.
♥️ Dr. Nancy

#visionaries #fullmoonenergy #harvestmoon #therapistofinstagram #letgo by @withdrnancy_

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17 days ago

The vision is there for a reason.

Welcome to the Girl Gang.

I’m happy you’re here.
♥️ Dr. Nancy

#thegirlgang #ambitiouswomen #creativeliving #therapistofinstagram #peoplepleasernomore by @withdrnancy_

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Competition isn’t in itself a bad thing. It’s when it’s motivated by scarcity - when you win, I lose. Zero sum.

Creativity is not a zero sum game. It’s the opposite. Being with creative people enhances your creativity. It’s synergy.

This is why the Girl Gang - a creative collective…

where women who are ready to ‘shed the shoulds’ of who they thought they had to be, make space for who they truly are.

Life is a creative act. Let’s create - together.

Details coming soon!!! 🎉🎉🎉

I’m happy you’re here.

♥️ Dr. Nancy

#thegirlgang #therapistofinstagram #collaborate #creativeact #strongertogether❤️ by @withdrnancy_

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19 days ago

After thirty years as a therapist, this is how I know a woman has entered the Point of Change. ⬆️

I’m so happy you’re here.
♥️ Dr. Nancy

NOT AI

#selftrust #thegirlgang #feelyourfeelings #highachievingwomen #therapistofinstagram by @withdrnancy_

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19 days ago

After a few years in therapy, a woman will look me straight in the eyes and say, “I had no idea I had unwittingly put myself in the passenger seat.”

“And now that I realize it, I want full agency in my work, my relationships, my whole life.”

“It wasn’t until I took hold of the wheel with intention that everything changed.”
Welcome to The Girl Gang, where we call out the patterns embedded in the Accommodation Culture.

I’m happy you’re here,
♥️ Dr. Nancy

All therapy notes and clinical quotes are fictionalized. Instagram is not therapy and I’m not your therapist because if you were, you wouldn’t be following me.

#AccommodationCulture #TheGir|Gang
#SelfTrust #WomensMentalHealth
#TherapistsOfInstagram by @withdrnancy_

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21 days ago

Telling the truth together not only reveals but affirms we are not alone, we were never alone. And knowing this deep in your bones solidifies the power that is your birthright.

I’ve had the fortunate experience of sitting with other women for decades one on one. And, now I want to share the power of deep listening, deep expressing & deep sharing with you.

The Girl Gang. We are women. We are invincible. We are one.

Happy you’re here,
♥️Dr. Nancy

#thegirlgang #strongertogether #youarenotalone❤️ #gloriasteinem #2026 by @withdrnancy_

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