So here we go. This one is for our community of men. Fathers. Husbands. Brothers. Coaches. Teachers. Friends. Mentors. Men raising boys and men who simply have men in their lives. Men have enormous power to shape what other men tolerate, what boys learn, and what their sons grow up believing ‘being a man’ requires.
We want young men who stumble onto this post to see hundreds of men showing them what good men look like.
Tag the good men so they know we need their voice 💔
What does consent mean in your house? What are you teaching your sons about the girl at the party who is too intoxicated to consent? What do you expect them to do when a friend says something degrading about a woman in a group chat? What does being a good man require when another man is doing something wrong? Will they speak up even when it costs them social currency? Will they check on her? Will they challenge their friends?
And above all, will they understand that protecting a friend from the consequences of his behavior is not loyalty?
We know there are so many incredible men raising thoughtful, respectful boys and having these conversations already. We want those men louder right now.
Tell us what you’re teaching your sons. Tell us what you wish someone had taught you. Tell us what you believe men offer women and, just as importantly, what men offer each other.
Good men, we need you more than ever right now.
With love and sadness and hope,
Annje
17 days agokylerdaron
Hold other men accountable for bigotry, intolerance, discrimination, violations of personal space and trust, and violence, especially in spaces where it is tolerated or encouraged. Promote equality, safety, health, and diversity. Never assume you’re the smartest in the room and always be the first to admit you were wrong and can learn to be better.
17 days agoyessers
Am literally crying reading all the comments 🫶🏼🥹 I know a lot of us needed to see this
17 days agosoiltosoulusa
I wish someone had taught me that it’s ok to slow down and check in verbally. Sometimes women can feel pressured into doing things they don’t want to, even if they’re not communicating verbally. I’ve caused harm to people I love by taking things too quickly or relying on a woman to tell me no. I know now that it’s my job to check in often and if it’s not a full yes, then it’s a no. There’s no grey area. Men, we can do better at this. I’m her to do my part and to encourage other men to do the same.
17 days agochristinawardboise
I have a lot of good men in my life. ❤️Leading by example. @ward_lane @rd1moore @kylekylemoore Thank you @micahgoldengrant for sharing ☝️you are a great dad
18 days agodolvett
I’ve taught my son to respect others the way he wants to be respected. To more importantly move with a code of honor. Honor your word, your body, your mind. Which means to respect all 3. I’ve been so lucky to have a son who still to this day comes to me for advice, and insight. I don’t take it for granted. There is no better feeling than to watch my son open the door for his girlfriend. Check in on his mom ( just because)! I love it
18 days agodthrash
I live under a rock (well really, in the middle of a desert) so I'm just learning of what's going on in terms of Cornell. But, my job as a father is to set an example for my son on how to treat everyone he comes in contact with. We as a family believe to love thy neighbor as yourself and we are a representation of Christ. May not always agree with your neighbor, but show love, respect and kindness. I've also failed at being the best example for my son more times than I'd like to admit. But I know, I'm trying and I'd want my son to have an understanding that EVEN when he messes up, he can choose to continue to strive for greatness as a man.
18 days agothe_pre_mack_daddy
Be nice. Be kind. Be polite. Hold the door open. Say Thank You. Have positive intention. Smile at people. Don’t be afraid to apologize. Make an effort. Know you can’t get everything right, and that’s ok. Love unconditionally.
18 days agomicahgoldengrant
I am teaching my boy to care for others the same way he wants to be cared for. To be somebody who has the courage to do the right thing, even when it's not what his peers are doing. And to seek to understand other peoples' plights so that he may grow into somebody who understands that empathy = strength. Thank you for this @skinowl 💟
18 days agolisalambert5
This is beyond important. It begins at the beginning and it’s important to remember that the most effective lessons are caught not taught. Our children learn from what they witness. Men must live the life they want their sons to manifest.
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